In-law problems?

[buds]

cherrygal:

I think our own personalities will decide whether we get bullied by our in-laws and husbands or not. If we are the quiet type who is afraid of speaking up, those MCPs and dragon MILs will get their way.

Not really larr dear. My personality is very outspoken yet diplomatic.
It's more a matter of respecting the elders. Hubs is extremely respectful
of mine, and as much as possible i want to render the same to his as well.
It is just really hard when he doesn't really get to see the side that i always
get.

In retrospect, children also learn from observing us... parents. My girls
can understand that aspect of respect. When the ILs try to feed their
minds with anything about me my girls will be the ones standing up
for me. :love: Children are always observing.. they are always
listening, even when we think they aren't.

My girls are very sensitive and they too can understand what i had to
go through.. during tough days, they'd come gimme plenty of hugs &
say, it's ok mummy... we know... and we understand... we are here
for you.

That's why, with our new place the girls are sooo much happier. One
can just tell. Who wouldn't love a place to call their own... :please:

cherrygal:

I will definitely teach my daughter to stand up for herself and never be cornered into situations like what some of the KSP sistas have suffered. My mom always coached me from her own experience so I have learnt to be tough.

At times it is not something that we can teach.. but more to what life's
teachable moments teach us. From my experience, i now know it is not
that easy... and it does differ from one situation to another. My daddie
brought me up to be independent and resilient, and yes stand up for
what is right, but not to the expense of being blatantly rude. Elders
are still elders.

cherrygal:

If DH wanna be mama's boy, then he should live with his mama and not get married.

:rotflmao:

The above is what SIL said to BIL before they were married..
during one of their quarrels. The conversation was heard by
MIL who was eavesdropping over the phone! :lol: Boy, was
she :!: appalled awrite! Her exact words were, \"Go hide
under your momma's armpits like you always do. Until
you're done hiding then you can come find me, that is
only if you still know what this relationship means to u.\"

Guess how far MIL will go in the next phase of her game. :faint:

[RRMummy]

buds:

My daddie

brought me up to be independent and resilient, and yes stand up for
what is right, but not to the expense of being blatantly rude. Elders
are still elders.

:hi5: This is one more thing we have in common coz' that's what my Pa thought us too..

[janet88]

RRMummy:

janet_lee88:

RRMummy,

I do pity your sister for having a MCP hubby...hope she is bearing well overseas. Having a tough nut MIL is stressful enough, but a MCP hubby as well...really jialat.

She has a rather tough time but my dad's dropping over to see her soon so good moral support..

Glad to hear that.

[auntieM]

Glad you're back with a firm stand.. :ugogirl:


Have your ILs considered renting a room on their own?
If your BIL insist on not taking them can 'offer' him this choice.
If you are around when talking to BIL, maybe can record his comments on your handphone secretly.. might come in handy someday..

[janet88]

LKVM:

buds:

When the ILs try to feed their

minds with anything about me my girls will be the ones standing up
for me. :love: Children are always observing.. they are always
listening, even when we think they aren't.

Very true even though my kids are very young but even then they could be siding me if there is any trouble rather than MIL who takes care of them when I am away in the office

Children are very observant...mine here doesn't listen blindly and know who to listen to.

[keikoling]

winth:

Anyone facing in-law issues?

hmm..i'm happy that i don't stay with them although we got to see them at least once or twice a month..and as of now, i don't have problems with them..

[duriz]

LKVM:

keikoling:

[quote=\"winth\"]
Anyone facing in-law issues?

hmm..i'm happy that i don't stay with them although we got to see them at least once or twice a month..and as of now, i don't have problems with them..

wow just joined today then straight away come to this thread first [/quote]I guess it's a universal problem.

[duriz]

LKVM:

hey duriz u changed the pic again wow so chubby this one and thinking so nicely :love: :love: :love:

Yah.
Today I'm in a ever-changing avatar mood

[autumnbronze]

Duriz, your DD's cheeks are sooooooo pinch-a-licious :love:

[duriz]

autumnbronze:

Duriz, your DD's cheeks are sooooooo pinch-a-licious :love:

Heh. Thank you :love: