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[DesertWind]

janet_lee88:

Hi Ladies, Sorry to say this, but I don't know how to manja or teh teh...my hair sure stand man.

Hello! Me too! I am definitely not the teh type! Let me see what did I do to \"fool\" my hubby during our courtship days? Oh ya...I remembered speaking to him in a squeaky Mickey Mouse voice to try to teh!

Later on after marriage, sometimes I was :x and :frustrated: and the commando in me came out! So there were times I raised my voice at him and he was really unhappy about it. He said I no longer talk to him nicely and gently!

So now I try my darnest to speak gently and softly to him lor even if it :sick: me!

[pecalis]

DesertWind:

So now I try my darnest to speak gently and softly to him lor even if it :sick: me!

I can identify. Really makes me laugh till I tear!

[schweppes]

After reading all these posts and sharings on how to pamper and sayang our men, I thought I'd better do my part. Tried to do my spot of \"teh-ing\" and \"mahjah-ing\" with my man earlier this evening. This is what happened:


Act I
Enter Dh from front entrance. Just arrived home from work.

Wifey (that's me :boogie: ) greeted him at the door and proceeded to give him a hug hug kiss kiss. :hugs:

Wifey: Hi, darling. How's your day today? :love:

Dh: (shocked and stunned into silence) :shock:

Dh: Ok, what happened today? What did you do? Who's in trouble now? :idea:

Wifey: (giving a hurt look)

Wifey: Aiyoh... nothing happened lah. Can't I give call my husband \"darling\" :?

Dh: Eh... I think better not. You're making me nervous :scared:

Wifey: Alamak, why nervous? :scratchhead:

Dh: Because suddenly u so nice to me

Wifey: So, how do u want me to call you? :idea:

Dh: Like how you always do, (and speaking in loud voice to demo) \"OI!!\". I like it better than way. Then I know that's the real you

Act II
Wifey: (stunned and shocked into silence)
Wifey: :slapshead: :faint:

Narrator
So much for the teh-ing and the manja-ing. Looks like different strokes for different folks. :roll:

Guess the joy and the best part is to discover what turns your husband on. :love: Have fun rediscovering the romance :dancing:

:celebrate:

[duriz]

3Boys:

A little bit of manja doesn't hurt

Yalah Daddy 3Boys.
Like most mummies have reiterated.
Not all women manja (like your DW).
And not all men respond to manja (the way you do).

It depends on the couple and what \"magic\" works for them.

My DH will buy things that I like to eat i.e. chocs or oysters *o0o0oh*
Then tell me softly \"let baby sleep early tonight\".
Later that night, when I'm nursing DD, I'd tell her \"meimei faster sleep!?!\"

[janet88]

I don't peel prawns for hubby...neither do I manja in a voice that will make hair stand. :rotflmao: Instead my hubby peels prawns for me to get a very gratifying and appreciative THANKS DEAR.


Anyway, I try to talk nicely to my hubby but when I raise my voice, it's not bcos I'm angry but stressed due to exams or the kids...then he will do what he has to do - yell at them.

[Funz]

Alamak this greeting at the door thing. DH brought it up a few times, complaining that no one welcomes him at the door when he is home. At the peak of my frustration, I told him to get a dog.


Ok, it is not that he comes home to indifference. When he arrives home, it is usually after all of us, we have already settled into our routine, kids with their toys or TV or school work, me with my work or my book or sometimes, we are in the middle of dinner. We greet him from wherever we are, you know, like \"Hi darling, how's your day.\" without breaking the momentum of what we are doing. I don't see why we should drop whatever we are doing to run to the door to say hello to him, everyday.

What is this thing about wifey and children running to the door the welcome you home? Need to fetch you your slippers and pour you a drink as well? That happens in reel family, not real family.

And he wants me to show appreciation to him for his effort in coming home to have dinner with us. For this, I just stared bug eyed at him. I am suppose to say thank you for THAT?!?!?!?

Ok better stop or else I will be ranting non-stop.

On the whole, yah, I agree, we need to tell our partners we care and we appreciate them. Some, like me, need to say it more and with more aplomb, ya know, like with banners and big band playing.

[janet88]

Funz:

Alamak this greeting at the door thing. DH brought it up a few times, complaining that no one welcomes him at the door when he is home. At the peak of my frustration, I told him to get a dog.


Ok, it is not that he comes home to indifference. When he arrives home, it is usually after all of us, we have already settled into our routine, kids with their toys or TV or school work, me with my work or my book or sometimes, we are in the middle of dinner. We greet him from wherever we are, you know, like \"Hi darling, how's your day.\" without breaking the momentum of what we are doing. I don't see why we should drop whatever we are doing to run to the door to say hello to him, everyday.

What is this thing about wifey and children running to the door the welcome you home? Need to fetch you your slippers and pour you a drink as well? That happens in reel family, not real family.

And he wants me to show appreciation to him for his effort in coming home to have dinner with us. For this, I just stared bug eyed at him. I am suppose to say thank you for THAT?!?!?!?

I don't have the habit of greeting hubby at the door when he returns. Like what you mentioned, only REEL families on TV do that. If he is expecting slippers and someone to take his bag at the door, I suggest you get a maid. My kids do know when he returns bcos of the sound of the door opening and the keys...and he is greeted with 'Hello daddy'

[autumnbronze]

schweppes:

Guess the joy and the best part is to discover what turns your husband on. :love: Have fun rediscovering the romance :dancing:

:celebrate:

I second that, Schweppes :hi5:

[Funz]

janet_lee88:

I don't have the habit of greeting hubby at the door when he returns. Like what you mentioned, only REEL families on TV do that. If he is expecting slippers and someone to take his bag at the door, I suggest you get a maid. My kids do know when he returns bcos of the sound of the door opening and the keys...and he is greeted with 'Hello daddy'

We have a maid. And DD will usually run to the door and greet him and will be telling him a million and one things which will lead to him scolding her, telling her to let him put his stuff down first. His issue is mainly with me. He wants me to drop whatever I am doing and be the one greeting him at the door.

[schweppes]

Funz:

Alamak this greeting at the door thing. DH brought it up a few times, complaining that no one welcomes him at the door when he is home. At the peak of my frustration, I told him to get a dog.

:rotflmao:

sori Funz. Shouldn't be laughing actually but u so funny!!