All About Pregnancy
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jenniferjoey:
...I am back after 1 month...
I am now 16th weeks pregnant I think... 24 more weeks to go...
Welcome back jenniferjoey! Sorry to here of the difficult pregnancy you are having... perhaps when your kids grow up, they can refer to this thread which is a historical archive of what their mummy went through just to give them life!
As for what hubbies are supposed to do to help out the wife during pregnancies, well, there are some really involved ones and there are some who still do not have a clue. But sometimes, even the very involved ones do get tired... we are human, after all. Focus on the little things that your hubby does that make you happy, and tell him how happy and appreciative you are that he is helping you during this difficult time. The last thing you want to do is to try to make him feel guilty because that will make him defensive and things can spiral downwards from there. Just my 2 cents worth
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Is your husband close to your present daughter? If so, engage her to engage him. I know this is a bit scheming, but … who cares! Talk to your daughter and sort of get her sympathy. If she’s old enough she should be able to sympathize with you, esp. with her sibling on the way. One possibility, get her to go to your husband and say something like, "daddy can you please teach me how to buy [food you are craving for]?" … and I hope he gets it.
Is anything (else) bothering your husband? Eg. at work? I would like to say, as a father/breadwinner, that we men often don’t like to talk about problems at work, but when we get home, it surfaces as a general dislike to deal with family chores, etc. cos it’s our only place of escape (from office). And yes, I know this comes across looking like we’re being irresponsible and unsympathetic. -
Hi jenniferjoey, hope you are feeling much better.. your gal is so caring.. :love: hang in there!
hmm.. when I was preggie, DH also did not immediately fulfill my every craving..
after first 2 times, :idea: I kinda make mental preparation that weekends shall be extra special coz that is when we will go food hunting for the stuff I crave.. good thing - I stopped feeling so upset with him... bad thing - gotta be patient and wait... and you know what, the cravings tamed itself, weekends became exciting for us (me mainly) and special and I was no longer bitter that he was not like other hubbies who go out looking for french fries at 2am (last time 24hr MacDonalds not in yet) 
as for his complaining for his sleep being disturbed because of my cramps.. I leaned over give him 2 big fat kisses,
told him thank you from me and little baby for being so caring... he stopped complaining after that.. 
:wrongmove: the trick I use is not to make him feel he has to but let him do it willingly by getting involved in the changes. I arranged for night checkups to make sure he went for all the Gynae trips. This helped alot coz he could get really involved and see baby growth and heartbeat every month thru the ultrasound...
Hope my sharing helps somehow.. .Come back here and let us know whenever you need support... Think happy thoughts.. me sending imaginary flowers to cheer up your day (too bad no emoticons of flowers)... -
Hi Chief,
I felt I more to grumble and forget type till the next time it happens again. Hmm... My good luck seems to be only one week, I start vomiting again... And mayb becos of the weather, my body temp shoot up, and I have severe headache... Hands and body hot, but head cold... :faint:ChiefKiasu:
Welcome back jenniferjoey! Sorry to here of the difficult pregnancy you are having... perhaps when your kids grow up, they can refer to this thread which is a historical archive of what their mummy went through just to give them life!jenniferjoey:
...I am back after 1 month...
I am now 16th weeks pregnant I think... 24 more weeks to go...
As for what hubbies are supposed to do to help out the wife during pregnancies, well, there are some really involved ones and there are some who still do not have a clue. But sometimes, even the very involved ones do get tired... we are human, after all. Focus on the little things that your hubby does that make you happy, and tell him how happy and appreciative you are that he is helping you during this difficult time. The last thing you want to do is to try to make him feel guilty because that will make him defensive and things can spiral downwards from there. Just my 2 cents worth -
jenniferjoey:
I felt I more to grumble and forget type till the next time it happens again. Hmm... My good luck seems to be only one week, I start vomiting again... And mayb becos of the weather, my body temp shoot up, and I have severe headache... Hands and body hot, but head cold... :faint:
Hi jenniferjoey,
Just hang on there. Come to think of u have passed the most yikes part-the 1st trimester. Now u r in your 2nd trimester. 2nd trimester should be enjoyable.
Try talking to your baby,\"Darling, mummy is suffering. U be good, ok? mummy loves u\" As u say these to your baby, rub gently against your tummy. Sometime, this is pyschology that helps.
Bear with it. Just another 24 weeks to go. :ugogirl: Take care!! -
Sometimes I find myself lucky, even though my girl is already 6 yr old now, I won't need to worry that she will get jealous, not wanting a sibling, or very hard to cope when baby is born with two children as a SAHM.
First of all, beside my hubby, in-laws, my parents... hoping me to have 2nd child, dropping hints every now and then. The most wonderful moment is my girl asked me to born her a sibling. I questioned her back, who is going to help me to looking after the bb. She replied ' I dun know how to feed or bath the bb, How? But I will help mummy to fetch things for you and feed you.' That's the moment I am 100% glad to have a 2nd one, as I know such a young girl also think for her mum.
