In-law problems?

[rocklee]

Hi Buds


For a while I thought all's well for you since you have not visited this thread for a long time.

Sorry to hear that your problem is still not solved. Your MIL sure is a tough woman to deal with.

I think there is really nothing much you can do now. It's up to your hubs to make a decision. So please cheer up for the sake of your bb. Your bb can feel it if you are stressed you know.

Hope your bb can bring you luck and your life can be back to normal again. I will pray for you ok.

:hugs: Take care!

[hapydino]

just a random tot… after this incident any possibility of Buds’ MIL mellow and tone down given the tables have been turned and she is now IN Bud’s house instead of the other way round??

[buds]

autumnbronze:

Aiyoh buds ....

Aiyoh is quite the word for it now, autumn sista. :slapshead:

autumnbronze:

I am mentally going \"arrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh .... :stupid: :x :rant: :nunchuk: :torchme: :heresmyfish: :heartbroken: :frustrated: :spank: :pokeeye: :slapshead: as I am ploughing (to MIL issue) through your posts today ....

Gawd, you know me so well already! :lol:
I'm going the same aaaarggggggghhhhh :stupid: :x :rant: :nunchuk: :torchme:
:heresmyfish: :heartbroken: :frustrated: :spank: :pokeeye:
:slapshead: just like you are now!

Reading through the posts i'm sure you can feel the drama unfolding
bit by bit and driving one nutz! :faint: I'm so stressed out. :frustrated:
I dunno if i have any hairs left by the time the day's over! :faint: Mind
bogglingly exhausting. :faint:

autumnbronze:

Yah and my next question is the same as LKVM - what will you do if they wanna move in???

:frustrated: AAAAAARRRRRRRRGGGGGGGHHHH!!!! :frustrated:

autumnbronze:

Can you get your parents to 'pakat' and to move in with you temporarily, using your current physical state as a reason. At least your mummy and daddy can be your pillars of support. Can buds_hubs say no to that??? You've 'ren' his parents now for 10 yrs .... you shdn't be subjected to this anymore lah .....

My family has always been my pillar of strength to date with or without
being present physically in my life all this time. They are the saints and
the guardians god had helped keep by my side to go through this insane
life turbulence of mine. No issues and no worries on their end.

My family has the no intrusion policy since i've been married unlike the
other side.... i guess unless time really calls for it... they would be with
me in a second if need be.

[3Boys]

"Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh."


Time for your hubs to cut the apron strings. Harsh, but necessary. I don’t know the rights or wrongs of your situation, but if this drives you nuts, it is your prerogative as the wife to say NO.

[buds]

hapydino:

just a random tot.. after this incident any possibility of Buds' MIL mellow and tone down given the tables have been turned and she is now IN Bud's house instead of the other way round??

HER? No way hosei!
She's empress dowager.
Command respect kind.
Dun care where.. the disadvantage
is i am a stay home parent so i've
to face her daily and once her day
is done, she faces hubs with her
other side. Whatever it is, i want
to command my respect now, no
matter how she sees it. She made
me feel invisible the last time hubs
invited her and the rest for a visit...
to see the place and for a small
makan. Frankly, i dun give a damn.

[hapydino]

i like this line…


"Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh."

i have told my HB right from day 1 too… and reminded him every now and then…

[duriz]

buds, buds, a real bright spark

Things will go your way
buds_hub, better buck up
And make things go her way

Your new home will be filled with love
Your two lovely DDs, and baby in your belly
There will be singing and laughter
Joy and everything tender

You deserve all these and more
I hope and pray for you to have it all

:hugs:

[buds]

3Boys:

\"Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.\"


Time for your hubs to cut the apron strings. Harsh, but necessary. I don't know the rights or wrongs of your situation, but if this drives you nuts, it is your prerogative as the wife to say NO.

It IS harsh indeed... and frankly i'd hate to see them in that plight. But
who's there to empathise with me? No one ever did except you guys here,
my family and the very very few friends whom i trust enuf to offload or
else i'd go mental already. I battled post natal depression with DD1 &
a doc & nurse friend was extremely kind to help me through... my family
too definitely. If i had to go through pre-natal and posta-natal this time
round with #3, gosh.... i dunno where to begin.... :faint:

I have gone to hell and back with this family and i do think it is worth
my giving this a final shot. I sure hope my decision was right. I don't
make vows and promises for the sake of it.

[buds]

hapydino:

i have told my HB right from day 1 too.. and reminded him every now and then..

I too thought the same but i relented and sacrificed for the love for my
husband... in consideration of his dilemma... in the pride of how i had
been raised by my family well enough to respect my elders & understand
their silver journey.

The sad part was definitely that he failed to see through what i've done
to make sure we are together as a family... no matter where we were.
When things happen at home, he'd just say dun care where we live right
as long as there's a place to live... a roof over our heads. I thought it is
supposed to be a home where family is... a sense of belonging... where
we can be happy together, but to solve or rather dismiss the issues at
hand which he thinks are petty or rather he tries not to dwell on them...
he says it can just be a house where everybody lives.

There. Problem solved right?

[Funz]

reading what is happening with Buds, I feel like I am watching one of those taiwan serial where it is neverending. I want to bash some sense into the husband and scream into the face of the evil MIL and at the same time, turn some of that wrath against the hapless FIL. Then I also want to tell the ever suffering wife to stop being a doormat for everyone to trample all over. Gosh the frustrations. And I am not even the one going through all these.


Dear buds. Am so sorry that you are facing this. Especially to have had a taste of that which you have been yearning for all these years only to have it being taken away. How cruel can that be. All I can say is I am rooting for you and whatever the outcome, have faith that the big guy up there will not throw you something that you cannot handle. You have said what you needed to say to your DH and you cannot be any clearer. Let it go and leave it in the hands of God for now. Hopefully that will give you some peace and solace.