toddler misbehaving only with mom!

[Muffins]

hi riash, and you too smurf


i think, since your baby knows that you are more forgiving, since you are his mum, and since he is young, he does this to like "test his luck", or something like that…

[riash]

thanks everyone for your thoughts, i am really hoping its a phase and that he will grow out of it:) i am going to try to spend more 1 on 1 time with him as well.

[DesertWind]

Hi riash,


My boy too, was a gem of boy with other people except with his parents. He behaves pretty well with the maid and in the presence of his grandparents. But when both my husband and I are home from work, he will start screaming and yelling and yes - climbing onto the dinner table to disturb me when I eat!

My maid said he is usually not like that during the day only once we came back and this is normal behaviour for most kids seeking parents' attention.

He behaves much better when he was alone with just one of us, either with me, my husband or maid. Once all of us are around - oh boy!
:celebrate:

[riash]

desertwind! you make me feel so unalone

what works? you say just one person with the child? hmmm i have taken him out with me alone, he still misbehaves. maybe i am lenient?

do you have other suggestions?

[DesertWind]

riash:

desertwind! you make me feel so unalone

what works? you say just one person with the child? hmmm i have taken him out with me alone, he still misbehaves. maybe i am lenient? do you have other suggestions?

Hi riash,

Dunno what to say except that I think your 2.5 yo is still under-going the \"Terrible Two\" stage! For my 3 yo 3 mths old boy, it was only recently after he turned 3 yo that we have a much easier time going out with him - be it shopping or eating out!

Between 2 & 3 yo was terrible because he will anyhow run and it was hard to restraint him. If eating out, he will mess up the table and generally cannot sit still. Usually how I handle when we were outside is to tell him to hold my hand and not run around in the carpark. If he is not listening and it is getting dangerous (like at carparks!), SMACK! without any hesitation on his arm and tell him sternly \"No running, hold mummy's hand! It is dangerous to run around here!\". Oh yes, my boy would start crying at the top of his voice but at least he would listen!

So if a situation is dangerous and he misbehaves, do not be lenient, smack, grab him and run, whatever no matter how loudly he screams. If it is not dangerous, you just need to have a lot of energy and help from hubby or maid to run after him (eg. at indoor playground).

At mealtimes, try to feed him yourself if you can since he wants your attention. How about at night does he sleeps with you? My boy sleeps with me so in a way I think it helps to compensate for the lack of presence during the day.

I am sure your boy will out-grow this soon and you will have a much easier time handling him. Me too still learning as I go along.

Take care & all the best!
:celebrate:

[UncleLim]

riash:

Hi my DS1 is 2.5yrs old and he is a gem of a boy with everyone except me, his mom! when i am around he totally misbehaves, screams and shouts and even doesn't eat! i really don't know why he is like this and more importantly, its so upsetting for me. i was on leave today and he didn't eat his bfast and lunch. i have to physically be away from him and then he will eat or sleep. otherwise he looks for me, whines and wants me - but doesn't do a thing i suggest. sigh. what am i doing wrong - i spend a lot of time with him, more than i do with my DS2 who is one. DS1 will greet me by climbing onto the dining table when i come home. HELP!!

I think it is natural and also a passing phase thing. I experienced that with all my children. Hang in there !

[meiah]

riash:

Hi my DS1 is 2.5yrs old and he is a gem of a boy with everyone except me, his mom! when i am around he totally misbehaves, screams and shouts and even doesn't eat! i really don't know why he is like this and more importantly, its so upsetting for me. i was on leave today and he didn't eat his bfast and lunch. i have to physically be away from him and then he will eat or sleep. otherwise he looks for me, whines and wants me - but doesn't do a thing i suggest. sigh. what am i doing wrong - i spend a lot of time with him, more than i do with my DS2 who is one. DS1 will greet me by climbing onto the dining table when i come home. HELP!!

Hi,

Hee hee. Mine is exactly opp yours. My dd is abt 2.8 yo and she is naughty with everyone except me. I also work ft. Maybe cos I always carry out my threats, so she knows I mean it. For example, if I asked her to go to the bedroom, I will count to 3. At 1 and 2, she will ignore me, shake her butt, sing a song but at 3, she will dash to the room! Then she will pretend to be good and try to \"read\" a book. Even in the car, she would sit quietly all belt up but if she is with grandparents, she would scream to be in the driver's seat.

But even though she kind of fear me, she would still look for me to get her daily mega dose of hugs and kisses.

[riash]

thank you all for sharing really appreciate it! i hope my younger boy doesn't go thru this!


meiah - think i need tips on how you managed to get your daughter to listen to you! or is it cos she's a gal

[meiah]

riash:

thank you all for sharing really appreciate it! i hope my younger boy doesn't go thru this!


meiah - think i need tips on how you managed to get your daughter to listen to you! or is it cos she's a gal

I'm not sure about that though. Maybe I'm just mean lah.

Actually, have to be very patient and don't give up. My 123 didn't work initially. She would just continue to ignore. So after counting to 3, I would go grab her despite her screaming for help! I would also scold her and sometimes if she persist in making noise, she would get smack on her leg. She would cry but then I would give her a kiss and a hug to reassure her. She's also very clingy and attention seeking. After some time, she understood and automatically move even if she is doing her favourite thing. So getting her to ready for bath, sleep, drink, change, whatever became somewhat a breeze. :love:

She behaves differently with dh and grandparents. She can be quite defiant. Maybe the reason is they are always obliging her and her wishes so she takes advantage whenever possible.

I also have 2 ds but they are much older now. They also would not try to be very funny with me. :x

Basically, I think is to be reassuring, firm, persistent (and fierce if you have to).

[Rio]

My boy at 3.5 still "bully" me. He refuse to eat vegetable whenever I feed him. Wants to b carried ONLY BY ME when we go out. Whines at me even when I am attending lesson with him. But he doesn’t do that to my helper. Even the class teacher noted a drastic difference in him whenever my helper bring him to class. She says he can perform excellent with my helper, but never with me…


So now my helper "forbid" me to feed my boy, cos it will take 2 hrs with all the tug of war, whereas she will take just 20 min. N we take alternate turn to bring him to classes so as to maximize his learning.