In-law problems?

[duriz]

Mrs Ang:

Thanks....My family have already brought presents for my DD so celebration with my family is confirmed ON

Glad to hear, I like to wish your darling DD an early birthday :love:

[hapydino]

Mrs Ang:

hapydino:

Mrs Ang


i did a budget one at my own place when my daughter turns 2.. did not cross my mind to invite my IL and my DH nv mention so only my family, nanny's family as well as a few of my close friends turn up..

i ordered cupcakes and sakae sushi and all have a great time..

when DD turn 1, nobody ask, nobody remembered so we only celebrated with a ice cream cake from Ben & Jerry's and had a blow candle cut cake ceremony @ Ben & Jerry's in GWC with DD's godpa..

Thanks....My family have already brought presents for my DD so celebration with my family is confirmed ON For my DH family, I believe mil will juz give a $20 red packet if she remember. Mil has only brought one gold necklace on DD full mth birthday. The necklace is from a pawn shop which I'm not sure is it new or old.

ur family so sweet!!

my MIL same, her annual contribution towards DD is only $28 x 2 (cny and belated birthday angpao)..

good lar, hope all goes well..

happy birthday to your DD!!

[Mrs Ang]

duriz:

Mrs Ang:

Thanks....My family have already brought presents for my DD so celebration with my family is confirmed ON

Glad to hear, I like to wish your darling DD an early birthday :love:

Early birthday wishes for your DD too :celebrate:

[tree nymph]

I’m staying with my PIL in my FIL’s house - at his request and numerous pleadings with me, even though there are so many clashes and unhappiness.


For #1’s first month, we did it at home. We had a lot of problems after that, even though the people we invited are MIL’s relatives! how absurd can this be? We had another one at my mum’s place for my own relatives and our friends…

From then on, we actually hold the other two first months outside, not at the house anymore.

[Mrs Ang]

hapydino:

ur family so sweet!!

my MIL same, her annual contribution towards DD is only $28 x 2 (cny and belated birthday angpao)..

good lar, hope all goes well..

happy birthday to your DD!!

Yup, my family love my DD a lot unlike my DH family only talk but no action.
Thanks on DD's behalf :love:

[tree nymph]

Mrs Ang:

tree nymph:

Mrs Ang,
Yah, I think you just invite lah. At least when your DD looks back, she will still see the fotos that these people are there because her mum is still bothers to invite them for a 'complete' pic. At the very least, your MIL still cares for her mah...

Another way of viewing at things - at least your PIL are the people who gave you your DH... so invite them lah. If they chose not to come, at least you 问心无愧！

Yes, my mil care for DD in a certain percentage only. DD is her first and only grandchild till now but she view herself more impt. Unlike other mils that I heard who will take care of their grandchildren no matter what. My mil just throw the ball back to me at the very last min and still trying to continue this game.

Mrs Ang,
Sorry huh, I didn't want to be seen as the MIL supporter. If you have looked back on this thread, you will read my 'stories'. I've been through you have had experienced.

I just wanna tell you that MIL has no obligation to look after your children. They looked after theirs already and maybe they like to have their own life back. So we hor, better take care of our own.

[duriz]

LKVM:

Mrs Ang and Duriz I wish both ur DD a very happy early Birthday :celebrate:

Thank you dear LKVM :celebrate:

[duriz]

LKVM:

So very true, also we should also ask ourselves whether we will be able to look after our grand kids :?

I hope to be a ke ai lao ren.
Seen but not heard.

[Mrs Ang]

tree nymph:

Mrs Ang,
Sorry huh, I didn't want to be seen as the MIL supporter. If you have looked back on this thread, you will read my 'stories'. I've been through you have had experienced.

I just wanna tell you that MIL has no obligation to look after your children. They looked after theirs already and maybe they like to have their own life back. So we hor, better take care of our own.

It's ok...don't need to apologise. I understand that mil has no obligation. I didn't force her either but then she shouldn't have done so many things to make me :x . I will not be staying so far away if not for her :stupid:

[3Boys]

LKVM:

tree nymph:

I just wanna tell you that MIL has no obligation to look after your children. They looked after theirs already and maybe they like to have their own life back. So we hor, better take care of our own.

So very true, also we should also ask ourselves whether we will be able to look after our grand kids :?

We often judge others by their actions and ourselves by our intent.

I too think grandparents have no obligation to look after grandkids. If they express a lot of affection and love for them, well and good, if they don't it'll be disappointing and hurtful, but ultimately, they have done their duties in life and we can't hold it against them for being disinterested. Thankfully, mine (both sides) have been swell so far :xedfingers: