SAHP or working is better?

[Tri-mum]

KSP:

Tri-mum:

If your spouse will be posted overseas, will you give up your job to stay home so that you can spend more time with your child since the other half is not around?

The spouse going oversea should to get a better deal like the company can send the child/children to the local international school and the other half can also follow. That way the couple don't have to be seperated and one of them can stay at home to look after the children.

Yes, we can move there as a family but being a KS parent, I'm afraid my DD cannot catch up with Spore's education system if we decide to come back 2 years later coz many told me International school are usually quite relax .
[quote]lovekidsverymuch
Why not take up part-time job so do when kids in the school rest of the time can sit at home enjoying with them then can get extra cash for ur pocket money [/quote]Yes, this is most likely the option.....preferably 5 hours in the morning and can be home to receive my gal when she finishes school....Don't know what job can accomodate flexi working hours.....

[KSP]

MMM:

I am just wondering what will happen if the kids come back to Singapore and no longer on expat package. It will be a heavy burden to continue to send the kids to Int'l schools. Also, in the event that the school continue to keep a place for the child, will the child be able to catch up for major exams???? It's not easy.

MMM:

Sorry if your hubby is going to be posted to China. I think you should go too. It's too risky. Sorry not trying to scare you but sometimes when one gets bored given that they are all alone in a foreign land, things do happen in a moment of folly or when there are too many temptations around.

This can happen anywhere not only China. If you ask me to weigh between family and child education. I will take family. The child can still try to catch up when we return or in the worst situation lose 1-2yrs. But once the family is broken, that's forever.

[nettie]

lovekidsverymuch:

MMM:

Sorry if your hubby is going to be posted to China. I think you should go too. It's too risky. Sorry not trying to scare you but sometimes when one gets bored given that they are all alone in a foreign land, things do happen in a moment of folly or when there are too many temptations around.

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I fully agreed! I seen too many cos men are not saint! :frustrated:

[Tri-mum]

MMM:

Tri-mum:

If your spouse will be posted overseas, will you give up your job to stay home so that you can spend more time with your child since the other half is not around?

Sorry if your hubby is going to be posted to China. I think you should go too. It's too risky. Sorry not trying to scare you but sometimes when one gets bored given that they are all alone in a foreign land, things do happen in a moment of folly or when there are too many temptations around.

:lol: agreed with you...i will never agree of his overseas posting if it is in China... :nunchuk: However on 2nd thought, anywhere can be possible. It's really a test for our marriage.

[KSP]

Tri-mum:

Yes, we can move there as a family but being a KS parent, I'm afraid my DD cannot catch up with Spore's education system if we decide to come back 2 years later coz many told me International school are usually quite relax .

You can look for a school that follows Singapore Syllabus.

[toddles]

MMM:

Tri-mum:

If your spouse will be posted overseas, will you give up your job to stay home so that you can spend more time with your child since the other half is not around?

Sorry if your hubby is going to be posted to China. I think you should go too. It's too risky. Sorry not trying to scare you but sometimes when one gets bored given that they are all alone in a foreign land, things do happen in a moment of folly or when there are too many temptations around.

Yup, I agree.

Tri-mum, As far as it is possible, the whole family should go along, especially if your spouse will be going overseas for more than say half a year. Cos I've heard too many real life stories of bad things happening.

[KSP]

Tri-mum:

MMM:

[quote=\"Tri-mum\"]If your spouse will be posted overseas, will you give up your job to stay home so that you can spend more time with your child since the other half is not around?

Sorry if your hubby is going to be posted to China. I think you should go too. It's too risky. Sorry not trying to scare you but sometimes when one gets bored given that they are all alone in a foreign land, things do happen in a moment of folly or when there are too many temptations around.

:lol: agreed with you...i will never agree of his overseas posting if it is in China... :nunchuk: However on 2nd thought, anywhere can be possible. It's really a test for our marriage.[/quote]If you choose to stay in Singapore, I think you are not alone. I know there are many in Singapore. I saw some of them always holding a blackberry to stay in touch with their hub and reporting whtatever thing happenng here.

[Tri-mum]

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BTW where is he getting posted?[/quote]Most likely HCM[/quote]

[MMM]

toddles:

Cos I've heard too many real life stories of bad things happening.

Yes... it's true. It's not restricted to China. I've heard cases from China, Philippines,etc.... Someone we know eventually gave up his pregnant wife and unborn baby for another woman :x Anyway, the lady is happily remarried. I was just thinking, probably the place with lowest risk IMO is a chinese man going to India to work :roll:

I do travel for biz and sometimes up for a week. Hubby and kids will call me every evening but it's just not the same being physically at home. You also want to avoid being on the phone for too long due to call charges,etc... One week is fine but after the 3rd day and enough of exploring around, things will start to get really bored.

[MMM]

lovekidsverymuch:

Tri-mum:

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BTW where is he getting posted?

Most likely HCM

wats HCM :?[/quote]Ho Chi Minh