Hoarding...
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Funz, talking about clearing old cloths, another headache ! Even those too small, cannot wear, my girl would not want to throw. She would say, this one has sentimental value, that one is very comfortable ...
Think about it, I have a yellow dress my mum bought for me for my 12th years old birthday celebration. I wore once only and my mum kept till now. When my girl was 10yos, I took it out and made her wear to take a photo but it was already seemed too short for her. By the age of 12, she totally could not fit in.
Now the dress is still in my mum's wardrobe, she says, keep for my daughter's daughter :shock: -
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Thats very sweet .... tiny cloths .... and you realise your children are growing very fast ...I still have my kids' first dress / first shirt with me.
At times when I look at these tiny clothes, I maybe swamped with very powerful emotions that can bring tears to eyes.
Ya...hoarders are more sentimental...
My mum loves to knit and she knitted dress, socks, hats when my girl was small and she still keep them. She also keep my girl's a few toys. If not for her to keep, I would have thrown away. -
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Yup yup... that's me... :lol:
I thot usually will be husband throws and wife picking from behind...
DH is a super neat freak.. not only neat but clean too... until this day, he insist to mop the floor by going down on his knees and cleaning it with a piece of cloth :roll: i guess this runs in his family.. cos i see his dad do it, his sis insists the maid do the same way too... :idea:
I brought abt 5 boxes of stuff into our house from my mum's place.. all the old school magazines, some old stickers ( i love stickers when i was young
), etc. I told him i would sort it out \"when i hv time\" .. guess wat ,eventually he decided that i would neber \"hv time\" to do it.. so he started packing a box at a time for me... n he decided that some shld go into the trash 
... that's when i start digging up the trash after he goes to take his bath 
( remember he is a neat freak.. so must keep himself super clean too, so must bathe aft he sweats) ..
This is just one example.. the daily mails.. usually i will leave it on the table after i read it.. he will \"sort\" the table out weekly simply becos he cant stand the mess. :x ..and no, we don keep our bills.. trash them once payment made...
Actually sometimes, i don like him to throw things so fast but then again, how to keep the place neat if we want to keep everything?? :idea:
Actually this \"keep or throw\" habit seem to be inherited from our parents.. i realise that my siblings n i arent v good with packing / keeping things neat... while DH's siblings' homes are all usually quite neat... their principle is , if don need \"NOW\" throw... if need in future, buy again...
so can i say \"hoarders\" are more careful with $$ too ? :celebrate: -
actually, DH is a hoarder and a neat freak. So he will spend a lot of time packing and repacking and forgetting where he puts everything. Whereas for me, I am a thrower but I am no where near as neat as DH. He always complains that I am messy to which I will rebut saying that mine is an organised mess. Cos I always know where my docs are. They are either in this pile or that pile whereas DH in all his neatness can never find what he needs as there are simply too many files and boxes.
As for hoarders being more careful with money, dun think so, at least where DH is concern. He will buy things that he will most probably use like only once but he feels it is ok to buy and keep in case need to use again the next time. For me, If it is not something that we need to use frequently, I tend not to buy cos I cannot stand having things lying around collecting dust.
But I would agree that our own parents do somehow influence this aspect of our behaviour. I was shocked when I first went to DH’s house. His parents and cartons of stuff stacked from floor to ceiling, wall to wall. Both his parents are hoarders. Worse, MIL salvage other pple’s unwanted stuff. My kids have received sooo many half used colour pencils and partially dried markers from her. My dad is a thrower and mum is a psuedo hoarder, mainly tupperware hoarder. Other then that, she clears most stuff as well. Thus I am a thrower and Dh hoarder. -
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I still keep the T-shirt my dh wore when i first met him
I still have my kids' first dress / first shirt with me.
it's torn though (since like years years ago).... :oops: -
Ha ha, I like this topic. I am like daisyt. I call myself a thrower. I hate papers and filing and what nots. So whenever it come to cleaning up or spring cleaning, I will be throwing bags and bags of things. DH is not a hoarder, but neither is he a thrower! What he does is, he will take out a whole chunk of stuff and chuck it into whatever cupboard that is empty. Only when I nag at him, then will he take out the same whole chunk of things and chuck it into the garbage bag without even a second look! In my mind I would go like WTH! He could have just thrown it in the first place! LOL
However, I dun know where DD1 gets her hoarding genes. Whenever I try to clear her cupboards and toys, she will go like, I still want this.... i still want that. If the stuff that she wants is in working order, it still is reasonable. But just imagine, she can tell me she still want scraps of paper coz it's her \"toy medicine\"!!!!!!!!! :? Therefore, I have affectionately gave her a new nickname. Darling, Oh my Darling, you are a karang guni..... -
I think we should rephrase the question - are you a neat hoarder or a messy one?
