In-law problems?

[caroline3sg]

Why all MIL like that?


Janet, won’t your hubby say anything about your pouring of "dirty linen" here?

Mooncake festival coming. Don’t forumers here rush to buy mooncakes for parents, parents in law? With this kind of treatment still buy mooncakes for them?

[Andaiz]

caroline3sg:

Why all MIL like that?


Janet, won't your hubby say anything about your pouring of \"dirty linen\" here?

Mooncake festival coming. Don't forumers here rush to buy mooncakes for parents, parents in law? With this kind of treatment still buy mooncakes for them?

Caroline3sg, I still buy mooncake for IL's. In fact, we are collecting special flavoured mooncake from HK from a friend today. We do this out of love, even if they don't treat us well.

My MIL ever gave the mooncakes we gave her to SIL's (then BIL <DH's brother> and SIL not married) mother. Only thing was it was the flaky pastry kind and we told her to put in refrigerator. She didn't and (as usual) then claim we didn't tell her (I assure you she is more bi-lingual than I am and the box also carries the same warning).

SIL's mum returned them and said that it was \"not fresh\", she (MIL) then asked me if I wanted it back and purposely brought it to my place with the half eaten portion :stupid: - to which I calmly said :\" but mama, what would I do with it? We've given them to you, you see what you want to do with them YOURSELF.\" :roll:

Now, we buy what FIL wants to eat (and she vetoes) and its mixed flavours coz he likes the nuts and the yolks. She gives away again? We give it to him AND her together!

Ohhh, won't I be able to tell you more of such faux paux! THink we KSP forummers can go write a manual!
:celebrate: hang in there sisters!

[duriz]

LKVM:

Yes I agree can surely write manual or guess its written with almost 200 pages :roll:

Wow. 200 pages of ranting/grousing.
We should put that in a manual, for brides-to-be to understudy.
Else next time KSP gets interviewed, the media realises that the most popular pages are the \"In-Law Problems\" and \"Playground - Games\" :oops:

[cmm]

cherrygal:

......I will not be relegated to a palace maid in my own home that I used my money and CPF to buy. Speak to me again if he can afford the property by himself, without any help from me.

LOL! I like this! You go, gal! :celebrate:

[jedamum]

RE: Mooncakes and MIL

ah...my MIL is pretty nice to me (she gave me her collection of cutlery and dining ware for my new house :D), i had never bought mooncakes for her before; i had never bought anything for her before nor cook for her before. it is because i know she has 'higher/more exquisite tastes' and she may feel awkward receiving my gifts. so my way of showing concern is to make sure that my son call her every night and her son call her at least once a week.

and i don't buy mooncakes for my own mum too; cos she tends to give things away (ie when my sis bought mooncakes for her, my mum actually gave me some ).

[cherrygal]

Thank you LKVM, Janet, Mrs Ang, Cmm etc who supported my views...


My views can be overly strong for some, esp those who are meek and respectful in nature. It takes a \"i-dun-care\" attitude to pull it off and bulldoze through.

My colleague who's being bullied by her MIL keeps ranting about her MIL but never dares to say what she feels. By keeping silent, she's inviting more trouble as her MIL is testing her limits. No reaction = can irritate further

As I refused to visit my MIL with my dd, she decided to drop by unannounced one day then tried to carry dd. But dd started to cry and MIL commented that dd has a bad temper and loved to cry (unlike her fave grandson by her other son). I just took dd back and told her dd was alright until she came and dd didn't like \"strangers\". I know I am notti... but just can't stand there and watch dd being labeled a bad tempered kid by someone who doesn't even see her often.

[vicki]

Wow! I count myself lucky so far. Mil stays with me and helps me with most of the housework (changing bedsheets (mine!!), light mopping and sweeping etc).


Of cos there are still things that i have to do on a daily basis, (aka, the laundry, ironing etc.)

So far, no quarrels with her (after 3 yrs of staying together) and we all can get along quite ok. Maybe cos both of us generally quite chin chye!

I must thank my lucky stars.

[Mrs Ang]

My SILs and MIL don't know how to appreciate good mooncakes. They go for quantity in lieu of quality. I brought a $50 mooncakes (4 pcs in a box) for them once and they commented that the mooncakes tasted the same as those made by my MIL :!: My MIL's mooncakes have thick snowskin and taste below average. Therefore, I have stopped buying mooncakes for them ever since. My DH will just give his mother a $50 red packet instead. However this year we will be getting them mooncakes from Bengawan Solo as we need to clear some left over vouchers.....haha....guess what....my DH agree to my suggestion! I still have not decide what mooncakes to buy for my parent but will be something nice. Am I being bad? Who cares!!!

[Mrs Ang]

vicki:

Wow! I count myself lucky so far. Mil stays with me and helps me with most of the housework (changing bedsheets (mine!!), light mopping and sweeping etc).


Of cos there are still things that i have to do on a daily basis, (aka, the laundry, ironing etc.)

So far, no quarrels with her (after 3 yrs of staying together) and we all can get along quite ok. Maybe cos both of us generally quite chin chye!

I must thank my lucky stars.

You are very lucky!

[janet88]

vicki:

Wow! I count myself lucky so far. Mil stays with me and helps me with most of the housework (changing bedsheets (mine!!), light mopping and sweeping etc).


Of cos there are still things that i have to do on a daily basis, (aka, the laundry, ironing etc.)

So far, no quarrels with her (after 3 yrs of staying together) and we all can get along quite ok. Maybe cos both of us generally quite chin chye!

I must thank my lucky stars.

Wow, you lucky woman...having a MIL staying with you and yet no quarrels.