All About Life Without Maids
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Yes, I am much happier without a maid too.
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i miss my first indon maid the most...she is the one who really had the initiative, IQ and EQ...so much so that I could really shake legs :love:
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Hi, my conventional iron just broke down. Need advice/feedback from parents here if the steam iron Philip/Novita brand, the ‘vacuum cleaner’ type is good compared to normal iron using with the ironing board. Thank you
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Lately, I notice that my 16 year-old DS has 'arrived'.
When he sees me going to mop the floor, he would offer to do it for me. When I am cooking and he is free, he would occasionally come to the kitchen and ask if there is anything he can help me. One late evening, about 9pm, I was going to the super mart to buy some stuff, he wanted to tag along to help me carry the stuff. I told him I was buying only a few items, not heavy, and he said, \"Let us just take a walk together, Ma\"
I can't describe to you the joy I feel inside and the comfort in knowing that he appreciates my care for him deep enough to want to relief me of some of the chores. He knows I enjoy taking walks and he made time to do it with me. I think such feelings is something that could more likely be experienced by us with no maids in the house. Life with no maids has such intangible merits -
osim:
:love: so sweet. I can imagine how you feel osim!Lately, I notice that my 16 year-old DS has 'arrived'.
When he sees me going to mop the floor, he would offer to do it for me. When I am cooking and he is free, he would occasionally come to the kitchen and ask if there is anything he can help me. One late evening, about 9pm, I was going to the super mart to buy some stuff, he wanted to tag along to help me carry the stuff. I told him I was buying only a few items, not heavy, and he said, \"Let us just take a walk together, Ma\"
I can't describe to you the joy I feel inside and the comfort in knowing that he appreciates my care for him deep enough to want to relief me of some of the chores. He knows I enjoy taking walks and he made time to do it with me. I think such feelings is something that could more likely be experienced by us with no maids in the house. Life with no maids has such intangible merits -
osim:
I can't describe to you the joy I feel inside and the comfort in knowing that he appreciates my care for him deep enough to want to relief me of some of the chores. He knows I enjoy taking walks and he made time to do it with me. I think such feelings is something that could more likely be experienced by us with no maids in the house. Life with no maids has such intangible merits
Wow osim, that's so sweet of your son.
Such a heart-touching post made me wonder when my son will be like yours. -
osim:
What a lovely sweet boy!Lately, I notice that my 16 year-old DS has 'arrived'.
When he sees me going to mop the floor, he would offer to do it for me. When I am cooking and he is free, he would occasionally come to the kitchen and ask if there is anything he can help me. One late evening, about 9pm, I was going to the super mart to buy some stuff, he wanted to tag along to help me carry the stuff. I told him I was buying only a few items, not heavy, and he said, \"Let us just take a walk together, Ma\"
I can't describe to you the joy I feel inside and the comfort in knowing that he appreciates my care for him deep enough to want to relief me of some of the chores. He knows I enjoy taking walks and he made time to do it with me. I think such feelings is something that could more likely be experienced by us with no maids in the house. Life with no maids has such intangible merits -
tinkfirst:
Hi, my conventional iron just broke down. Need advice/feedback from parents here if the steam iron Philip/Novita brand, the 'vacuum cleaner' type is good compared to normal iron using with the ironing board. Thank you
Unless you can settle for a less than perfect look, the steam iron will only reduce crease/wrinkle. For some materials, a normal iron is still needed for the pressed look. -
tinkfirst:
Hi, my conventional iron just broke down. Need advice/feedback from parents here if the steam iron Philip/Novita brand, the 'vacuum cleaner' type is good compared to normal iron using with the ironing board. Thank you
You are referring to those used in boutiques? Heard that these suck up energy like crazy so be prepared for higher electrical bills. Also as mentioned, these type won't have the nice ironed lines for pants/shirts since there is no pressure applied. and last thing I recall from someone who used it is that the hand gets a tad tired with all the movement up and down. -
Hi I have both types of iron. And it’s true what hquek says. Yr hand do get tired with the up and down movement and its more suitable for ironing jackets/coat type of clothing. Blouse and shirts I still use normal iron on ironing board.
