Lied - Would you expose her???

[Little M]

Nah, I wouldn’t expose her. As long as we know what is happening, that’s all it matters.


As what the other guy said, no point in getting another enemy. We may need her help one day?

[Fettuccine]

KingRascal:

Thought her act was pretty foolish as her child is bound to blurt it out some day...


To me, there is a difference between secrecy and deception. Our children are observing each and every of our acts. We have to ensure that we are setting a right standard for them to follow.

I could not agree more with you, KingRascal. It really doesn't matter how hard they are secretly working but to me, being deceptive and competitive to someone you know is really ungracious, or should I say unscrupulous.

Sorry for using such harsh words, but I have an acquaintance who is deceptive as well. She is someone I trusted, whom all her questions I left not unanswered. I gave her tips when she asked and shared information. However, like you said our children are observing our every acts. One day, her child \"exposed\" her lies.

I thought I must be nuts to verify with someone over her claims. But lo and behold, she did lied. She had been very selfish, and I had my common expectation as she is a close confidante. That pretty much draws the line across. Anyway, I communicate less with her, and now feel so much merrier for being a lesser fool

[metz]

KingRascal:

Thought her act was pretty foolish as her child is bound to blurt it out some day...


To me, there is a difference between secrecy and deception. Our children are observing each and every of our acts. We have to ensure that we are setting a right standard for them to follow.

Studying hard secretly (or privately) is definitely not a problem. The problematic ones are those that mugged secretly but went around telling others there's no need to study etc.

Those parents I know, haha, they don't even remember which (lie) version they have shared. I have learned to let them go and laugh over them with my hubby or friends.

Fettuccine:

I thought I must be nuts to verify with someone over her claims. But lo and behold, she did lied. She had been very selfish, and I had my common expectation as she is a close confidante. That pretty much draws the line across. Anyway, I communicate less with her, and now feel so much merrier for being a lesser fool)

Don't fret yourself over such incidents. Simply not worth the effort.

[KingRascal]

Nah, I’d not take any action already. Hehe, just wonder if there’d be this moment whereby her child blurted that out in front of the whole group of parents!:-):-)

[tankee]

Off hand I could think of a few possible reason why she is hiding that fact


- she is afraid of being chided for being kiasu
- if her son performed well, people might say it is due to the extra trainings and not that her son is good
- if her son did badly, people laughed that she waste her money on talentless child

[hquek]

I will smile and know in my heart what kind of person she is. She could be insecure etc, but really there is no reason to lie.


I used to share information and tips freely with a friend. But got frustrated when this is a one way street. Anything I ask her, she'll return with a mono-syllable. Have learnt my lesson also and not be so kp to share info with others easily....only exception is in ksp lah - I still blah out when I think something's good.

[duriz]

Good job in keeping your peace and not exposing her, KingRascal.

Not such a rascal afterall :celebrate:

God give us strength to be good people and not to mess too much. And please help people (try to) be as truthful as possible and may those who lie outwardly and lie about their lying have diarrhea in the MRT

Just kidding (which part, you decide)

[KingRascal]

Hey!! I was like that and still am if I find a friend sincere...except with one mum whose child is the same class as mine. I was really free in sharing everything. Until one fine day when I discovered she withheld information from me despite my asking. I woke up since then when it comes to sharing with her.

hquek:

I will smile and know in my heart what kind of person she is. She could be insecure etc, but really there is no reason to lie.

I used to share information and tips freely with a friend. But got frustrated when this is a one way street. Anything I ask her, she'll return with a mono-syllable. Have learnt my lesson also and not be so kp to share info with others easily....only exception is in ksp lah - I still blah out when I think something's good.

[fussyMummy]

nowadays.. how many are really sincere? :?

[auntieM]

fussyMummy:

nowadays.. how many are really sincere? :?

Very well said fussyMummy.. ...
At least in KSP you can get more 'real' info.. ...