Do you compare your kid's marks with others?

[24by7mum]

ksi:

We are not into results comparison simply because even if someone is doing better, it still has no bearing on us or our child. Relative results are pegged to ability and luck. If my child is not straight \"A\"s material I am not going to drill her until she becomes straight \"A\"s just to be the same as the next child. If my child is not as lucky under exam conditions and do worser than a child whom I know the ability, I am not going to bash my child up simply because I know in reality, she has the ability to do to her next level of ability has she not been unlucky under exam conditions. But if it is due to an attitude problem, then I would be unhappy with the attitude than the results. Not-up-to-par result against her usual self is just an indicator of the attitude and there may be some deep-seated issues that I need to be concerned about.


I am happy to understand and know the true ability of my child. Results are just processes they have to go through due to the system and that alone cannot change my perception of my child's ability, so why need comparison?

The only time I need to understand relative results in a cohort is I know if she is performing to par according to school's benchmark or the school sets too difficult a paper and causes a Black Monday.

Having said this, there is one form of comparison we always make. Whenever someone complains their child is bad in this and that, we will jump in to say, wait till you deal with ours.... If that comparison counts, then we do that alot... :lol: :lol: :lol:

Totally agree. The important thing is the attitude and the effort. Doing the best that they can should be enough!

[RRMummy]

ksi:

RRMummy:

During my secondory school days, our crazy History teacher made those who failed eat a piece of the test paper!! Talk abt crazy! :stupid: :stupid: :stupid:

This must be a patient of IMH....actually the teacher needed more help...could not cope with failure......i.e. fail to teach.

Yalor.. can punish students for her own failure meh.. chey... :spank:

:rant: Don't even see how eating the test paper will help?! Infact it just creates more fear and resistance towards the subject... seow lang that 1!! :stupid: :stupid: :stupid:

[RRMummy]

ksi:

We are not into results comparison simply because even if someone is doing better, it still has no bearing on us or our child. Relative results are pegged to ability and luck. If my child is not straight \"A\"s material I am not going to drill her until she becomes straight \"A\"s just to be the same as the next child. If my child is not as lucky under exam conditions and do worser than a child whom I know the ability, I am not going to bash my child up simply because I know in reality, she has the ability to do to her next level of ability has she not been unlucky under exam conditions. But if it is due to an attitude problem, then I would be unhappy with the attitude than the results. Not-up-to-par result against her usual self is just an indicator of the attitude and there may be some deep-seated issues that I need to be concerned about.


I am happy to understand and know the true ability of my child. Results are just processes they have to go through due to the system and that alone cannot change my perception of my child's ability, so why need comparison?

The only time I need to understand relative results in a cohort is I know if she is performing to par according to school's benchmark or the school sets too difficult a paper and causes a Black Monday.

:goodpost:

[tamarind]

ksi:

If my child is not straight \"A\"s material I am not going to drill her until she becomes straight \"A\"s just to be the same as the next child.

I agree. But I know of parents who are very angry with their kids for scoring 80+ marks. 80+ marks is already A, right ? Parents are not only aiming for straight As, they are only happy when their kids are number 1, which may mean 100 marks for every subject.

I still don't understand why so many parents and teachers think that 80+ is not good enough.

In A levels and university, students only know their grades in the final exams. There is no difference between 85 and 99 marks.

But in primary school, even if a child gets 99 marks, she may be ranked number 10 ! Since there may be kids scoring 99.1, 99.2, 99.3, ..., 99.9 :stupid:

[1littlegal]

I totally can understand if kids are in the same sch or same class. But can you imagine I have relative keep comparing her gal result with my gal? They are totally in 2 different schools. Keep shower her gal result like spelling, ting xie, etc always get 100 marks.Can I ask how to compare result when they in 2 different sch? Is this fair to compare like this? How can I deal with her next time? :?

[Brenda10]

Do you believe? There is one of my dd classmate mother’s always like to find out all types of information. E.g. She likes to find out types of story books the rest read! I remember she ever asked me about the name of the author we usually choose, no. of pages of the book and even the FONT size. :!:

[24by7mum]

Brenda10:

Do you believe? There is one of my dd classmate mother’s always like to find out all types of information. E.g. She likes to find out types of story books the rest read! I remember she ever asked me about the name of the author we usually choose, no. of pages of the book and even the FONT size. :!:

Unbelievable - i pity her kids!

[Luvkid]

tamarind:

Just curious. Are there any parents out there who actually say \"Well Done\" when your child gets 80+ marks ?

I will. I know where DS1 stands. He can't strive for very high mark nor borderline pass. For mark that stands above 75, i would be happy. Of cos, i can't stand if he makes careless mistake :rant:


For my own case, i will ask DS who gets the highest for ________ test? He always blur blur and replies,\" Dun noe, dun noe....\" :roll: But i dun go to parents and ask how many marks their DD/DS score, instead i ask them,\" Your DS/DD doing ok? Pass can already, dun ask for sky lah......\" :oops: Only ask 1 or 2 parents, not all of them.


p/s: That history teacher ask to eat the paper, he/she should eat infront of the whole class first lah! :siao:

[RRMummy]

Luvkid:

p/s: That history teacher ask to eat the paper, he/she should eat infront of the whole class first lah! :siao:

she. yup super :siao:

we were so naive then.. didn't even know that we had the right to complain.. :roll:

[markfch]

RRMummy:

Luvkid:

p/s: That history teacher ask to eat the paper, he/she should eat infront of the whole class first lah! :siao:

she. yup super :siao:

we were so naive then.. didn't even know that we had the right to complain.. :roll:

If that history teacher is doing this now, he/she will really be history. Front page of New Paper maybe too.