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Hiya, would like to ask the users of the Karcher steam cleaner if they are able to steam clean the floor below their beds? My current very old Osim iEcology is unable to bend the steam rod to clean below the beds. Instead, I have to use a mop.
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hi
I went without maid for 3 months and ended up having a lifeless life. Very fatique almost every end of the day. I find it very stressful and difficult to go on as i am not a full time housewife. Have no help from hb. Kids will only help me with mopping on weekend. I could not tolerate messy house as such i need to tidy the house everyday. Need to tips on managing the household chores. -
concern_mum:
Must learn to let go of some stuffs and if need be get the rest of the family members to chip in. There are plenty tips shared here and when I first started out maid less, the tips were life savinghi
I went without maid for 3 months and ended up having a lifeless life. Very fatique almost every end of the day. I find it very stressful and difficult to go on as i am not a full time housewife. Have no help from hb. Kids will only help me with mopping on weekend. I could not tolerate messy house as such i need to tidy the house everyday. Need to tips on managing the household chores. -
concern_mum:
I find myself without much 'me' time...especially now that kids' education is impt and housework everyday.
I went without maid for 3 months and ended up having a lifeless life. Very fatique almost every end of the day. I find it very stressful and difficult to go on as i am not a full time housewife. Have no help from hb. Kids will only help me with mopping on weekend. I could not tolerate messy house as such i need to tidy the house everyday. Need to tips on managing the household chores.
Mornings after they leave for school/work, I tidy up. As weather is so humid, feet tend to be sticky...so I mop floor more often...wetter and let it dry, use lesser energy too. No babies around, so no worries. Vacuum floor 2x a week and ironing. Tried to go out once before kids come back from school...asked mum to cook lunch. Only 2.5 hours to spare since have to take bus to and fro. -
I plan to go maidless,but i have a few concerns. Who will take care kids when they sick ( leave not enough)? Who cook for kids dinner ( cannot be da bao mon to fri) ? This day will come be it i decide maidless now, or my current maid decide to discontinue after contract ends.no grandparent helps. How do some parents go maidless ?.. i not much bother about housework…more on how to fetch them on time, how they eat well( no hawker everyday) , when sick who look after . One in primary school, one in childcare
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concern_mum:
Try to get a part time maid to help u. R u staying at west? My current PT maid only works at west n south. PM me if u r keen.hi
I went without maid for 3 months and ended up having a lifeless life. Very fatique almost every end of the day. I find it very stressful and difficult to go on as i am not a full time housewife. Have no help from hb. Kids will only help me with mopping on weekend. I could not tolerate messy house as such i need to tidy the house everyday. Need to tips on managing the household chores. -
coffeedrinker:
I plan to go maidless,but i have a few concerns. Who will take care kids when they sick ( leave not enough)? Who cook for kids dinner ( cannot be da bao mon to fri) ? This day will come be it i decide maidless now, or my current maid decide to discontinue after contract ends.no grandparent helps. How do some parents go maidless ?.. i not much bother about housework...more on how to fetch them on time, how they eat well( no hawker everyday) , when sick who look after . One in primary school, one in childcare
You can find lots of tips here on how to prepare a fast dinner or dinner in advance. For me, with some advance prep, dinner can be done in half an hour e.g one pot dinner like fried rice w miso soup, noodle soup, porridge, pasta etc or niang doufu soup w rice. For dishes that require longer hours to cook, you can use a thermal pot and cook in the morning like pork ribs soup w (corn, winter melon, potato & carrot & tomato, lotus root, water cress (to be added in the evening) or chicken/beef/ribs stew with the usual potato, celery and carrots.
Some times u can also ta pao steam chicken or any dish from a hawker stall, cook rice and add a simple vege or egg drop soup or buy roast chicken / roast ribs etc from the super market, put frozen french fries on a tray and heat up in the oven or toaster (or airfryer). Make a simple salad and add on can bake beans or fry a sunny side up.
Other than french fries, u can always use frozen prata, a simple butter rice with peas or just heat up a can of Campbell soup and throw in some alphabet pasta.
