Teachers' Violence

[hquek]

Hi jasmineong,


Thanks for providing a good example of what I fear my kids would become. When my kids were a bit younger, there were times when I was not happy with school/teachers and thought to provide feedback/complaint. But a friend counselled me and told me that during her kids' growing up years, they did encounter not so good teachers, teacher favouritising other kids etc kind of stories.

And what she did is to counsel her kids and provide a listening ear....I don't recall her doing a lot of marching in/out of the school. Her approach was more to let the child know that such is life and life can be unfair - so deal with it.

Felt this is good advice. Rather than just managing the teacher/school to fit my child, I think I should bite my tongue at times and manage MY kid to deal with society at large.

It's still a long way for me. I still do fear I'm spoiling my kids too much and they will become a parasite when they are older. I don't know what I'm doing is correct, and can only

[jasmineong]

Hi hquek,


I think explaining and counseling the child is much more effective than
complaining. When we complain, sometimes the child can be targeted more..also I don't want my child to think that he is invincible- nobody dare touch him..if not mummy tigress will come out..I see some parents like that and see the way the kids are..I shudder.

I think if you want your child to be independent and you are training them to do so, should be good lah...they wouldn't become parasite

I also scared and keep this at the back of my mind, that I rather my kids be scolded now and learn to deal with it than next time, they are so fragile they 'break' when they face the harsh realities in life or they are so ignorant of their own flaws, they go around thinking they are right all the time and never learn to change (instead they blame everyone else-like my cousin)

[Brenda10]

jasmineong:

Hi hquek,


I think explaining and counseling the child is much more effective than
complaining. When we complain, sometimes the child can be targeted more..also I don't want my child to think that he is invincible- nobody dare touch him..if not mummy tigress will come out..I see some parents like that and see the way the kids are..I shudder.

I think if you want your child to be independent and you are training them to do so, should be good lah...they wouldn't become parasite

I also scared and keep this at the back of my mind, that I rather my kids be scolded now and learn to deal with it than next time, they are so fragile they 'break' when they face the harsh realities in life or they are so ignorant of their own flaws, they go around thinking they are right all the time and never learn to change (instead they blame everyone else-like my cousin)

Hi jasmineong

Well said.

When we take group photo usually everyone will naturally looking for herself/himself in the photo before switch the attention to the rest right?

Therefore I tell dd If happen she gets scolding from teacher just learn how to take it and do better next time. Because nobody is so free and have time to remember her matter as they also have their own problem to deal with.

[Daddy D]

jasmineong:

I look at him and think he is actually really smart but he cannot tahan probs or stress and because his parents always take his side without trying to teach him resilience, he ends up bumming his life away.. :shock:

Reminds me of the Sunday article... abt our Gen Y kids... pretty sad... and we complain abt FTs taking our rice bowls... but our local kids are not up to the challenges...

[jasmineong]

Brenda10:

jasmineong:

Hi jasmineong

Well said.

When we take group photo usually everyone will naturally looking for herself/himself in the photo before switch the attention to the rest right?

Therefore I tell dd If happen she gets scolding from teacher just learn how to take it and do better next time. Because nobody is so free and have time to remember her matter as they also have their own problem to deal with.

True, just tahan the scolding..unless it is very vindictive otherwise, it would not really hurt the child

[jasmineong]

Daddy

jasmineong:

I look at him and think he is actually really smart but he cannot tahan probs or stress and because his parents always take his side without trying to teach him resilience, he ends up bumming his life away.. :shock:

Reminds me of the Sunday article... abt our Gen Y kids... pretty sad... and we complain abt FTs taking our rice bowls... but our local kids are not up to the challenges...

Ya..very true..FT have a lot of drive and tt makes a lot of difference..our kids need to have tt drive but more than that, be creative and think out of the box for solutions. I think our kids are too passive, they wait for instructions and solutions to be handed out to them. That is why when you put them on a level playing field with FT, they find it hard to compete...

But is it our education system tt makes them like tt (too much spoonfeeding)..but on the other hand, I also do not like too much of the 'free and easy' style of western education. Here, at least our average can write and do maths much better..sigh guess it is up to us parents to make up for the lack of any system..

[atrecord]

I agree that it is good to let the kids take some light knocks/setbacks along the way, so that they can be ready and prepared for challenges later on in life. If they are forever hoping that things will change for them when things are not going well, rather then they themselves changing their ways, it would almost spell trouble in future.

[hquek]

jasmineong:

I think explaining and counseling the child is much more effective than
complaining. When we complain, sometimes the child can be targeted more..also I don't want my child to think that he is invincible- nobody dare touch him..if not mummy tigress will come out..I see some parents like that and see the way the kids are..I shudder.

Agree with you. I also wonder if my kid will become target practice. It'll be very scary if a kid feels he's invincible becos of the mountain behind him - becos once out of the school system, it's likely that mountain may turn into a molehill (unless your surname very powerful).

In any case, despite these stories about teachers using inappropriate methods, I kinda feel that as long as my kid toe the line (not being rude etc), I should not be personally worried about whether I should send him for training to dodge pencil cases/dusters.

[jasmineong]

hquek:

Agree with you. I also wonder if my kid will become target practice. It'll be very scary if a kid feels he's invincible becos of the mountain behind him - becos once out of the school system, it's likely that mountain may turn into a molehill (unless your surname very powerful).

In any case, despite these stories about teachers using inappropriate methods, I kinda feel that as long as my kid toe the line (not being rude etc), I should not be personally worried about whether I should send him for training to dodge pencil cases/dusters.

I like that so funny..ya after leaving school, our 'power' also leaves..
Training to dodge pencil cases? That is hilarious!! By the way, your child is in primary school?

[dunnoleh]

hquek:

... (not being rude etc), I should not be personally worried about whether I should send him for training to dodge pencil cases/dusters.

and then post details on KSP if you find any such training available, please!

especially if it includes training in dodging pencil cases/dusters even while asleep. :rotflmao: