In-law problems?

[minnie2004]

janet_lee88:

CatTy 007:

Jia jia you Ben nan nian de jing... Must be hard on u. Take care ya

I am very particular about hygiene. That was the hardest part.

same here! It seems my mil's family has v different hygiene standards from my family, and its evident that the bad habits have been passed to her 2 sons. This was also the reason she kicked me out of her house when we visited her in the US when dd was 10 months old. Hygiene was especially important for small babies and it's not something I was ready to compromise. My relationship with mil was never good in the first place and this was like the last straw.

[janet88]

minnie2004:

janet_lee88:

[quote=\"CatTy 007\"]Jia jia you Ben nan nian de jing... Must be hard on u. Take care ya

I am very particular about hygiene. That was the hardest part.

same here! It seems my mil's family has v different hygiene standards from my family, and its evident that the bad habits have been passed to her 2 sons. [/quote]To begin with, the values she passes on are wrong. I cannot accept that.
Hygiene wise, I am very particular esp with SARS and HFMD now.

[Mrs Ang]

janet_lee88:

minnie2004:

[quote=\"janet_lee88\"]
I am very particular about hygiene. That was the hardest part.

same here! It seems my mil's family has v different hygiene standards from my family, and its evident that the bad habits have been passed to her 2 sons.

To begin with, the values she passes on are wrong. I cannot accept that.
Hygiene wise, I am very particular esp with SARS and HFMD now.[/quote]I also have hygiene issue with my mil's family thus my DH is still learning to adapt to my std.

[janet88]

Tell you something which may make you puke. BIL wears underwear SIDE A and SIDE B. If he doesn't go out, he can lie on the sofa/bed and not bathe. :?:


My hubby knows I'm particular about sticky and dusty floor. Toilets must be washed daily and personal hygiene has to be observed.

[duriz]

janet_lee88:

Tell you something which may make you puke. BIL wears underwear SIDE A and SIDE B. If he doesn't go out, he can lie on the sofa/bed and not bathe. :?:


My hubby knows I'm particular about sticky and dusty floor. Toilets must be washed daily and personal hygiene has to be observed.

:faint:

[Nebbermind]

janet_lee88:

Tell you something which may make you puke. BIL wears underwear SIDE A and SIDE B. If he doesn't go out, he can lie on the sofa/bed and not bathe. :?:


My hubby knows I'm particular about sticky and dusty floor. Toilets must be washed daily and personal hygiene has to be observed.

GOSH! u even know how your BIL wears his undies!!!
:!:

[janet88]

My hubby told me lah. So you faint or not ?

So ‘clean’ leh.

[minnie2004]

My MIL and BIL's houses are constantly covered with a thick layer of dust and they don't seem to notice or care.


The last time we stayed at BIL's house in Tokyo, MIL objected strongly that we wear slippers indoors despite the filthy floors. She thought it's impolite as everyone else (mainly BIL's kids) were bare-footed . She also insisted we should clean up before we left (that includes cleaning the rooms, washing all the bedsheets). Who in the world asks a guest to wash his/her own bedsheets?? Luckily we brought our maid. BIL's house turned out to be way cleaner than before our stay .

[buds]

minnie2004:

Luckily we brought our maid. BIL's house turned out to be way cleaner than before our stay .

:rotflmao:

[buds]

CatTy 007:

But i feel it's essential to still stay nearby cos good to inculcate strong family bonds to our children.

One doesn't need to stay nearby to inculcate strong family bonds.
It is the effort that shows, regardless staying near or far... unless
of course if one is engaging or needs help from ILs to care for the
children and such.

If one stays far away, and in Singapore's dot.. (i mean how far away
is far away right?) :roll: ..... the effort and initiatives taken to keep in
touch will be even more evident as children observe their parents
taking the trouble to travel to make those visitations.

Regardless of how my ILs treat me..... (just me... :(), i never shortchange
the importance of kinship and family bonds between us. Whatever issues
they may have are with me & not the children. That too is regardless of
the unjust manner hubs has dealt with me being victimised by them as
well. The children though now can understand the stuff i went through
with ILs cos they see; so they feel for me.. i constantly remind them that
the ILs are still our elders no matter what... and they treat my girls well,
so whatever battles i need to face & endure is entirely mine... not theirs.
Live & let live...

Not that i am wishing bad for anything or anyone, but i do believe in what
goes around comes around. My conscience is crystal clear with or without
a husband to stand up for me and stand up for what is right or for what is
important to us...

For what it is worth, everything i've done for my ILs were out of love and
respect...

For 10yrs long of unrequited love, added on with hostility and endless
troubles to my marriage and my life on the whole... i am hanging on a
thin line between hate and disappointment. I have yet to use the \"hate\"
word on anyone thus far, but i guess there is a saying that there is a 1st
time to everything. My ILs are treading on a very thin line... i am afraid i
do not have that much patience left to go around. I'm all sucked out. I'm
exhausted with all the mind games... the family politics... i'm tired of
trying to please everyone and it has always been at my expense... but
hey, whose counting right?

When hate sinks in, i'm afraid it is gonna be one helluva Jekyll that is gonna
come out... and i sure hate for that to happen. So Mr Hyde better hide.
The softie banana has turned goreng pisang panas over 10 yrs... hawt
awrite... and soooo preggie too... the hormones might just do all the
bitchin...

Goreng Pisang Panas refers to HOT BANANA FRITTERS.
And this one banana is hot from the wok.

CAUTION... beware of scalding.