EQUINOX:My husband and I have a generation gap of 25 years and he is very old and I am in my late 40s. He has been in the civil service and has been teaching until he decide to retire at 55. I was shocked at his decision and he kept digging into his savings for years and until lately went bankrupt. I tried a tuition job but the earnings were not enough to maintain his livestyle. He refused to give up his car as he have to travel to the west to teach. He asked me to be his guarantor for a $5k loan and used me to guarantee for his car loan as well. We have a 17 year old JC student and I have been paying her for studies while he paid for the house maintenance.Now he is complaining that he has been paying paying paying without realising that I have been paying paying as well. Things took a bad turn when my girl told my husband to stop whinning and stop acting like a kid when he complained that I gave pocket money to my parents and not to him. He canceled our medical benefits and kept my girl's passport so that she cannot leave the country. He defaulted on the credit card loans and now myy funds are limited, I expect him to work for his own maintenance and now he threaten to sell the house where he thinks he can pocket 1/2 of our 5room flat and live in a studio. He was thinking of the 30K COV. I told him he should get 1/3 as I need the 2/3 for a 3 room flat. My girl will stay with me. Now he threaten to go to my office and tell on me. He had sabo me before in my old job and now he is taking me on in my current job. The commotion was so embarassing that I had to leave. Now I fear history would repeat itself and I would be without a job and my girl will have to suffer because of her daddy's stupidity. When a man aged, he is not getting cleverer. He splits the house and makes us pay extra for the laywers and brokers. He wants to punish me but it will end up my girl will suffer. What should I do to remove this pest from my life? God helps!Sorry im breaking the news to you but he sounds like a really mean person! If he had any love for you at all, he would change for the better no matter what! I'm sorry to say this but you should divorce!

I prefer that my husband NOT make any major decisions.My mum keeps joking that his first major decision was already a huge mistake (marrying me).Anyway, I prefer that my husband leaves it to me to make the final decision though he will bring up some concerns and other possibilities for me to think about. And, I like that he will just go along with what has been planned instead of kick up a fuss about it. If I really want him to decide on something, I will tell it to him straight that he has to decide and I will go along with anything he decides.

Hi mrswongtuition,I think you have a point there too. Thanks BTW, my boy ( k2) has told me on that night that he disliked her aunty, cos she always scold him ( we notice too, my SIL is impatient with my boy but not so much on the 3 girls ,( 1 mine n 2 hers ) i will avoid leavng my boy with my SIL if possible.

3Boys:DesertWind:Wow, so envious! Thanks for sharing, 3boys! :celebrate: Haiz, no need to be envious.......I'm sure you all have wonderful relationships with your other halves too. If you all felt strongly enough to get hitched and have children together, then there is enough of a base to get a great relationship going, just needs some work and compromise....Wah 3 boys u can man ....... :udaman: duriz, if i may tweak what u wrote, me thinks that as a result of 3boys loving and happy marriage, that's why it's now, \"oh woolly one, yessir yessir 3 boys full\" schweppes ...... :hi5: :rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao:

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jedamum:am interested too! but how to ensure that the VCR 'tape' is not mouldy?The mould can be cleaned first prior to conversion.

kuzco:I've used the sticky trap before but the lizards in my house seem to be very smart. I didn't catch any lizards at all. They seem to know how to avoid the trap. So I have resorted to whacking the life out of them with a rolled-up newspaper or a slipper. I think word has gone around among them to avoid my house unless they want to go to lizard heaven. I still see the occasional droppings though.....I too have many rolled up newspapers on standby, in my living room, kitchen, etc. but they are quite smart, always run behind/below fridges, cupboards, etc.For the trap, must put some bait too. i think lizards like rice. also, there are many types of traps: those most convenient one is the most useless. It is packaged in such a way that it has only 2 openings on 2 sides, while the whole trap is shaped like a 3-D box with flaps that can be (un)folded, so that u can box it up easily when done. The lizards are smart enough not to venture into such strange places.The most effective ones are the totally flat ones, where it's just like glue on a piece of paper (but must be sturdy enough not to fly off everywhere.)And when one gets trapped, it might cry for help, causing others to try to rescue it. So in one night, one of the traps i put caught three adults... of course, if scared, it is not easy for the hands to go so near the lizards when clearing/disposing of the trap...

It’s inappropriate that the kids sleeps with the couple and aunt bathing her…well, I understand w_y_chung is upset for the right reasons.

what if in the first place she didn’t want children all along? so leave it to the husband then since he is the one wanted children.