9 years old boy wants to quit the piano lesson

[piano24]

shirley.tamzil:

My DS is 9 too, interest in his piano is also dwindling, not sure if it has to do with the fact that school work starts to pile up from lower pri to higher pri, or they are growing up and startinng to have their own minds now. I don't really push him for his piano and have also pass on my 'low' expectations to his piano teacher. I think for a child to learn music, it's more for their enjoyment and an alternative for them to de-stress in future if they enjoy it.

Hi, Shirley:
I agree with you, it is more for his enjoyment and an alternative for them to reduce the stress in the future if they enjoy it. But currently he really does not enjoy it, he told me that his friends do not play piano and he does not want to practise as well. I know it is common for the standard kid to go up and down , I am trying to figure out if now is the time for us to do some change , hopefully it is better for him in the future finally

[orchids]

My tuner said his son (alrdy got his piano diploma) hardly got time to play on the piano as he is now very busy as a medical student. This makes me wonder if it’s worth the effort when ultimately the skill is not put to good use.

[EstherTan]

orchids:

My tuner said his son (alrdy got his piano diploma) hardly got time to play on the piano as he is now very busy as a medical student. This makes me wonder if it's worth the effort when ultimately the skill is not put to good use.

Perhaps it's not so much of a music career, but the other aspects of learning piano playing that your child might unconsciously (or consciously?) using. Things like psycho moto coordination skills (reading music scores and translating it into finger movements), taking it one step further when it involves legs (stepping of pedals).

The inherent 'discipline' needed for music making is transferable to every learning situation. No other form of discipline can better prepare the mind and spirit for the challenges of studies and life.

The benefits of learning music is not something that exists in the form of direct returns

[sakura_2009]

EstherTan:

orchids:

My tuner said his son (alrdy got his piano diploma) hardly got time to play on the piano as he is now very busy as a medical student. This makes me wonder if it's worth the effort when ultimately the skill is not put to good use.

Perhaps it's not so much of a music career, but the other aspects of learning piano playing that your child might unconsciously (or consciously?) using. Things like psycho moto coordination skills (reading music scores and translating it into finger movements), taking it one step further when it involves legs (stepping of pedals).

The inherent 'discipline' needed for music making is transferable to every learning situation. No other form of discipline can better prepare the mind and spirit for the challenges of studies and life.

The benefits of learning music is not something that exists in the form of direct returns

That's what many people told me and and if google the web, they would probably have the information about the benefits of playing piano....hmmm, I've not really seen those benefits yet though...oh well, right now its more for his enjoyment, but if he does really get those 'benefits', then it will be an extra 'bonus' then... :celebrate:

[adhdadhd]

sakura_2009:

adhdadhd:

Congratulation!
You may want to inspire by asking him to skip grade, got straight to Grade 3. We done that together with the piano teacher, and my DS was motivated.
But now, he is slowing down, barely touched piano, we also decided to go along with him, as he cope with a sudden jump of study stress in P5.. Piano teacher also agree to slow down, but focus on figuring techniques.

:thankyou: adhdadhd. For the skipping of grades, I will let the piano teacher decide if DS can do it. If the teacher feels that he is competent enough to skip grades, by all means. If not, I will just let DS continue in his own pace. I would rather he continue to 'enjoy' his lessons, rather than make him feel that learning piano is just like another academic subject....

Welcome, yes indeed was the piano teacher's recommendation to skip.
Not mine.. yah, own pace is great approach.

[Donkey Kong]

In my opinion, music is to be enjoyed and to be tested.


For boys, unless they want to be professional musicians. Otherwise, no point going thru all exams. Part-time piano teachers? Most parents prefer ladies.

So, I think it is not necessary to go thru those exams. :celebrate:

[adhdadhd]

Children’s motivation to learn need to be inspired by a role model. If parents are playing piano, the kids will be more inspired, right? Boys look upon their father as role model…


So we should not behave like gov.sg, so obsessed about $ return per learning. If your kid is top in PSLE, the school and principal get a bigger cut in value creation than your kids, and for the matter of fact, they will not bother to tell you, this top kids received tuitions in which centers!

so what kind of system is this? gov.sg set up the competitive (kiasu) platform, we parents struggle with means for kids to go top… at the expense of their play time and dream time…

Music instruments, and the melody they produced, are inspirational and a possible vents of stress, anxiety, anguish, emotions … we’ve been teenagers before, and we know by and large, music, dance and songs, movies had helped us coped with life, effectively abated our sufferings (of studies, love life etc) in various stage of life.

Music is one way IMHO, would broaden the mental spectrum of a child, so that they will not see parent only, is about studies! psychologically, they may figure out that there are more ways out in life, not only academic.

You want a kid to bring you more $, or you want a kid to be happy? is your choice of course.

[corneyAmber]

Actually there is no need to quit totally if you are not sure of the interest, just go slower in the learning and should the interest pick up again, the gear will auto ramp up.


Often we like to solve a problem using an ‘on’, ‘off’ switch but honestly if we look around, many things are not exactly that way. If you have already bought the piano, it would be a waste to do a switch ‘off’ and when interest returns, you have to turn ‘on’ again.

So if just slow down the learning and allow the child to experience a wider repertoire of music, by the time he hits 20, he will still be competent enough.

[Donkey Kong]

adhdadhd:

Children's motivation to learn need to be inspired by a role model. If parents are playing piano, the kids will be more inspired, right? Boys look upon their father as role model..


Music instruments, and the melody they produced, are inspirational and a possible vents of stress, anxiety, anguish, emotions .. we've been teenagers before, and we know by and large, music, dance and songs, movies had helped us coped with life, effectively abated our sufferings (of studies, love life etc) in various stage of life.

You want a kid to bring you more $, or you want a kid to be happy? is your choice of course.

I play the piano plus few others, but my kid doesn't like at all. So I pick up wrong baby at KK? :? I like to read my kid doesn't.

I quit halfway and continue learning without taking exams. I find piano exams are stressful and of no use to me becoz I never wish to be music teacher. Just play for fun, like kids playing XBox or PSP.

[piano24]

Donkey Kong:

I play the piano plus few others, but my kid doesn't like at all. So I pick up wrong baby at KK? :? I like to read my kid doesn't.


I quit halfway and continue learning without taking exams. I find piano exams are stressful and of no use to me becoz I never wish to be music teacher. Just play for fun, like kids playing XBox or PSP.

I do not even think about the exam, and he is with the slow progress for quite a while already, he is still interested in music, but all those bonus like discipline and persistent , that are hard to him.

I agree there is no much motivation has been inspired, and he is the only one who plays piano at home now, which is so unfair to him , what are the good ways to inspire it though, it is just not easy for the parents who do not play the instruments.