so far, it does not affect much on DS1. DS2 not worrying about Monday, he would wake up asking \"today's saturday?\" despite of which day. If my answer no, he will frown and \"huh.....\"If my answer is yes, he would :rahrah: , reason is dun have to go school and have free & easy rest & relax weekend!

jedamum:hi,how about considering quoting references of where you had chanced this from? I think it came from an article in the newspapers too (dun think it's the straits times).DH cut this similar article out for me to read through couple weeks ago and was patting his own back on all the things he did 'right' :roll:

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It’s not the right time to tell her about the adoption. She’s still struggling with her broken family. She needs time to accept it. On her age now (14yo), she’s looking for her own identity. When her family cannot help her, she will look for it outside. No wonder, she did make a relationship (even sexualy relationship) with the guy outside. Give her more attention and assurance of love. Her mom made a good decision to not sending her to girls’ home. It’s not a solution, yet make her situation worst. The way her mother shows love and patience, i believe one day the girl will understand.Involve her in more positive activities and healthy environments. As for mom, she needs family and friends to support her as well. Good job for you, windth!

My current neighbours (2 of the units) like to \"stuff\" the common corridor with ANYTHING. From single wooden sofa, boxes, big wok (they run business in coffe shop, so can imagine the BIG wok just dangling at the corridor), junks and recently the worst 1-A FRIDGE!! :!: Over these 12 years, I have ever called Town Council to \"investigate\" on them and they got the junks cleared. For 1 week, the common corridor was clear and spacious..... But that dun last..... Next week, just before the season arrives, i gotta call Town Council again....

Actually I did read the whole report too Anyway people and feelings do change (I mean between spouses), that is why we need to constantly work at it to keep the relationship going, once the relationship stagnate, there will always be tendencies to stray from either side... Of cos there are people who will stray regardless of their relationship with their spouses and this is largely dependent on their personal values and how much they want to keep to their marriage vows.Personally for me, regardless what happens to the parents, we should as far as possible consider and strive to minimise the negative impact to the children. So many times, parents cleave to each other and then split based on whims and fancies and according to their own needs only... Aren't these adults being so self-centred? How many have seriously considered what their kids need and want... Did the kids ask to be born to these parents? Apparently two \"lovey dovey\" parents decide that it was time to make a likeness of themselves and produce offsprings ... Then when they are no longer \"lovey dovey\" they split and between themselves unilaterally decide that the kids are able to adapt and manage without having one parent around.In relation to the article, I applaud what this man was doing... ie keeping parental bond going even when he knew that his daughter is not his biologically. Between biological bond and parental bond, I too would choose to focus on the latter. This is because to me all kids deserve to be loved, they were not given a chance to see if they would like to come to this world and yet there are so many occassions when they are made to bear with the cruelties of this world alone. To reinforce the pt on how parental bond is more impt... I have heard of stories of how some biological offsprings were mean and terrible to their parents and forsaking them in their old age. End of the day, it was the adopted child who undertook the task of providing and caring for these old folks... So the issue to me is not whether there is a biological connection but rather how as parents have we treated and brought up the children be it biological or not.But like this man... I do not think I can accept and continue to provide financially for a child who I know is not mine biologically and I do not have legal control of the child, more so when the child is physically staying with his/her biological parent. :stupid: :stupid: :stupid:

I will consult dh before making any decision. Similarly he will ask my opinion before making any decision. Both of us are easy going & soft spoken by nature, very hard to argue about anything since we reached concensus so quickly. If I veto, he will listen to my reasons. He hardly disagreed with me. So I guess I have the ultimate say? By the way, I’m a SAHM.

fussyMummy:Last time he bought all the debts documents to court and that person in charge at court asked me why so cure to ask $ from ex again???? (My ex is a gamble, owe a lot of Credit Cards $$) I nearly \"whack\" that person.. haha.. so violet right? Currently I applied for maintance at court.... But my ex never attend it. So I paid another $10 for 2nd processing fee... and yet he never attend..... then court passed this case to police......... and asked me to call up if no result after 2 months..... ? :? I wasted 2 annual leave just because of it... and the maintance should be pay on Jul09..... ! Now already Oct 09.....already \"eat wind\" lor....I really dont understand.......!? Maybe what I can do.. is wait .. & waitI got a gf where the ex did not pay a single cent even though he was ordered to pay 500 in maintenance/ month. until now almost 2 yrs still keep procrastinating selling their hdb which she pay for. :x Some men a really need :nunchuk: but what to do... she says that sure she can put him in jail for maintenance default but it will not solve the problem. Some times just have to move on.

Aiyoh,I paiseh leh. Not here to trumpet what a wonderful marriage I have lah. DW and me are ordinary people, with the same weaknesses as other people and subject to the same temptations. Things that put us in good staed, I believe, are a traditional view of sex and marriage, and the firm desire to put our relationship first. I suppose we are lucky to have found our soul mates…What I was trying to highlight in my post was that we focus on one issue in marriage, fidelity, which is absolutely critical and underpins the trust that is needed in a marriage. But we should not forget/ignore other aspects as well…

ChiefKiasu:Sleep is more important than goodbye kisses :roll::rotflmao: