All About Bullying

[sembgal]

Nebbermind:

zbear:

I heard from my colleague whose dd just entered P1 in a well known girls' school. On the 2nd day of school, her dd witnessed a scene in the canteen whereby a gang of P1 kids bullied (hit) another girl. What is the reason - becos this girl sports very short hair n they don't like her look.


Goodness, I am shocked that kids (especially girls) can gang bully at only P1?

2nd day of school for P1...certainly that could not be the fault of the well known school, ya?

If the well-known school has put in place a seamless system to guide the new girls in the canteen with adult figures around, this mischief would not have happen. Partly school fault too.

[jordcheng99]

sembgal:

Nebbermind:

[quote=\"zbear\"]I heard from my colleague whose dd just entered P1 in a well known girls' school. On the 2nd day of school, her dd witnessed a scene in the canteen whereby a gang of P1 kids bullied (hit) another girl. What is the reason - becos this girl sports very short hair n they don't like her look.


Goodness, I am shocked that kids (especially girls) can gang bully at only P1?

2nd day of school for P1...certainly that could not be the fault of the well known school, ya?

If the well-known school has put in place a seamless system to guide the new girls in the canteen with adult figures around, this mischief would not have happen. Partly school fault too.[/quote]its in all humans to want to feel good mah by putting people down they will feel good, sch shld teach them to encourage and help to feel good about themselves instead of disciplining them lah but still teaching them that is the parents job lor since sch nvr teach such things

[jetsetter]

Didn’t the well known school have a buddy system from Day 1-3?


The girls might have known each other since preschool days, as sembgal pointed out. Otherwise, how could they have been so pally by Day 2 to ostracise another 2-day old friend?

They should be so busy talking to the buddy assigned to them (under the watch of their parents at recess time), instead of ganging up to hit that girl. And that girl who got hit should have had a buddy to chaperon her/protect her from being bullied.

Strange arrangement.

[phtthp]

Which well known Girls’ primary school is this ?

maybe give a clue … first letter for the name of this school, start with what ?

perhaps the girl bring bullied already know those bullies well, in pre-school before. Normally being the first or second day of school, being strangers, girls don’t behave like that

[snowbell]

My dd currently in P1 has been bullied on and off by her so-called good friend (girl) from same class for the past 2 months. Today is the most ridiculous. This good friend kicked my girl on her back just because my girl took out the same book as her to read during assembly. My girl’s school uniform has the girl’s kick mark. I have feedback to the girl’s mother. The mother said will issue serious warning to her girl. Do you think I should feedback to the form teacher as this is not the first incident.

[sembgal]

snowbell:

My dd currently in P1 has been bullied on and off by her so-called good friend (girl) from same class for the past 2 months. Today is the most ridiculous. This good friend kicked my girl on her back just because my girl took out the same book as her to read during assembly. My girl's school uniform has the girl's kick mark. I have feedback to the girl's mother. The mother said will issue serious warning to her girl. Do you think I should feedback to the form teacher as this is not the first incident.

You should have feedback to the form teacher and not to the parents directly. The form teacher will speak to them. I'm surprised that your DD's school did not brief you on this aspect. Usually the standard advice is to speak to form teacher and not to the parents directly.

[snowbell]

Oh. The school didn’t brief on this. Some of the bullying, I have feedback to the form teacher but since like it didn’t stop and it’s even worst. We were hoping by feedback to parents directly, it could stop such behaviour immediately.


Thank you for your advice.

[ammonite]

Are they still good friends and is your daughter very upset?


If they are good friends - ie other signs of friendship or cooperation, firm reminders by an adult and your daughter setting her foot (in a firm tone) down may work better and preserve friendship.

If they simply hang around together with one thumping down on the other constantly, you can tell your daughter to mingle more with other kids and choose those who are easy going. If they are sitting together, ask the teacher to check on them or separate them.

You can also list down all the incidents with approximate dates when you feedback to the teacher to show that it is not a one-off. (I learn this from a sec 1 student, haha)

[snowbell]

Ammonite, Thank you for your advice. I have told my girl that real friends doesn’t treat her like dirt and will not hurt her. I have asked her to play with other friends. But she told me this girl has set a friend’s rule. Whoever wants to play with my girl has to seek her permission. Only if she agrees, then they can play together. I’m getting my girl to ignore this friend’s rule and go ahead to make friends. She doesn’t need permission from anyone to be friends with others. I told her if this girl turns violence again, to report to us or teachers immediately.


I am also starting to track all the complaints my girl feedback on this girl. Hopfully with teacher’s involvement, the bullying act can stop soon.

[snowbell]

This incident reminded me of an incident which happened to my girl when she was in N1. One day , my girl returned home from childcare with 5 fingers print mark on her neck. The finger marks were there till next day. My girl told me her childcare friend caused the marks and it was painful. But she’s not angry with her friend because she is her friend.


Similar to this incident, my girl is also not angry or upset. She just feels back pain and she can sense something not right but just not angry. I’m worry.