Asperger? Hyperactive?

[happyheart]

baobei:

Need help desperately! May I know if your Aspie child is in mainstream school? Which school is he/she in? Are they supportive of child learning? Mine was left alone not to do work in class. Child is loud and even louder whenever he gets high. School will call to get him home or seek to meet up each time he was triggered. Whenever he is triggered, he would be running around and school feels that he is being defiant. this is true since he did has ODD. Does the MOE psychologists help? What happens when child goes secondary? Thinking of transferring him to a school that can handle Aspie better.

Aspie kids normally do not behave unruly or get high in most circumstances. However, they are a special group whom like to socialise with people but have low ability to understand social cues. That may be viewed as anti-social. Try to understand why your child is 'left alone not to work in class', was it his choice or teacher has no way with him? I am wondering what makes you classify into either hyper or Aspie? Is there any traits and behaviours that you have identified when he is out of classroom environment? btw,How old is your boy?

[ammonite]

ODD or sensory issues? They are very different. Kids with sensory issues behave differently in a crowded/noisy environment. Some react to fluorescent lights which schools use. Sensory issues are common in aspies. I don’t think ODD is but I may be wrong.

[Xeraph]

happyheart:

baobei:

Need help desperately! May I know if your Aspie child is in mainstream school? Which school is he/she in? Are they supportive of child learning? Mine was left alone not to do work in class. Child is loud and even louder whenever he gets high. School will call to get him home or seek to meet up each time he was triggered. Whenever he is triggered, he would be running around and school feels that he is being defiant. this is true since he did has ODD. Does the MOE psychologists help? What happens when child goes secondary? Thinking of transferring him to a school that can handle Aspie better.

Aspie kids normally do not behave unruly or get high in most circumstances. However, they are a special group whom like to socialise with people but have low ability to understand social cues. That may be viewed as anti-social. Try to understand why your child is 'left alone not to work in class', was it his choice or teacher has no way with him? I am wondering what makes you classify into either hyper or Aspie? Is there any traits and behaviours that you have identified when he is out of classroom environment? btw,How old is your boy?

Hey guys.
I'm a 13 year old AS student in RI, Batch of 2017.
It actually depends. For socialization, most AS people don't like to socialize because they have been rejected at a young age. Aspies have something called a \"unique interest\". This means that they feel very strongly for something (which is normally not normal). In my case, it's guns, knives, bombs (pipe bombs especially), and FPS (First Person Shooters). So from a young age, while all my classmates were playing soccer, I would be there reading gun magazines.
People have freaked out before when they know of my interest, but there's nothing I can do. Just another normal day.
Because of this special interest, people have labelled me as weird a lot of times before, but personally I feel friends aren't that impt. I would rather play FPS and go study military doctrine rather than do the things that my classmates like now.
My advice to you? Try to find a common interest among your child and his playmates. It'll help. When the badminton module came along in my school, the bond grew much stronger because I was a damn zai player.

Personally, I feel that AS is not a mental disease or something to be ashamed of. Be proud of it!
Many famous people have had AS! Albert Einstein was one of them!

P.S. AS is a DEVELOPMENTAL DISORDER. (I shouldn't even use the term disorder). NOT a MENTAL DISEASE.

Thanks,
Xeraph

[BB-911]

Hi,

I am new to forum. My son is suspected Aspergers. He was complained by his kindergarten with these symptoms: no eye contact, kick his classmate, cannot take instruction, opinionated, defiant, outspoken, cannot wait for his turns etc.
I sent him to 2 private psychologists (in 2012 and 2013) but both felt that he is not Aspergers and it is a matter of managing him. I am currently waiting for KK to do an assessment in 6 months time- just to get another opinion.

The Kindergarten felt that the psychologists should do a classroom assessment of him other than depending just on a clinical assessment and this will be scheduled on end of this September 2013.

Below are a few example of his recent behaviour :

There were occasions that my son pulled down his pants in public. I asked him why, he said because he want to dance by shaking his butt. He thought it will be funny.
:xedfingers:
He also laughed at kids who fell down. He said he found it funny.

He use his mouth to hold the fork during refreshment time. Other kids laughed at him and he likes it thinking that he made jokes and he made everyone laugh by doing funny acts.

He is getting impulsive and violent like hitting his play mate with his slipper and hitting a kid he taught shake the balancing robe he was climbing.

His unacceptable behavior continues despite numerous explanations, warnings and even at times physical punishments.

As a mother, I am worried that his friends, classmates, teachers who may not understand him will soon isolate him. The society may not accept him.

