In-law problems?
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My ILs would be hitting the 70+ soon (another 3 years). Hubby is the only son and ILs has two other married daughters. One SIL married a only child, the other SIL married the only son. Both SILs not staying with their ILs.
We used to stay tge till my second child was 3plus. Had one major quarrel with MIL. The last draw was during my second child’s K2 graduation concert. Sth happened and I lost any bit of respect left for MIL.
Now that both ILs are getting old, is it my duty to move the whole family back? Hubby has not mentioned anything. Dun know if he is waiting for me to suggest willingly or he really has not thought abt it.
Moving back means many adjustments for all. -
Mrs Ang:
Did you'll celebrate Mothers' Day with your mil? I didn't
It is a yearly event. Cant escape. I brought along a thick story book to read. -
Jennifer:
This week is the exam period, my nephews and nieces needs to prepare for the exam. Hence last week no celebrate for Mother's day. This weekend I am going to celebrate at my mum's pl.Mrs Ang:
Did you'll celebrate Mothers' Day with your mil? I didn't
It is a yearly event. Cant escape. I brought along a thick story book to read.
that my SIL didn't organise..cos every yr she will call or text my hubby to celebrate for my MIL, I hate to :siam:
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shine_fs:
This week is the exam period, my nephews and nieces needs to prepare for the exam. Hence last week no celebrate for Mother's day. This weekend I am going to celebrate at my mum's pl.Jennifer:
[quote=\"Mrs Ang\"]Did you'll celebrate Mothers' Day with your mil? I didn't
It is a yearly event. Cant escape. I brought along a thick story book to read.
that my SIL didn't organise..cos every yr she will call or text my hubby to celebrate for my MIL, I hate to :siam:[/quote]BB went for jab on friday so got fever....haha I used it as a reason for not celebrating 
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Mrs Ang:
lucky u..... :evil:
BB went for jab on friday so got fever....haha I used it as a reason for not celebrating -
winth:
got the same impression too (but i might be too sensitive). mil sometimes went : \"oh, she is going as well??????\" and then a long pause and who's gonna look after kids?\".
MIL: So, like dat, who will take care of the kids?
(I was totally confused... she got me there and I couldn't answer...)
I interpreted from the conversation as me and my kids are excluded.
i just laughed, tag along and make myself happy.
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Hello all!
Just saw the latest topic on Mother's Day hence I just share here:
For my MIL my hubby cooked a REALLY WONDERFUL Mother's Day lunch for her! He cooked EVERYTHING including baking a cake!
He roasted a lamb as main course, did giant asparagus and baked portabello mushrooms. Oh...he also made tomato soup as starter, not can soup but from fresh tomatoes!
I did not help at all because I am hopeless in cooking.
What did my MIL says? Needless to say she was very touched but I expected it and she said to me \" You should have done this ma...!\".
Yes, MIL, I will try next time...perhaps on Father's Day.....
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DesertWind:
What did my MIL says? Needless to say she was very touched but I expected it and she said to me \" You should have done this ma...!\".
haha, my MIL wud have said the same thing. don't know why all DILs are expected to be good cooks
. If I do cook on mother's day, sorry I'm cooking for my own mom not you lah 
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DesertWind:
Wow, your DH is really sincere & filial. If I did that, my mum will think that either I'm dying of cancer or more likely trying to borrow money from her
He roasted a lamb as main course, did giant asparagus and baked portabello mushrooms. Oh...he also made tomato soup as starter, not can soup but from fresh tomatoes! .
Your kids would have taken a leaf from this, and next time they will also cook for you guys. Isn't this wonderful. -
Jennifer:
For my case, there r 3 sons in DH family. DH is the middle child, and in my thots, staying with PIL is not our duty :oops: But sad to say, my mil is not an easy going woman, see her once every week for that 5 mins, i will also :x . Think we do not belong to the same \"key\", our conversation dun click.....My ILs would be hitting the 70+ soon (another 3 years). Hubby is the only son and ILs has two other married daughters. One SIL married a only child, the other SIL married the only son. Both SILs not staying with their ILs.
We used to stay tge till my second child was 3plus. Had one major quarrel with MIL. The last draw was during my second child's K2 graduation concert. Sth happened and I lost any bit of respect left for MIL.
Now that both ILs are getting old, is it my duty to move the whole family back? Hubby has not mentioned anything. Dun know if he is waiting for me to suggest willingly or he really has not thought abt it.
Moving back means many adjustments for all.
My elder BIL always argue with MIL, they can't have a nice,smooth chat,mostly end up both screaming with each other. Anyway, BIL & his family has been stationed overseas for these years, and extended another 4 years, it is unlikely MIL (FIL had passed on 2 years back) will be staying with elder BIL. And with both their strong characters, i dun think BIL would like to if he is in Singapore.....
As my younger BIL, he is still single, stays with MIL (MIL's flat has been paid, so no loan repayment to worry) but attached with long run relationship. Sound like they r settling soon :roll: , i wonder if they would stay with MIL....Again, this younger BIL is just like his elder bro who \"buay gum\" with MIL type....MIL said thing like disowning younger BIL during a recent quarrel....I was shocked!!!
I dun deny DH is the MOST filial among the 3 sons.......He is the only son (as compared with the other 2 BIL) who can chat with MIL without screaming at her......
I never raise my concern to DH anything on regards of letting MIL coming to stay with us while she can pass down her flat to younger BIL, but i really pray hard NO NO NO. Over these years, the 2 extra rooms in my house have been renting out so as to \"keep away\" MIL from moving here. Now DS1 is older, we have already decided to let him have a room to share with DS2 by end of this year. Will MIL grab the chance of moving in and squeeze with 2 DS????
Now MIL is in her mid 60s,still able to move freely around by her own, no worries for us. But years down the road, i really dare not to think, especaillyyounger BIL is getting married, will he push MIL to us??? I mention to DH that BIL should get their own flat, instead of staying with MIL since they all (MIL,BIL & future SIL) \"buay gum\". Dun touch MIL's flat since it is hers, she can continue have a roof peacefully by herself...... DH juz :roll:
Sound that i am bad, but i REALLY REALLY dun wish to stay with MIL/she moves in with us.........Another 20-30 years, will i have the same treating as her by my future DIL????
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