No Problem is problem

[buds hubs]

:!: :!: :!: After reading what has been written in this thread...I am utterly lost for words. :faint:

[Donkey Kong]

adhdadhd:

My taxi driver neighbor said since circle line and Marina San opened, taxi biz droped. Personally, I felt Ochard road crowd also down significantly.


All the people ended up 'investing' agressively in IR... instead of shopping....

We will see, if shops in orchard are not sustainable, rental will drop, and bubble will burst...

I already suggested Govt to set up new business units to accomodate older PMETs. Dunno when they will do something. Anyone above 40 is very vulnerable. Companies are not very keen to hire this age group. Look out for posts soon.

But, it seems to me everyone is changing jobs this season. :?

[Busymom]

daisyt:

We all know right from the beginning, when we decided to have children, it is our responsibility as a parent, to guide them, love them and teach them. Maybe there should be a vow for the parents to take, after child birth, just like marriage vow. In life, nothing is easy.

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[dolphinsiah]

No women like to be a \"Mad Women\" at home....

Why we behave like that....



Is because the husbands are not providing us enough...

They expect the wives to bring in the bacon$$$
be the maid...be the tutor...be their cook...be their mum....

I also want to dress up to go shopping ...have high tea ...do manicure
come back just entertain my husband....
but can meh!!!
Unless my husband is a billonaire... :love:

Local mothers are very attached to their kids and very defensive about the families...

You think like those \"young grass\"...USE YOUR BRIAN

I feel so frustrated ....why I choose to marry ...such a heartless man...
He comes home sit in front of the TV....
Weekend is for his Golf and God...

Whereas me I have to slaught...check the kids homework...communicate witht the kids....do housework...go the supermarket....do the laundry...ironing....

And still yet complain that his pants are not iron properly....



I so stress...I am hanging on and enduring this marriage...for the sake of my kids....

I do not quarrel with my spouse because ...I do not want to affect my kids...they are innocent....

I always tell my kids ...once they grow up....I might leave their Dad....

Another more 10 years.... I will gain my freedom....

[daisyt]

Hi dolphinsiah, just do whatever you can, we are not wonder women. If you are really struggling on housework, why don't get some part time helper? OR come out a duty roaster, get your children to help out some tasks. I think its fair, to talk to the children, that you need help. As for cooking, no need to cook everyday. Maybe 2 to 3 times a week.


Once, my child told me. Her teacher encouraged them once a while, to spare some time out, to do things they like, ALONE. Eg, walk in the park, jogging, read a book ... alone. I find this quite true and good, we have so many roles to play in life, especially after marriage. We are parents of our children, friends of our children, friends of our friends, colleagues of our colleagues, children of our parents etc. But hey, don't forget, I am, me, myself and I too.

[cmm]

daisyt:

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Once, my child told me. Her teacher encouraged them once a while, to spare some time out, to do things they like, ALONE. Eg, walk in the park, jogging, read a book ... alone. I find this quite true and good, we have so many roles to play in life, ....

Fully agree with this one, daisyt. I absolutely need my alone time regularly to preserve my sanity. Day to day routine is so busy & packed, we're always jumping from this task to the next mindlessly.

Work never ends....

[dolphinsiah]

daisyt:

Hi dolphinsiah, just do whatever you can, we are not wonder women. If you are really struggling on housework, why don't get some part time helper? OR come out a duty roaster, get your children to help out some tasks. I think its fair, to talk to the children, that you need help. As for cooking, no need to cook everyday. Maybe 2 to 3 times a week.


Once, my child told me. Her teacher encouraged them once a while, to spare some time out, to do things they like, ALONE. Eg, walk in the park, jogging, read a book ... alone. I find this quite true and good, we have so many roles to play in life, especially after marriage. We are parents of our children, friends of our children, friends of our friends, colleagues of our colleagues, children of our parents etc. But hey, don't forget, I am, me, myself and I too.

Good morning Daisy,

Thanks for the encouragement....Yes I fully agreed in life we have so many hats to wear...

At home we are somebody mother, wife , daughter
At work we are somebody staffs...

But if I can turn back the clock...I will not make so many mistakes in life...
So I always tell my kids ....I do not want them to follow my marriage path...

Most important is they must learn to take care of themselves...get a good job...

Marry or not important...
Have kids or not not important...

Marriage and kids are very HUGE Responsibles!!!

Most important must know how to look after themselves.
The world is round ....there is so many things to entertain us...

What the most important is have $$$$!!!

[hquek]

dolphinsiah:

No women like to be a \"Mad Women\" at home....

Why we behave like that....

Is because the husbands are not providing us enough...

They expect the wives to bring in the bacon$$$
be the maid...be the tutor...be their cook...be their mum....

I also want to dress up to go shopping ...have high tea ...do manicure
come back just entertain my husband....
but can meh!!!
Unless my husband is a billonaire... :love:

Local mothers are very attached to their kids and very defensive about the families...

You think like those \"young grass\"...USE YOUR BRIAN

I feel so frustrated ....why I choose to marry ...such a heartless man...
He comes home sit in front of the TV....
Weekend is for his Golf and God...

Hey dolphinsiah,

you're not the only one. I have to be maid to 3 boys (not men) and to the house. DH can come home, turn on tv, turn on pc and be king. I will be the bumblebee rushing here to pack this, there to do that....he is off work earlier than me, but when I get home - kids homework not done ('becos DS dunwan to do' is a reason), kids comm book not checked. BUT, farmville harvesting is done, mafiawar is fought....wah lau eh....I also want to pengz.

I'm different from you - will tell DH off....and to his credit, he's been very much more on. at least he does try to chip in here and there. dunno how/why he wake up, but I'm thankful for every help given.

Very strange. if he does housework, he's helping ME....if I do housework, I'm definitely not doing him a favour...sometimes I really wonder why the disparity.

[hquek]

It’s fun thinking about what if I had all the time to myself and remembering the days BEFORE I had kids, before I was married…but then, family and kids bring about a different type of joy and experience.


Honestly, being resentful is hardwork. I have since stopped nagging at DH for not helping out and will follow just do it. No point to poison our relationship further. And when I do housework, I take it as exercise and I am happy when the place is clean even if my standards are really low at this time. Most importantly, I’m slogging away for my kids.

[Funz]

hquek:

Very strange. if he does housework, he's helping ME....if I do housework, I'm definitely not doing him a favour...sometimes I really wonder why the disparity.

Haha. I like this part.

DH & I had this ironed out long time ago. At that time we were newly married, no maid, no kids. He still wanted to continue with this singleton lifestyle. Golf, mahjong, pubbing. After an arguement about his not putting in his share in maintaining the house, he had the gall to tell me ok, he cancel his golf session for that weekend to 'HELP' me with the housework. I got fedup cos after all the talking and arguing, he still thinks it is my responsibility and he is doing me a favour. I went on strike. Refused to wash any of his clothes. He woke up 1 morning and realised that he was out of underwear. :lol: Asked me what happened I told him oh I did not know that you want me to 'HELP' you wash your clothes. Ok. Saturday I cancel my gossip session and 'HELP' you with the laundry. That night itself he came home with at least 10 more pairs of new underwear. And from then on, he pitched in and will offer to do the laundry or vacuum the floor. After some time we decided to get a part time maid cos we are really do not fancy spending 1/2 the weekend catching up on household chores.