I hope to find mothers whose kids have the symptoms to come together and share how best to handle such kids.

I hope we can form a support group to share experiences and ways of handling them.

Hope to hear from anyone of you.

Thanks

[sharonkhoo]

BB-911:

Hi,

I am new to forum. My son is suspected Aspergers. He was complained by his kindergarten with these symptoms: no eye contact, kick his classmate, cannot take instruction, opinionated, defiant, outspoken, cannot wait for his turns etc.
I sent him to 2 private psychologists (in 2012 and 2013) but both felt that he is not Aspergers and it is a matter of managing him. I am currently waiting for KK to do an assessment in 6 months time- just to get another opinion.

The Kindergarten felt that the psychologists should do a classroom assessment of him other than depending just on a clinical assessment and this will be scheduled on end of this September 2013.

Below are a few example of his recent behaviour :

There were occasions that my son pulled down his pants in public. I asked him why, he said because he want to dance by shaking his butt. He thought it will be funny.
:xedfingers:
He also laughed at kids who fell down. He said he found it funny.

He use his mouth to hold the fork during refreshment time. Other kids laughed at him and he likes it thinking that he made jokes and he made everyone laugh by doing funny acts.

He is getting impulsive and violent like hitting his play mate with his slipper and hitting a kid he taught shake the balancing robe he was climbing.

His unacceptable behavior continues despite numerous explanations, warnings and even at times physical punishments.

As a mother, I am worried that his friends, classmates, teachers who may not understand him will soon isolate him. The society may not accept him.

I hope to find mothers whose kids have the symptoms to come together and share how best to handle such kids.

I hope we can form a support group to share experiences and ways of handling them.

Hope to hear from anyone of you.

Thanks

I have a 16yo daughter who has been diagnosed as Asperger's. Her behaviour is very different from what you describe, but of course, there are many different expressions in behaviour even with the same root cause. I can't advise on diagnosis, but want to ask if your son behaves the same way at home? If he does, what reaction does he get from his caregiver? Whatever the cause of his behaviour (which as you already realise, may cause others to react negatively to him), you can always start behaviour management at home, with or without a diagnosis. We didn't send our girl for assessment until she was 14yo but have been teaching and training her at home all the years before that, and although she is still not very 'normal' in some ways, she manages in school, church etc. If you can teach and train him at home, he will be more likely to behave in the learned way outside.

[phtthp]

One question which I think worth some thoughts; is the teacher trained to handle such case or maybe the MOE should either train or have one expert in each school to manage.


It takes a lot of resolve between the caregiver and the MOE to make this possible and it would benefit future generations. Seek the woman society, parent group, etc to harness support. A care support group for such would be v helpful.

[BB-911]

Thanks for sharing.


Last one week had been challenging and stressful for me. I received many complains from my son’s kindergarten about him. Kindergarten called and emailed me numerous times. I did’t reply as I know they will tell me that they need help in managing my son and they wanted to talk to me. I have no solution on how to manage him as well.

Any parents here who has strategy to share? I hope to further discuss my situation privately.

Thanks.

[sharonkhoo]

BB-911:

Thanks for sharing.


Last one week had been challenging and stressful for me. I received many complains from my son's kindergarten about him. Kindergarten called and emailed me numerous times. I did't reply as I know they will tell me that they need help in managing my son and they wanted to talk to me. I have no solution on how to manage him as well.

Any parents here who has strategy to share? I hope to further discuss my situation privately.

Thanks.

If he behaves the same way at home, then start behaviour management at home. If he doesn't, then find out what triggers it in the cc and take it from there.

[KiasuPG]

Hi Parents,

i believe my child is hyperactive, and many a times disturbs the class. The teacher is not happy too. she likes to control by shouting, which i explained to her that it will not help for more than few minutes.
I would like to change the school and try with some other teachers which are patient and innovative and new environment.
Do any of you have good experience in any kindergarten at West Coast or Jurong East with Hyperactive kids?
please help?
thanks.

[jedamum]

KiasuPG:

Hi Parents,

i believe my child is hyperactive, and many a times disturbs the class. The teacher is not happy too. she likes to control by shouting, which i explained to her that it will not help for more than few minutes.
I would like to change the school and try with some other teachers which are patient and innovative and new environment.
Do any of you have good experience in any kindergarten at West Coast or Jurong East with Hyperactive kids?
please help?
thanks.

Kiasupg
How old is your kid ? Did his current teacher request you to bring kid see specialist? Do you intend to do so ? Do you think need to change any parenting flaw to improve situation?
Have to spoken to principal? Do you find your kid unique and a bit diff ?