Different religion

[cluelessmom]

insider:

I think for my this daughter, I can sort of expect her to be able to analyse instead of taking any teachings in a literal sense and to surrender herself with childlike innocence without any questioning. She will have to find herself a suitable church that preaches meaningfully if she wants to be a Christian in the later part of her life... If she so chooses to follow blindly, then so be it as by then she is no longer really a child. I really do expect my kids to be thinking individuals who dare to question even religious leaders, be it a pastor or a monk...

This is wat I hope for my dd as well :celebrate: I have long delayed disussion on the topic of religion with her until she recently had an expressed interest on the subject .... Wondering if u had any recommendation for a very basic easy-to-comprehend buddhist literature tat captures the essence of Buddhism?

[Busymom]

insider:

The book is雪中足迹:圣严法师自传(the original of this book is in English – “Footprints in the Snow”)。圣严法师is a very respected monk in Taiwan who passed away last year. I find the book very easy to read (like a story)

Thanks, insider, for the recommendation of the book. I've been looking for books on Buddhism that is easy to understand, but no success so far. Will look for this book and see if it is available to buy online.

[cluelessmom]

Hi insider, I really appreciate the time and effort u took in making the reply to my query and sharing wif me ur perspective and understanding of the religion :thankyou:


I always find it hard to broach the subject of religion wif my dd as I feel tat I have so little knowledge of them.......esp for Buddhism, cuz it can be quite cheem.....I think i dun have the 慧根 la...hahaha.. wonder if I can find the book “Footprints in the Snow” in the local bookstores... nevertheless, tks so much, u have already answered much more than u need to :love:

[adhdadhd]

cluelessmom:

Hi insider, I really appreciate the time and effort u took in making the reply to my query and sharing wif me ur perspective and understanding of the religion :thankyou:


I always find it hard to broach the subject of religion wif my dd as I feel tat I have so little knowledge of them.......esp for Buddhism, cuz it can be quite cheem.....I think i dun have the 慧根 la...hahaha.. wonder if I can find the book “Footprints in the Snow” in the local bookstores... nevertheless, tks so much, u have already answered much more than u need to :love:

Buddhism not cheem la, it started with Love, kindness and Compassion, 深信因果will do. Hard part is to practise Great Tolerance

[CONFUSEDRE]

Me and my hb are of different religions. He believed in "Tian Dao" and i’m a buddhist. We can’t get along with one another and we’ve been quarrelling over his religion. He is super staunch and have been frequently going to his so called "fotang" and i find that he is already 走火入魔！ I feel that he’s neglecting our kids. Weekends are our family times and i find it very precious but instead, he’ll usually spend time at his fotang ! It seems to me that they’re not praying but simply getting more pple to join them "Qiu Tao". They’ll pester pple to follow thie religion. Be it Malay, Indian etc… I wonder if there’s anyone here who are the same religion as my hb. Are you all behaving the same as them ???

[mathsparks]

insider:

Chance upon this little E-book which I find is quite useful to teach our kids how to 'agree to disagree' when facing proselytism...


http://conversion.buddhists.sg/

PS: My daughter really gets annoyed when her schoolmates talk 'aggressively' about their religion and many times I ask her to keep her cool and try to imagine how come they can be so passionate about their belief. This E-book will come in handy for her...

Thank you so much for the link, insider. My girl has been facing the same issue since her sec school days. I had this problem of fending off such schoolmates during my schooldays too. And soon, I'm quite sure my boy will face the same annoyance. Will get them to read the ebook.

[daisyt]

thanks insider, this little E-book is very useful and informative. Thanks a lot! :celebrate:

[tree nymph]

CONFUSEDRE:

Me and my hb are of different religions. He believed in \"Tian Dao\" and i'm a buddhist. We can't get along with one another and we've been quarrelling over his religion. He is super staunch and have been frequently going to his so called \"fotang\" and i find that he is already 走火入魔！ I feel that he's neglecting our kids. Weekends are our family times and i find it very precious but instead, he'll usually spend time at his fotang ! It seems to me that they're not praying but simply getting more pple to join them \"Qiu Tao\". They'll pester pple to follow thie religion. Be it Malay, Indian etc.... I wonder if there's anyone here who are the same religion as my hb. Are you all behaving the same as them ???

cool it cool it!

can you talk to him, calmly and tell him that his kids also need him, so he should spend some time with his kids apart from going to fotang? maybe have a good division of the time and things maybe better?

think about your dating days and how is it that your different religion didn't stop you from getting married.

[tree nymph]

Insider,


I like this 2 points:

1. Listen to the other person with respect and with an open heart.

2. Understand that he thinks he is trying to benefit us through his behaviour, even if we may not feel this is the case.

If only the other religion who is activity soliciting understands this too!

[jedamum]

i thought by marrying a muslim gal, the son have to take on her religion? no?


parents not acknowledging their kid’s future partner due to difference in religion may not only be mainly a religious issue. if all parents are supposed to give ‘unconditional love’, why are there parents rejecting their kid’s future partner based on:-
- same gender
- different race
- one is a single parent
- great difference in age
- difference in social background

etc etc etc.