In-law problems?
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wow, i agree all with qizai!
to add on:
1) mil thinks her son is shouldering all the financial responsibilities even tho her dil is wkg and contributing
2) even if she is stayg is her married son’s house, she thinks the house is HER hse, her grandchildren are her KIDS, she is the MOTHER, not the grandmother, she brings over her own pots, pans etc without asking, thinks she is the head of the kitchen n household, thinks dil are the 2nd class citizen
3) cares only for her son (esp eldest son) and grandchildren only. not dil.
care for dil is just obligatory and for show -
oh yes, talking abt salt.
they not only add salt to the food, they also say they ‘eat salt more than we eat rice’. haha. how true! -
24hr-mum:
Yeah, she thinks the son is the SOLE owner...and she wants the keys to the house too. That will NEVER happen. She once asked and I pretended not to hear.to add on:
1) mil thinks her son is shouldering all the financial responsibilities even tho her dil is wkg and contributing
2) even if she is stayg is her married son's house, she thinks the house is HER hse, her grandchildren are her KIDS, she is the MOTHER, not the grandmother, she brings over her own pots, pans etc without asking, thinks she is the head of the kitchen n household, thinks dil are the 2nd class citizen
3) cares only for her son (esp eldest son) and grandchildren only. not dil.
care for dil is just obligatory and for show
Caring or pretending to care for her DIL in front of her sons. Behind their backs, the HORNS appear. -
Had to speak to MIL and listen to those fake drama on Xmas eve..sian...only good thing is we are very far away from her, and spared the actual drama, and dinner bill too....
Merry Xmas to all! :celebrate: -
auntieM/24hr-mum,
I cannot handle them…nor understand how their brain works.
Ok, I agree they have eaten salt more than we have eaten rice. But putting that aside, I really cannot tolerate the endless drama…the faking of concern in front of their sons and the way they 2 head.
Very very sian. -
they literally ate more salt than we ate rice, but they forgot that salt is bad for health, haha!
old era basically clash with new era.
the difference is irreconcible…
a square peg in a round hole…
its like a vegetarian living with a meat-eater. how to reconcile? -
24hr-mum:
Not possible of course...it's not that we cannot live with her, but it's the reverse. Wherever she goes, she will create problems.they literally ate more salt than we ate rice, but they forgot that salt is bad for health, haha!
old era basically clash with new era.
the difference is irreconcible........
a square peg in a round hole.....
its like a vegetarian living with a meat-eater. how to reconcile?
In her bid to win favour with grandchildren and sons, she will refuse to acknowledge things that are wrong. :x :roll: -
they hv strong sense of insecurity. whole mind is only abt winning favor frm sons and grandchildren
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Thanks, janet_lee88, growie and 24hr-mum for your comments!
Nobody enters marriage wanting to live life grappling with these issues, everybody wants their marriage to be lovey-dovey and passionate.
But unfortunately for many ladies, and the occasional bloke like me, in-law issues come in various annoying shapes and sizes.
Instead of waiting for that person to die, which could be at least another 20 years or so, we have to make those issues as minor as possible, instead of letting it dominate our lives.
To be as minor as possible, maybe a good way would be treating the problem like a neighbour's dog pooing at ur doorstep, or an irksome cockroach hiding under the cabinet, or the lizard on the wall that you cannot seem to chase away.
As long as we do not have to deal with them everyday, our focus should be on beautiful things in our life, not the ugly ones.
Well, hope I don't come across as too mean in saying all these, but if you never have a mean MIL in your life, then a good way to get the feel is to imagine a situation where you have to face a mean colleague/boss in a job that you can never quit for the next 30 years.
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u r talkg abt not hvg to face mil everyday.
for me few years ago, i had to face my mil 24/7 for 6 yrs…it was super depressing…no one will understand unless they had stayed wif one like that
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