In-law problems?
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think u should change the locks… and not give her the key…
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nightlone:
think u should change the locks... and not give her the key...
Logically, yes. But that is very drastic. I don't even talk back to her and try my hardest to keep all my opinion to myself... My first choice is always non-confrontational. So that being said... changing the locks although very practical but something I can't bring myself to doing? Maybe after I kick my husband out, bah...
Anyway she can be very thick skin and thick headed. Pretense or on purpose, I am not sure. E.g. when I had a chance to get back the keys she plainly refused. When our mailbox changed keys she took my husband's keys to make a duplicate. Yes! Even mailbox keys!! -
straffan23:
That is way too controlling. You need to get your husband on your side on this first, then move to constrain your MIL.nightlone:
think u should change the locks... and not give her the key...
Logically, yes. But that is very drastic. I don't even talk back to her and try my hardest to keep all my opinion to myself... My first choice is always non-confrontational. So that being said... changing the locks although very practical but something I can't bring myself to doing? Maybe after I kick my husband out, bah...
Anyway she can be very thick skin and thick headed. Pretense or on purpose, I am not sure. E.g. when I had a chance to get back the keys she plainly refused. When our mailbox changed keys she took my husband's keys to make a duplicate. Yes! Even mailbox keys!!
When a couple get married, they are menat to 'cleave' from their parents and form a new family unit. Your DH priority is to you, not his mum. Bash that thought into his thick skull if you need to...... -
straffan23:
Can install some motion activated playback system in diff rooms....whenever she enter, it will go “你来了？”， “口渴吗？”， “吃饱了没?\" etc...in a low muffled voice. Can add in occasional children laughter too!nightlone:
think u should change the locks... and not give her the key...
Logically, yes. But that is very drastic. I don't even talk back to her and try my hardest to keep all my opinion to myself... My first choice is always non-confrontational. So that being said... changing the locks although very practical but something I can't bring myself to doing? Maybe after I kick my husband out, bah...
Anyway she can be very thick skin and thick headed. Pretense or on purpose, I am not sure. E.g. when I had a chance to get back the keys she plainly refused. When our mailbox changed keys she took my husband's keys to make a duplicate. Yes! Even mailbox keys!!
surely that will freak her out!
Or you apply webcam all over the house....whenever she touch something, call her/home and check what she looking for. -
3Boys:
That is way too controlling. You need to get your husband on your side on this first, then move to constrain your MIL.straffan23:
[quote=\"nightlone\"]think u should change the locks... and not give her the key...
Logically, yes. But that is very drastic. I don't even talk back to her and try my hardest to keep all my opinion to myself... My first choice is always non-confrontational. So that being said... changing the locks although very practical but something I can't bring myself to doing? Maybe after I kick my husband out, bah...
Anyway she can be very thick skin and thick headed. Pretense or on purpose, I am not sure. E.g. when I had a chance to get back the keys she plainly refused. When our mailbox changed keys she took my husband's keys to make a duplicate. Yes! Even mailbox keys!!
When a couple get married, they are menat to 'cleave' from their parents and form a new family unit. Your DH priority is to you, not his mum. Bash that thought into his thick skull if you need to......[/quote]I am sure her MIL is the kind who will cry and tell her DH she has wasted her life raising him, might as well die early etc etc. My own mother was like that, right down to the keys. Fortunately now she has found new obsessions.
Straffen, hang in there. To be honest if my MIL is like that, I would have lost my temper long ago. But it is my own mother... :faint: The guilt trip is definitely there. If I change the lock, she will hate me forever. But things are much better now, and fortunately my hubby doesn't mind. -
ammonite:
Your post reminded me of something. Since my mil installed cable TV, she is always in better mood
I am sure her MIL is the kind who will cry and tell her DH she has wasted her life raising him, might as well die early etc etc. My own mother was like that, right down to the keys. Fortunately now she has found new obsessions.
Straffen, hang in there. To be honest if my MIL is like that, I would have lost my temper long ago. But it is my own mother... :faint: The guilt trip is definitely there. If I change the lock, she will hate me forever. But things are much better now, and fortunately my hubby doesn't mind.
Even when we call, her tone is in a hurry (I think she wants to watch her TV). We are happy to pay for her cable TV 
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straffan23:
nightlone:
think u should change the locks... and not give her the key...
Logically, yes. But that is very drastic. I don't even talk back to her and try my hardest to keep all my opinion to myself... My first choice is always non-confrontational. So that being said... changing the locks although very practical but something I can't bring myself to doing? Maybe after I kick my husband out, bah...
Anyway she can be very thick skin and thick headed. Pretense or on purpose, I am not sure. E.g. when I had a chance to get back the keys she plainly refused. When our mailbox changed keys she took my husband's keys to make a duplicate. Yes! Even mailbox keys!!
i thot your reply would be \"she'll make a new set!\" or \"dh will give her the new keys!\"
well... drastic habits call for drastic measures... sometimes is called boh pian... :nunchuk: -
straffan23:
Anyway she can be very thick skin and thick headed. Pretense or on purpose, I am not sure. E.g. when I had a chance to get back the keys she plainly refused. When our mailbox changed keys she took my husband's keys to make a duplicate. Yes! Even mailbox keys!!
Electronic locks. you can always re-program anytime you want. :imcool: -
I like the above idea. U can change the password every now and then, and if she asks, u can say its for security measures and u forget to tell her. After a few times of unable to open the lock, prob she may call before she comes?
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wow…really impress with all the "proposals" to stop the mil from entering the hse.
what abt any proposal to prevent the mil calling too often? my mum proposed my dh shld carry 2 phones.Off the one which she has the number when we r out running errands or traveling.
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