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    Any parents here ever felt pressurized by others?

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      markfch
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      insider:
      The 'elite' and the 'commoners'...
      My ex-boss said that in this world, everybody is equal. It's just that some people are more equal than others :scratchhead:

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        i3mum
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        Haha I cannot imagine the kids start to compare on the hospitals.. my 3 kids are all from KKH too ! I had identical twins and the only twin specialist was at KKH. And I met a mummy who was also pregnant with identical twins, supposed to be following up at Mt A, but was referred to KKH instead.


        On the day before her delivery at KKH(supposed to be a c-section), she received a phone call from KKH, they informed her to go to SGH for delivery instead, as they do not have enough wards for her. KKH always reserved the priority for their own KKH patients & those who are referred from other hospitals are considered as private patients.

        And from what I understand too, even the babies whom are borne in other hospitals and if they need to be followed up for some other reasons, they will be referred back to KKH, which will also be considered as private rates!

        vicki:

        Toking about comparing... i heard from a fren that in a popular all-girl school in a rich area -- apparently the primary school girls actually compare which hospital they were born in -- and if it is Raffles Hospital -- it is high class - and if it is KK - then - no class....

        When i heard it, i was like -- err... my boys all KK kids leh!! Haha -- dont care lah -- but still kids been kids -- i think they might be 'hurt' -- but then hopefully boys dont compare such things!

        In any case, will teach my kids how to retort back if he actually meet such situation. Hopefully he doesnt though.....

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          i3mum
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          hehe what is \"some people are more equal than others\" ? The elites?

          markfch:
          insider:

          The 'elite' and the 'commoners'...

          My ex-boss said that in this world, everybody is equal. It's just that some people are more equal than others :scratchhead:

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            i3mum
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            :love:

            minnie2004:

            When I went to RGPS on Mon to check out the registration situation, I saw a daddy drop off his daughter from his bike. I think it's pretty cool, at least it's environmentally friendly :love:

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              daisyt
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              verykiasu2010:
              centraljava:

              Yup, precisely ...

              commedian Hossan Leong expressed similar views recently ...

              “Do they take the MRT? Do they take public transport? They don’t. They have no idea what’s going on. \"

              I once had a casual conversation with an 'elite' scholar a little bit abt my work involving the post office
              as dropoff points for office equipment repair. He snidely remarked when their printer spoils
              they just buy new one. In my heart i was sad, that even tho he came from humble background, he'd become
              out of touch with the common folks' lives ...

              :rotflmao: about the printer

              do you know it is more expensive to buy the ink cartridges than to buy a new printer (with a set free ink cartridges) ? some more the new printer is of new model ..... if the ink cartridges is priced at not more than 20% of a new printer, if might be more useful to replace the cartridges ...... there is nothing elitist about it.

              money talks or :moneyflies:

              True, it can be cheaper to buy a new printer. Sometimes after a couple of years, cannot even find the ink cartridges. We are forced in such situation when comes to IT gadges. 😄

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                HyperKiasu
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                verykiasu2010:
                RRMummy:

                [quote=\"mango\"]
                remind me of this relative who got into the top boy sec school but refused to let his hawker father drive him to school in his pickup.

                oh dear.. that is sad.. 😞

                know of this girl, father owns a bicycle shop, so send her to school on bicycle

                now the girl also in a top IP school, and the father still fetches her in a van. what so wrong about it ?

                be proud of your father !

                even Jim Roger sends her daughter to school on a bicycle[/quote]yalor, we parents shall first better know what 不卑不亢 is

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                  myWQ
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                  I was guilty of that in my pri sch days too. I was from an elite sch and most parents who ferried their kids drove big continental cars. My dad was one of the few who drove a jap car. I was embarrassed and told him to let me off outside the sch gate. Guess what, he just continued to stop right in front of the pick-up/drop-off point where everyone was waiting.


                  I’m glad my dad did not listen to me. I will be sending my kid to my alma mater in a few yrs and I would do exactly the same thing if it happens to me.

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                    sleepy
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                    HyperKiasu:

                    yalor, we parents shall first better know what 不卑不亢 is
                    I guess it's easier said than done. We all know what's the right thing
                    However, peer pressure is a huge thing to kids who are eager to gain acceptance

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                      Lock
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                      I homeschooled my kids when they were in Kindergarten as were tempted to homeschool in Primary level but succumbed to pressure and sent them to govt sch.


                      When DD was in P1, I still did lots of homeschooling stuff with her cos I believe in getting the kids to have the joy of learning and shunned away from exam papers and assessment bks. Lo and behold, after a horrible SA1 results, I succumbed to pressure again and started drilling her in exam papers and assessment bks. Naturally, her interest in learning dropped drastically though her SA2 results shot up. 😞

                      I struggled with the pressure for her to do well academically and pressure from my own set of belief in what education should be. Finally, after numerous struggles and tensions (with my dd), I try to strike a balance between preparing my dd n ds for the exams and getting them to enjoy learning. My view is that a little competition and push is fine, as long as the kids still have the joy in learning. However, we should stop pushing once kids show signs of hating to learn, cos that will not do them any good in the long run.

                      Pressure (be it external or internal) is very real and I doubt anyone can be totally oblivious to it. Guess what's important is that once in a while, we take a step back to reflect and reassess the situation we are in so as not to be sucked in the overwhelming and senseless rat-race.

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                        sleepy
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                        Lock:

                        I struggled with the pressure for her to do well academically and pressure from my own set of belief in what education should be. Finally, after numerous struggles and tensions (with my dd), I try to strike a balance between preparing my dd n ds for the exams and getting them to enjoy learning. My view is that a little competition and push is fine, as long as the kids still have the joy in learning. However, we should stop pushing once kids show signs of hating to learn, cos that will not do them any good in the long run.
                        :goodpost:


                        I run my own syllabus at home too, independent of my dd's P2 school syllabus. The next best thing to homeschooling her entirely 😉

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