Thruout these 4 terrible months, my parents and in-laws have been helping me to fetch my girl to and from school and send her to classes which are all my jobs, even Sat and Sun, my MIL surprisingly will call up to bring her over to her house so that I can rest. I hardly step out of the house, the further is nearby shopping centre to acc my girl to ballet class and borrow library books.
With my girl at home with me, I feel so relieving, she looks after not just herself but also me. When I have been lying in bed for sometimes she will check on my latest status, any headache, still giddy, feel like vomiting, need any water, need to call daddy... Then she will fetch it for me, but I still need to wake up early to make her milk. :lol:
Currently my health is very out of control, my vision start blurring at times, when I went downstair to fetch my girl I almost faint in the lift. So scary. Now whenever I am alone at home, I am quite worry that I may just faint anytime. I carry hp almost everywhere at home. At least I can make phone call after I wake up from fainting. -
Hi Chief, RRMummy and the rest of my supporters,
Really thanks you all so much for your supports and encouragements, if not staying at home all the time and feeling you have no where to go for the last four months is terrible. At times I felt bad to rely on my hubby and my whole family so much, sometimes I know they really purposely make trips down to help me or check on me. (Hope I won't suffer from pre/post natal depression)
Hmm.. Although I used to be a pediatric nurse but I am now a patient at home... Who needs all my family(as my nurses) and you all(as my counsellors). I bought lots of Medical reference books at home for this pregnancy period to read thru and prepare myself to be more knowledgeable (If I can) when I go back to work. But somehow everytimes when I open up to read, I will fall asleep after the first page... (Perhaps I can read every night so that my hubby can shorten or escape from massaging me to sleep).
If I ever sound harsh or too longwinded when I replied in the forum, do forgive me. Hee... Due to my former occupation, we are not allow to forget any details which will benefit or save our 'customers'.
As for my craving, it seems less aggressive than last few months. Maybe I give up... Hee... My girl did help me to nag and order food from daddy. If my hubby never comes back with the food I wants, she will scold him, but I somehow felt bad for her to scold her dad. (Disrespecting him mah)
My hubby did thanked me one day to have this 2nd child for us and sorry to make me suffer so much for him, he wished that I could transfer all the sufferings to him. Hmmm... Sound so sweet right! Imagine if our labour pain transfer 50% to our hubbies, firstly they may faint right away or have to take huge dose morphine, finally they won't dare to ask for 2nd child for the rest of their life. Haha... :lol: So funny.
I went for ultrasound again last week 17th weeks, Gynae trying very hard to find whether it's a boy or girl, but my bb just don't want to show. Cover the xxx part with both legs tightly. When I went for scanfor my girl to check for sex also the same, she covered with her whole hand. So have to wait for another month...
Any good confinement ladies to introduce to me? And what should I expect and provide for them when they are around? What's the market rate nowadays??? she don't need to look after or cook for my girl, my parents will look after. -
jenniferjoey:
Hi jenniferjoey, glad to hear that the worst part is finally passing and you do sound like you have cheered up quite a bit now! :ugogirl:Hi Chief, RRMummy and the rest of my supporters,
Really thanks you all so much for your supports and encouragements, if not staying at home all the time and feeling you have no where to go for the last four months is terrible....
It's great that you are seeing things from the bright side - you have a mature girl that is most supportive of you and a hubby that dotes on you despite his own pressures at work. I think lots of mummies will envy you on these 2 counts alone.
Each time we went for ultrascan, my daughter would be spotted sucking her thumb. Really funny. I still have the scans with me - just remember to scan them before they fade away. -
ChiefKiasu:
Hi Jenniferjoey, i totally ditto what Chief just mentioned! :rahrah:Hi jenniferjoey, glad to hear that the worst part is finally passing and you do sound like you have cheered up quite a bit now! :ugogirl:
It's great that you are seeing things from the bright side - you have a mature girl that is most supportive of you and a hubby that dotes on you despite his own pressures at work. I think lots of mummies will envy you on these 2 counts alone..jenniferjoey:
:love: AWWW... so sweet... must have made your a day, eh..My hubby did thanked me one day to have this 2nd child for us and sorry to make me suffer so much for him, he wished that I could transfer all the sufferings to him. Hmmm... Sound so sweet right!
jenniferjoey:
Ya, I agree they surely will :faint: ...Imagine if our labour pain transfer 50% to our hubbies, firstly they may faint right away or have to take huge dose morphine, finally they won't dare to ask for 2nd child for the rest of their life. Haha... :lol: So funny.
You are so cute!! :rotflmao:
Take care. -
ChiefKiasu:
Each time we went for ultrascan, my daughter would be spotted sucking her thumb. Really funny. I still have the scans with me - just remember to scan them before they fade away.
Yup Chief, I loved those sneak-preview moments... :love:
I showed my DDs but they don't believe it is them.. ChiefKiasu:
Really ah???! I didn't know it would fade. Thanks for the info! I would have been devastated if I found out too late!! :lovesite:- just remember to scan them before they fade away.
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