I'm an anal organizer. All the bills go into files, and the files are categorized and labelled. My baking flours are in the same sort of containers and are labelled as well. I think I'm not a 100% hoarder but will tend to keep things for a while (1 - 2 years) and do a massive spring cleaning at one go. My mom hoards quite a bit so I think I got that habit from her.
One thing I don't like to keep is the plastic containers from takeaway food, especially if they've contained something oily. The amount of soap (And water!) I would take to remove the greasy feeling (to me), is just a waste of time. If I can, I try and bring my own food warmer (somehow, easier to wash. Maybe because it's metal?). I used to hoard plastic bags (nice shopping bags) but I now selectively accept what is a nice design (and durable), whilst I use a recyclable bag for others places. -
I am definitely a hoarder, a rather organised one, within my limits (there are only so many hours a day). DH is also a hoarder, but he does zero packing or organisation with his things. When we moved house, he would simply \"poured\" all his things (with zero throwing) into the mover boxes and have those boxes brought to our new place, and then \"poured\" them into whichever empty drawers or cupboards that he could find :shock:
Not that he is sentimental, just pure laziness. :stupid:
I was forever packing and repacking during our first few of marriage (according to him to my family members), cos' place then was small, if didn't repack, would have no more place to store anymore and I don't like to throw.
So I am really very good at packing, will use up every little space left, no matter how small, in the cupboards or storage boxes. I usually can't stand the way my domestic helpers pack my things (haven't got the luck to employ those who are good in organising), can really vomit blood sometimes and I would go and repack... (Side-track a bit, one of them (no longer with me
) would put our things including shoppings in whatever space she can find and then forgot all about it. After that, I will discover things stacked away somewhere quite by chance :x ) That's why me very busy all the time, what with work, kids, house, packing... that's how I spend my leave usually.
Really envious of those whose DH are rather neat and organised type... if only can choose again... :roll: I'll probably get to have more sleep, have less white hair and then look years younger than my age. So ladies out there whose DH are the organised type, count your blessings!
Talking about bank statements and important documents, I personally think these should be kept as long as possible depending on one's mindset. Banks do not keep records for more than 7 years, so if you ever want to trace back anything through the bank, it would not be possible. So me the kiasi one, still have my first credit card bills and used-up cheque books till today.
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I am definitely a ‘thrower’. And looking at DS2’s method of throwing his stuffed toys out of the window, I guess he inherited his ‘thrower’s ability’ from me.
DH and DS1 are both hoarders. DH has shelves of bills that are filed according to expense, household policies etc. He has a tiered-tray for all unfiled items, in various order depending on the nature of the document.
Just yesterday, I let DH look at my financial statement from my investment policy and asked if I should let it be included in his filing. So I asked him which section. His reply, ‘this page on the 2nd stack of the tray and this policy on the right side of the tray’. His ‘better safe than sorry’ theory does save us from certain agonies when we need to check back on past records.
As for DS1, I can only throw away some of his ‘treasures’ when he’s not looking. Sometimes, he would retreive them from the dustbin and keep it back (away from me, obviously). -
Hi five, EstherTan and Busymom!
Like yourselves, I'm a super organized hoarder... and more anal retentive than anyone else I know. I would spend my life organizing things and then never touch them again for fear of having to organize them again :stupid: .
I cannot stand disorganization... even the pile of newspapers must be properly placed with pages in order and stacked in the same way so that nothing sticks out. I will take my time to make sure the notes in my wallet are properly placed in ascending order, and in the right way up. My library is properly classified after deep thought to come up with the configuration that allows me to store the greatest amount of books in the available space, and yet allow the quickest access to the ones I use most. I would squeeze everything into a 1 drawer and keep the rest empty just for \"scalability\".
My daily possessions are kept in definite places so that I know exactly what I'm missing immediately - wallet in back right pocket, keys in right pocket, handkerchief in left pocket. I feel great discomfort when things are out of place - I will go to great lengths to make sure picture frames are proper and straight, no dog ears in any of my books, and the position of my pillow and bolsters are just right before I sleep. When I eat, I always have at least one clean hand so that I can hold my utensils cleanly. I do all these because I want to be the most efficient - I HATE it whenever I have to spend time in looking for things. I would rather be early than late for any meeting, regardless of importance.
And my wife is my complete opposite. She would mutilate newspapers by tearing them to keep :!: , displace the papers :stupid: , eats and holds chopsticks and spoons with oily fingers :faint: . She would just dump her possessions here and there... a comb in one drawer... a hair band there... she is like air... she abhors space
... whatever space there is she will occupy with her tiniest possession without any thought of why it belongs there. She believes in being the latest to attend any \"unimportant\" events. She is definitely not ME. Maybe that's why I love her so much :love: .
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