As for sick children, no choice one needs to take turns with spouse to be on leave. And most importantly, is to make sure kids are healthy by eating healthly and expose them to lots of sun and exercise. Confining them in enclose air con space to me is very bad for the health. -
coffeedrinker:
I plan to go maidless,but i have a few concerns. Who will take care kids when they sick ( leave not enough)? Who cook for kids dinner ( cannot be da bao mon to fri) ? This day will come be it i decide maidless now, or my current maid decide to discontinue after contract ends.no grandparent helps. How do some parents go maidless ?.. i not much bother about housework...more on how to fetch them on time, how they eat well( no hawker everyday) , when sick who look after . One in primary school, one in childcare
With the childcare leaves n your AL, still not enuff? Don't think your kids will fall sick tat often right? n to prevent tat, give them healthy diet with supplements or vitamins.. which could help fight off nasty bugs.. once in a while cough or flu, really cannot b help since due to sg weather, the hot n cold temp does create the cold bug..
I have 3 kids (1 in pri n 2 in cc) n am a FTWM, like today.. i woke up early to prep soup for tonight, n put it in thermal pot, while also preparing my ds for sch.. once ds off to sch.. i prep dds for cc..
I shifted recently n also transferred ds to a sch tat is 5-10mins within walking dist.. wif no roads to cross n shelter all the way to sch.. tis helps me a lot, as both ds n i do not need to wake up early.. n he can go to sch on his on without much worry.. esp when heavy rain.. no prob at all.. tis helps.. doesn't matter if tat is a prestigious sch or not.. to me.. when we have no help watsoever.. esp if we r FTWM.. logistics play a v impt part for me.. everything needs to b ez n smooth for me..
The only day we eat out on a weekday is usually thurs.. when they have enrichment..
To pick them on time.. again.. logistics.. for me.. i aws find a wrk plc near hm.. or their sch n CCs.. so no matter hw late i can b.. a cab is all it takes.. to pick them by 7pm... of coz there will b exceptions.. when it will b over 7pm.. like for last friday.. i was super duper late.. so last resort was my mum.. as my dds' sch is v near to her hse.. n for ds.. was to msg the student care tr n let her noe i will b late..
When u mentioned 'no grandparents help', do you mean they can't help at all? how bout relatives, uncles, aunties, etc.. or even good neighbours..
I was maidless since Jul last yr.. and am happy to be without one..
So all the best to you.. -
b2b3m4:
Yes, kids fall sick easily due to their lower immunity which takes time to build up.
You can find lots of tips here on how to prepare a fast dinner or dinner in advance. For me, with some advance prep, dinner can be done in half an hour e.g one pot dinner like fried rice w miso soup, noodle soup, porridge, pasta etc or niang doufu soup w rice. For dishes that require longer hours to cook, you can use a thermal pot and cook in the morning like pork ribs soup w (corn, winter melon, potato & carrot & tomato, lotus root, water cress (to be added in the evening) or chicken/beef/ribs stew with the usual potato, celery and carrots.
Some times u can also ta pao steam chicken or any dish from a hawker stall, cook rice and add a simple vege or egg drop soup or buy roast chicken / roast ribs etc from the super market, put frozen french fries on a tray and heat up in the oven or toaster (or airfryer). Make a simple salad and add on can bake beans or fry a sunny side up.
Other than french fries, u can always use frozen prata, a simple butter rice with peas or just heat up a can of Campbell soup and throw in some alphabet pasta.
As for sick children, no choice one needs to take turns with spouse to be on leave. And most importantly, is to make sure kids are healthy by eating healthly and expose them to lots of sun and exercise. Confining them in enclose air con space to me is very bad for the health.
While I can't prevent them from falling sick, what I did was to build up their immunity faster or stronger by giving them the right supplement so that they will not fall sick that easily.
For example :
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We sent our maid home for 2 weeks already. The very next day after she was sent packing home. we dropped our 20 mth younger boy at the childcare. It was heartpain at first as he has been well protected at home .. as opposed to seeing him cry and trying to adapt to the new environment..
Looking back now.. he has cope well , thou reluctant at times.. we felt the choice to do without helper is a correct move.. more quality time is spend with our boys.. as most of you have said.. the trade off is LESS ME time ..
thank goodness , i have my mother in law and a weekly help to clean up and cook..
Cheers
Life without a maid isnt that tough after all. :salute: