Lied - Would you expose her???

[metz]

KingRascal:

Just find it disheartening to know how competition can make a person do the undesirable...

Erm, I thought this is the most common type of people? During my school days, there would be some who claimed that they didn't have time to study, sure fail etc... Then it turned out they always topped the class. And from certain sources, these were the very ones who secretly requested for past year papers/notes from seniors and mugged away for exams ...

So, it doesn't come as a surprise when I meet such kind of parents. As a matter of fact, I think I just got to know one recently.

[corneyAmber]

Ya lor....as common as slice bread leh...


Real ugly competition is if she tries to influence the coach to give the opportunity to her kid who is not as good and deprived other well-deserved children of that opportunity. :lol:

[KingRascal]

I have already made it very clear that going on a competitive level for my D'S is not what I am looking as it's too time-consuming...so it's perfectly alright for her to admit that she is giving her child more. So there is nothing that she shd hide


I was just joking with my DH that she didn't want us to know for fear that her child could not perform despite the extra training!

ksi:

Ya lor....as common as slice bread leh...

Real ugly competition is if she tries to influence the coach to give the opportunity to her kid who is not as good and deprived other well-deserved children of that opportunity. :lol:

[KingRascal]

Thought her act was pretty foolish as her child is bound to blurt it out some day…


To me, there is a difference between secrecy and deception. Our children are observing each and every of our acts. We have to ensure that we are setting a right standard for them to follow.

[kiasu_pig]

It’s doesn’t benefit one to expose one’s weakness or lies, might just be good to smile and keep quiet; unless one’s own benefit is been compromised. If there is nothing nice to say about another person, then the best is to keep quiet (and smile). Because the world is just too small, never know when one needs the another help; although one may be seem to be more superior than another at this instant of time, the wheel of change (or fortune) may turn. Nothing is permanent, except change[s] and death[s].

[Little M]

Nah, I wouldn’t expose her. As long as we know what is happening, that’s all it matters.


As what the other guy said, no point in getting another enemy. We may need her help one day?

[Fettuccine]

KingRascal:

Thought her act was pretty foolish as her child is bound to blurt it out some day...


To me, there is a difference between secrecy and deception. Our children are observing each and every of our acts. We have to ensure that we are setting a right standard for them to follow.

I could not agree more with you, KingRascal. It really doesn't matter how hard they are secretly working but to me, being deceptive and competitive to someone you know is really ungracious, or should I say unscrupulous.

Sorry for using such harsh words, but I have an acquaintance who is deceptive as well. She is someone I trusted, whom all her questions I left not unanswered. I gave her tips when she asked and shared information. However, like you said our children are observing our every acts. One day, her child \"exposed\" her lies.

I thought I must be nuts to verify with someone over her claims. But lo and behold, she did lied. She had been very selfish, and I had my common expectation as she is a close confidante. That pretty much draws the line across. Anyway, I communicate less with her, and now feel so much merrier for being a lesser fool

[metz]

KingRascal:

Thought her act was pretty foolish as her child is bound to blurt it out some day...


To me, there is a difference between secrecy and deception. Our children are observing each and every of our acts. We have to ensure that we are setting a right standard for them to follow.

Studying hard secretly (or privately) is definitely not a problem. The problematic ones are those that mugged secretly but went around telling others there's no need to study etc.

Those parents I know, haha, they don't even remember which (lie) version they have shared. I have learned to let them go and laugh over them with my hubby or friends.

Fettuccine:

I thought I must be nuts to verify with someone over her claims. But lo and behold, she did lied. She had been very selfish, and I had my common expectation as she is a close confidante. That pretty much draws the line across. Anyway, I communicate less with her, and now feel so much merrier for being a lesser fool)

Don't fret yourself over such incidents. Simply not worth the effort.

[KingRascal]

Nah, I’d not take any action already. Hehe, just wonder if there’d be this moment whereby her child blurted that out in front of the whole group of parents!:-):-)

[tankee]

Off hand I could think of a few possible reason why she is hiding that fact


- she is afraid of being chided for being kiasu
- if her son performed well, people might say it is due to the extra trainings and not that her son is good
- if her son did badly, people laughed that she waste her money on talentless child