9 years old boy wants to quit the piano lesson
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phankao:
Wow! I know of many kids who actually stop learning piano at around 11 or 12 due to heavy study workload and preparation for PSLE etc, and yet your DD wanted to continue on her own and even achieved grade 8... I think that's really a great achievement :celebrate:
Haha. My daughter had some tough time at around 9 or 10years old and her teacher went along with her and experimented with other genres of music. By the time she was 11, she just wanted to continue herself, even tho' actually she's the \"just pass\" type. And she continued this until her grade 8, which I think is quite marvellous for her standard already!sakura_2009:
Honestly at that point I thought that if he said he wants to give up piano, I'm quite ready to let it go. Maybe his interest is really gone, maybe he just don't have that 'music' inclination in him, maybe I should just put his music school fees to better use...but to my HUGE surprise, he said he wanted to continue and he will try harder so that he can get at least a Credit in Grade 2!! I'm quite speechless at that moment...but oh well, it just shows that some kids can be quite resilient
So there you go...he continues with his lessons and for some strange reasons, he seems to be enjoying his lessons better than before.... -
sakura_2009:
My sentiments exactly. My DS has been learning the piano for 2.5 yrs, since age 3. I very much prefer that he goes thru the grades serially than skip grades (even if he's able to). Piano playing should be a hobby, to de-stress from exam. I've some friends who were grade 8 and never touch the piano in their adulthood. What a pity.
:thankyou: adhdadhd. For the skipping of grades, I will let the piano teacher decide if DS can do it. If the teacher feels that he is competent enough to skip grades, by all means. If not, I will just let DS continue in his own pace. I would rather he continue to 'enjoy' his lessons, rather than make him feel that learning piano is just like another academic subject.... -
My DS is 9 too, interest in his piano is also dwindling, not sure if it has to do with the fact that school work starts to pile up from lower pri to higher pri, or they are growing up and starting to have their own minds now. I don’t really push him for his piano and have also pass on my ‘low’ expectations to his piano teacher. I think for a child to learn music, it’s more for their enjoyment and an alternative for them to de-stress in future if they enjoy it.
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sakura_2009:
Wow! I know of many kids who actually stop learning piano at around 11 or 12 due to heavy study workload and preparation for PSLE etc, and yet your DD wanted to continue on her own and even achieved grade 8... I think that's really a great achievement :celebrate:
My dd did her g8 at 15. Really is \"just pass\" kind of standard. She'd fail parts of her exam like scales & sight-reading and even at least 1 of her pieces. And she wasn't diligent in practising, except for the 2 months or so before exam. ;( -
shirley.tamzil:
My DS is 9 too, interest in his piano is also dwindling, not sure if it has to do with the fact that school work starts to pile up from lower pri to higher pri, or they are growing up and startinng to have their own minds now. I don't really push him for his piano and have also pass on my 'low' expectations to his piano teacher. I think for a child to learn music, it's more for their enjoyment and an alternative for them to de-stress in future if they enjoy it.
Hi, Shirley:
I agree with you, it is more for his enjoyment and an alternative for them to reduce the stress in the future if they enjoy it. But currently he really does not enjoy it, he told me that his friends do not play piano and he does not want to practise as well. I know it is common for the standard kid to go up and down , I am trying to figure out if now is the time for us to do some change , hopefully it is better for him in the future finally -
My tuner said his son (alrdy got his piano diploma) hardly got time to play on the piano as he is now very busy as a medical student. This makes me wonder if it’s worth the effort when ultimately the skill is not put to good use.
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orchids:
My tuner said his son (alrdy got his piano diploma) hardly got time to play on the piano as he is now very busy as a medical student. This makes me wonder if it's worth the effort when ultimately the skill is not put to good use.
Perhaps it's not so much of a music career, but the other aspects of learning piano playing that your child might unconsciously (or consciously?) using. Things like psycho moto coordination skills (reading music scores and translating it into finger movements), taking it one step further when it involves legs (stepping of pedals).
The inherent 'discipline' needed for music making is transferable to every learning situation. No other form of discipline can better prepare the mind and spirit for the challenges of studies and life.
The benefits of learning music is not something that exists in the form of direct returns -
EstherTan:
That's what many people told me and and if google the web, they would probably have the information about the benefits of playing piano....hmmm, I've not really seen those benefits yet though...oh well, right now its more for his enjoyment, but if he does really get those 'benefits', then it will be an extra 'bonus' then... :celebrate:orchids:
My tuner said his son (alrdy got his piano diploma) hardly got time to play on the piano as he is now very busy as a medical student. This makes me wonder if it's worth the effort when ultimately the skill is not put to good use.
Perhaps it's not so much of a music career, but the other aspects of learning piano playing that your child might unconsciously (or consciously?) using. Things like psycho moto coordination skills (reading music scores and translating it into finger movements), taking it one step further when it involves legs (stepping of pedals).
The inherent 'discipline' needed for music making is transferable to every learning situation. No other form of discipline can better prepare the mind and spirit for the challenges of studies and life.
The benefits of learning music is not something that exists in the form of direct returns -
sakura_2009:
Welcome, yes indeed was the piano teacher's recommendation to skip.
:thankyou: adhdadhd. For the skipping of grades, I will let the piano teacher decide if DS can do it. If the teacher feels that he is competent enough to skip grades, by all means. If not, I will just let DS continue in his own pace. I would rather he continue to 'enjoy' his lessons, rather than make him feel that learning piano is just like another academic subject....adhdadhd:
Congratulation!
You may want to inspire by asking him to skip grade, got straight to Grade 3. We done that together with the piano teacher, and my DS was motivated.
But now, he is slowing down, barely touched piano, we also decided to go along with him, as he cope with a sudden jump of study stress in P5.. Piano teacher also agree to slow down, but focus on figuring techniques.
Not mine.. yah, own pace is great approach. -
In my opinion, music is to be enjoyed and to be tested.
For boys, unless they want to be professional musicians. Otherwise, no point going thru all exams. Part-time piano teachers? Most parents prefer ladies.
So, I think it is not necessary to go thru those exams. :celebrate:
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