Living with Depression
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Hey Funz,
I was reading The Finder (magazine) and I came across some names - counselling services and life coaches.
If you'd like to have the info, I'll be happy to post them here.
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autumnbronze:
Yup, definitely like to have them. Many thanks.Hey Funz,
I was reading The Finder (magazine) and I came across some names - counselling services and life coaches.
If you'd like to have the info, I'll be happy to post them here.
Anyway, learned something from the life coach I was talking to or rather he reminded me about something. Better not to be formally diagnosed as suffering from any form of mental illness. Especially if it is something that can be resolved through therapy and counselling. Cos once formally diagnosed, you will have problems with your insurance. Definition of formally diagnose, I guess will be if there is a record in IMH or any govt linked psych clinics. -
Dear Funz,
I read this thread all the way through. You mentioned you are an RC? Any possibility of getting help from your church or pastor to do counselling and prayer for you and your DH? Your DH may be more receptive of this than going for other professional help?
I strongly believed in the Christian faith which will provide the spiritual nourishment to our soul and give us peace with God. Also we need a miracle here for God to touch and transform our lives. Also seems that your DD is feeling very insecure and fearful. If you are attending a church or is open to attending one, perhaps can put your girl into Sunday school. Prayer to God is like a life-line in times of helplessness.
I would like to give you a link to my church's website which has a crisis helpline and also which you can obtain some spiritual encouragement like right now because it is just a click away. Will PM you.
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Okie Funz here goes ....
1. AJ Counselling
http://www.ajcounselling.com
2. The Counselling Place LLP
http://www.thecounsellingplace.com
3. Mala Khare (Austrailian trained counsellor and lecturer in Psychology)
[email protected]
91458430
4. InsideOutYou Coaching and Training
http://www.insideoutyou.com
http://www.stellasmum.com
5. Lifesteps Counselling
http://www.lifesteps.com.sg
6. Talkworks (does home visits)
[email protected]
97121029
7. The Center for Psychology
http://www.center4psy.com
These details are from The Finder magazine that I picked up from my DS' art class. Its distributed free there. I believe its also a magazine catered to expatriates here. However, the services provided by the above also cater to locals as well
Hope this helps
Take care
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I didn’t realize I had depression back then…went to polyclinic for a referral to Alexandra Hospital. Got a very patient and caring psychiatrist. She got me started on anti-depressant…my condition is controlled now…except near stressful periods like son’s exams.
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Hang in there. :hugs:
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Thank you all.
I sent an email to DH telling him that I have asked for tentative dates for counselling. When I spoke to him last night, he sounded non-committal. And this morning when I checked my mail, I saw that he sent an email back to me. In it he said he has been entertaining thoughts of ending it all. He wrote a fair bit more about how he feels and also how he is travelling a lot more and not getting many calls from home, or anyone going to the airport to pick him or when he comes home, no one to run to greet him.
I am so angry. I want to scream at him and rant and rail at him. STUPID SELFISH MYOPIC BASTARD!!! Can’t you see what you are doing to your daughter??? Are we not enough for you to feel that life is worth living?What big unsolvable problems do we have? No issues with finance, no major health issues, kids are perfect and normal, no aged invalid parents to support, our relationship is okay if not for this stupid cycle of depression. ARGGGGHHHH!!!
Sorry folks, I have to vent here for I have to reign in whatever I am feeling when I face him. I know a person going through depression cannot help what they are feeling they are not seeing clearly. But I need to explode, and get it out of my system before my kids see me this evening.
I have fixed a counselling session for myself but it could not happen soon enough. -
Funz:
I have fixed a counselling session for myself but it could not happen soon enough.
Sorry to hear Funz.
I cannot comment on your DH and his actions/reactions.
But I'm glad to hear that you are doing something for yourself.
I have consulted a close friend of mine who is a psychiatrist as well as life coach. He provided me with a list which you may use if you wish:
Personal Needs and Goals:
Welcome your sensitivity. Learn ways to use it, especially with others.
Examine, reflect, write down the \"themes\" of your life that you are internally addressing when your spouse is \"depressed.\"
Congratulate your self on your tremendous growth and progress.
Be very specific on the changes you want from him.
List factors that \"hold you back\" from him and vice versa.
List of your greatest personal needs.
Continue working hard on defining your life’s purpose. Your children.
I’m working hard on me, and boy, does that feel good. Also very exciting. But, I’m not sure, sometimes, where that leaves me with you.
I want for us to have a richer relationship but it seems there has been so much pain and hurt, on both of our parts, that I wonder, what that means for our future.
I have some very specific needs that I would like you to meet. But, I know this can be very tricky and rather scary. For example, I would like ____________. If you can do that, great. If not, help me understand what gets in the way. Maybe just give it some thought first, and we can get at it later.
What is your situation? Describe your situation. Let it flow. Don't hold back. Then, ask yourself, \"What does this marriage mean for ME?\" What impact does his depression have on my feelings, thoughts and actions? Then rehearse approaching your spouse/partner with phrases that convey the meaning and impact of his depression for YOU.
My best wishes to you and yours :hugs: -
Dear Funz,
Do give your DH a call to tell him you love him. Also let your kids talk to him and tell him you are all looking forward to see him come back this week. If possible why not just do what he has already said he wants ie. picked him up from the airport with the kids?
Take care, Funz!
:grphug:Funz:
....I saw that he sent an email back to me. In it he said he has been entertaining thoughts of ending it all. He wrote a fair bit more about how he feels and also how he is travelling a lot more and not getting many calls from home, or anyone going to the airport to pick him or when he comes home, no one to run to greet him.
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Funz,
Good that you are moving towards expert help to guide you along.
Duriz , nice pointers,
Just too lazy to do it, but one day i will.
Funz, \"STUPID SELFISH MYOPIC BASTARD\" is what half the wifes would have called their hubby, if not more. In fact that is what i wanted to call DH today morning
U two will get thru this and emerge stronger.
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