What you do want or hope your child to work as next time?

[duriz]

Dear ImMeeMee,


Be strong for yourself and your family who needs you. I know it's easy for us to say. But you must believe it so that you can find the strength within. Baby steps everyday :hugs:

[ImMeeMee]

dear all, thanks for the encouragement and kind words. it is heartening to know that there are people who care to put in a kind word in times of need.


I will try to be strong.

[WaWa]

Hi All

I just chanced upon this thread & I had a good read.

Hi ImMM

First of all, hugs to you ImMM & Good work on the arch, arrow & bow piece - nicely written and spells out EXACTLY what lies deep in my heart - the constant concerns, worries I hold so dearly for my son.

We actually "met briefly" over at the autism thread:)

My boy is the same age as your DD.
Non-verbal.
Not much improvement after 1 year of EIPIC.
It hurts me even more seeing him "regressed" … he was once able to maintain quite "ok eye contact" for a short while last year …but this year seems to be a very bad year…everything just slides for him… and for me hence.

Eye contact not there. eyes roaming everywhere. Tantrums. Meltdowns. Flicking of fingers near eyes. Arms flapping. Body rocking. I remembered I was so shocked when i first saw those signs…I couldn’t help but tear…and tear uncontrollably when i started to see him exhibit these traits. I was like "Gosh… so this is it. :!: This is my son. It ended my 1 year of "speculation" if he is indeed autistic". I guess such truth is always awful to accept & really a bitter pill to swallow.

There is a lot more sorrows in me that I would like to share w you but unlike you, I am unable to express my thoughts as clearly as I would like to …cos each time i talk or think about my son, i get mental block, writer’s block. I get choked. I get overwhelmed w emotions. He is sooo into his own world that it scares the wits out of me!

Every time when I am down, I tell myself to pick up & go. I tell myself to stop dwelling in the negatives and remain positive. But i think only parents like yourself know how hard & cruel life can be. As a parent of an ASD child, I have my "meltdowns" too. This is not about whether i can accept my child as he is; i think it is more about how i can help him that tires me out endlessly … and when i see him not making any progress despite all the efforts, i feel "defeated".

On what I would like my child to be when he grows up. I find myself casting a gaze at him & wondering what will become of him next year, 2 years from now, 5 years from now, 10 years from now, or ultimately when he is an adult . Will he ever be normal, and most importantly, what will become of him when i m gone ???.. I guess it is anyone’s guess.

But really…what I would like my child to be when he grows up? I want him to be normal…soon i hope.

[sunset_dae]

While Daddy is driving past a row of private houses:


Child to Mummy: Mummy, I want live in those big houses
Mummy to child: Then u must study hard and earn more $$$
Child to Mummy: One big house for you, one big house for Daddy.
Mummy and Daddy:
Child to Daddy: Daddy, can I have a sweet
Daddy to Child: No, u cant have so many sweets
Child to Daddy: No big house for you!

[daisyt]

Hi ImMM, WaWa, sometimes in life, we take things for granted. Like me ... Ultimately, when I witness different type of kids in my neighbourhood, I tell myself, my only wish for my child is be normal and healthy.


Jia you! You both are the most wonderful mums! Your love for your kids are really selfless and the greatest! Compare to you two, I am so far away :oops:

[jeanllhjc]

Hi ImMeeMee, WaWa, my heart actually ached when I read your posts. It's really tough being in your shoes... a lesser mum would not be able to handle it.So give yourselves a pat on the back, as you have done a good job. During very difficult times with your kids, know that there are parents here who care and support you. Things WILL get better! Keep your chins up!

[ImMeeMee]

dear daisyt and jeanllhjc, thanks for the encouragement.


wawa, i think it would be good if we could continue the discussion on ASD at the ASD thread.

I have posted some comments there. do see. thanks.

[snowman.022851697]

My mum wants me to start a business, but I want to pursue my dream of becoming an SIA pilot.

[DesertWind]

snowman.697:

My mum wants me to start a business, but I want to pursue my dream of becoming an SIA pilot.

Good for you, snowman!

[janet88]

My wish for my kids - grow up happy, have moral values, healthy and pursue their dreams and working hard to achieve them.