In-law problems?

[duriz]

qizai:

My own story:

Good to hear another side of the story in our ever-growing in-law saga/thread.

My best wishes to you and your DW, qizai.
Your fighting spirits are commendable.
Take good care of eachother and your children.

Sigh, her very own mother

[duriz]

buds:

Goreng Pisang Panas refers to HOT BANANA FRITTERS.

And this one banana is hot from the wok.
CAUTION... beware of scalding.

Watch, hot mama alert :celebrate:

[janet88]

I love goreng pisang leh.

[Sun_2010]

buds:

If one stays far away, and in Singapore's dot.. (i mean how far away

is far away right?) :roll:

To most of us , As long as ILs are in this planet it is a tad too close for comfort

buds:

Regardless of how my ILs treat me..... .

Did some one tell u that u r a saint :roll:
Time to be human and take care of yourself. You owe it yourself.
Hope things go more positive for you.

buds:

When hate sinks in, i'm afraid it is gonna be one helluva Jekyll that is gonna come out... .

U r right , when hate sinks in it leaves a desctruction behind; not just to those around you , but including you...

I have been thru this depressing soul numbing journey - when life sorta loses its meaning because u are drained of all the goodness within... when u feel all used by people who are supposed to love u; when u are trying so hard for them and u get this in return???

Things changed for the better for me, hope you can move on too with little damage.

buds:

this one banana is hot from the wok.

I like banana with cream please. :imcool:
So chill buds...

[minnie2004]

Sun_2010:

I have been thru this depressing soul numbing journey - when life sorta loses its meaning because u are drained of all the goodness within... when u feel all used by people who are supposed to love u; when u are trying so hard for them and u get this in return???

I've been thru this stage too. Was depressed for a whole year and saw my health going down the drain. I developed irritable bowel syndrome and had painful menses and ended up doing a minor surgery. After that, I just ignore all MIL's sh*t and don't give her face anymore. Was stupid enough to hope that she would treat me as her own daughter. Once I found out what kind of person she is, it's just not worth sacrificing my health for it anymore.

[minnie2004]

qizai:

All visits to their home on weekends are made to be guilt-invocation sessions, with words like \"Your dad worked so hard last time, it's all to give you a good education\" etc...

Hi qizai, I kind of understand where your PIL are coming from. After spending $$ on educating their daughters, they become SAHM earning nothing. Although for our generation, we don't expect our kids to support us when we are old, our parents' generation still has that kind of mentality. But I do agree they shouldn't have spent your hard-earned money for luxurious holidays with their youngest one.

My parents are also a bit disappointed when I quit my job to become an SAHM. They thought I've wasted all my education. It's not so much that they're scared I can't support them as I still send allowance to them every month, it's more that they feel I should have my own career instead of relying on my husband too much. They think men are not reliable.

Unlike you, my DH is not willing to support my parents at all as he thinks they're not his parents (despite the fact that I gave up my job for the sake of our kids). Sometime he would ask me where the money I sent my parents comes from, I tell him it's from my own investments. Since he knows I have a long-term stock portfolio which generates nice dividends, he can't say anything

Maybe due to the same blood flowing in their veins, his brother also has the same mentality - when his wife's parents' business was facing liquidity problems, he refused to help them despite having a high-flying career. His wife, on the other hand, can't help her own parents as she has no income being an SAHM, despite having a master's degree

[Mrs Ang]

janet_lee88:

I love goreng pisang leh.

Me too :lol:

[autumnbronze]

buds:

The softie banana has turned goreng pisang panas over 10 yrs... hawt

awrite... and soooo preggie too... the hormones might just do all the
bitchin...

Goreng Pisang Panas refers to HOT BANANA FRITTERS.
And this one banana is hot from the wok.

CAUTION... beware of scalding.

Whoa!!!!!! can feel the sssssssssssssssssssssizzle -ing heat emanating :celebrate:

Good to 'see' you feeling perky and chirpy. Really hope the tide is in your favour now.

[hquek]

minnie2004:

Unlike you, my DH is not willing to support my parents at all as he thinks they're not his parents (despite the fact that I gave up my job for the sake of our kids). Sometime he would ask me where the money I sent my parents comes from, I tell him it's from my own investments. Since he knows I have a long-term stock portfolio which generates nice dividends, he can't say anything


Maybe due to the same blood flowing in their veins, his brother also has the same mentality - when his wife's parents' business was facing liquidity problems, he refused to help them despite having a high-flying career. His wife, on the other hand, can't help her own parents as she has no income being an SAHM, despite having a master's degree

Sorry minnie2004, but I feel a bit against this mentality. Your parents are his 'half parents' and grandparents to your kids. Thought we should still give some allowance whether they need it or not, it's a gesture of feel - they are not some distant uncle/auntie with whom there are no ties.

Imagine if such persons only have gals. Next time, does it mean that once married, really out of the door? and your gals won't have to provide for parents?

My hubby will compare what I give to my parents vs what he give to his - but then I will remind him that they gave up their time and put in loads of effort to bring up our kids. He'll tiam tiam after that.

[janet88]

Hi hquek,

My hubby knows that his parents will never be able nor willing to give up their time and effort for our kids…in the first place, they just don’t bother.