Club 3 or more Kids
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24hr-mum:
My #2 boy used to be a TV fanatic. As that was how my mum fed him with when he was in K2. It was difficult at first as they are both channel 8 and okto drama fan. They had withdrawal symptons but overtime, they got used to it.hi MMM
wont ur kids complain no tv time?
However for my #1, I know that she will get hook to tv when she comes back from school and I am worried my #2 will follow her pattern since they are both in am session next year. So we just have to enforce that and set targets for them to do during the day time. Eg. I told them all homework must be completed before I come home. They have alot of time to do so in the afternoon.
The same applies to computer usage and games. We have wii, psp, etc... at home. I limit the usage to school hols only not even weekends. But after awhile, they got used to not having such stuff around so even during school hols, they don't ask for it. I saw how my PSLE nephew became a computer addict and the type of PSLE performance that he did this year. So alot of these stuff are habits.
BTW, they are no saints. During school hols, they are allowed to enjoy to the fullest. I will have to start to prepare them 2 weeks before school re-open to get used to schedule again. -
my boy used to cry when i off the tv, even tho my kids are only given 30min - 1hr at most of tv daily.
but before i on the tv, i will tell him first that after the show ends no more,
if he agree then can watch. he agree n sort of get used to it.
same for going out. can see toys but cannot buy. -
24hr-mum:
Haha, so true. When my kids play among themselves, at least one adult has to watch over them in case they fight..oops, I mean in case my DD2 (3yo) whack her brothers. She is very violent!aiyo, its when my kids play among themselves that i m NOT free, becos they always end up fighting or quarreling n i hv to be around to see that no bruises, scratches or biting occurs! my #3 is 3yo but most fierce among the 3.
only tv time is most peaceful ....but then my 3yo likes to stand up n down the sofa, also scary..... -
tigger88:
I hope it won't be like that when DS3 arrives! Most mornings I get an extra 30 mins of sleep or time to read the papers because they are entertaining each other! Of course, this often ends with fighting and crying, but at least I get that extra 30 mins...
Haha, so true. When my kids play among themselves, at least one adult has to watch over them in case they fight..oops, I mean in case my DD2 (3yo) whack her brothers. She is very violent!24hr-mum:
aiyo, its when my kids play among themselves that i m NOT free, becos they always end up fighting or quarreling n i hv to be around to see that no bruises, scratches or biting occurs! my #3 is 3yo but most fierce among the 3.
only tv time is most peaceful ....but then my 3yo likes to stand up n down the sofa, also scary..... -
24hr-mum:
hi 24hr mumhi petitemama
admire how u cope without maid (and grandparents also i believe), esp when ur #3 and #4 so young.
is #4 it planned?
my #3 is 3yo, dont dare to consider #4 yet
#1 no academic enrichment except mpm for a little while at k2
now she tution for all 3 subject + piano.
#2 only started math now at k2. still wondering to send him for eng or not cos he very lazy to do wk at hm. had jelic before at 4. he had a lot of therapy type of session at brainfit. so no time for academic course until now
#3 only jelic n music.
MMM - how did u manage to have TWO hrs of wk time at home?
i can only squeeze in 1 hr after the two youngers come home frm childcare n after dinner n 30min tv time. usu wkg from is 730pm - 930pm but sometimes 8pm - 9pm.
i myself find 2hrs long for myself
You kids are attending alot of classes, i calculated, if i send all 3 to tuition for all 3 subjects, i'll go broke in no time
phonics is very impt to me, so i make sure they get that. academic subjects, non yet. maybe coz my kids are still young, P2 n K2 n N2 nx yr.
this is 1 of my \"regrets\" too. I stopped work to spend time with them and coach them, so i cant send them to classes with lesser income now. I certainly hope i m coaching them right. -
MummyThreeStreams:
yes my kids do entertain themselves. However my #2 n #3 fight often, so i get screaming kids while i do my chores :s. if only my #1 n #2 at home..i will hv peaceful and quiet timeThank you all the mums for sharing your stories. We can learn so much from each other and get mutual encouragement. I'll be taking no pay leave when #3 arrives to resume a SAHM life. There are many reasons, and one was the thought that there are only 24 hrs in a day and you have to squeeze in so much with 3 kids. I know I'll be most grumpy if I have to put myself through the stress of juggling work and family. I was happiest when i was a SAHM.
24hr-mum talked about TV. With my first one, i used to use the TV as a babysitter so that i could get my chores done while he was entertained. But now that i have two, i realise they entertain themselves so they don't watch tv at all. I'm hoping that this will continue when #3 arrives.
I wanted to ask if you find that your kids are able to play among themselves so that it frees pockets of time up for you to take a breather or do your chores?
(but this scenario is very seldom)
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sometimes i get so sick and tired of them… soooo noisy and its busy for me from the minute i open my eyes in the morning, till i close my eyes at night.
sometimes i feel like giving up, and just return to work, get my salary, my yummy bfast, lunch, shopping and chit chat time.
but if i returned to work, who will look after them? maid? childcare?.. i just cant do it.
i must say i do see results from being SAHM, they are so much more disciplined and they do better in school. We are temporary staying with my parents and it makes being a sahm tougher (think u know y).
alot of time i just feel like giving up!
as i m typing this, they are monkeying around. ask them nap, dont listen. talk to them nicely, they ignore. must scream and cane… ??? crap -
porcupine12trade:
Oh dear porcupine12trade! You know, I only have 2 now, but when things get overwhelming for me, I tell the boys that mummy is going for a timeout. And I lock myself up in my bedroom. Of course, the rest of the house is child friendly. The kids hate it. DS2 who is 3 will cry for me to come out, but DS1 (6yrs) is old enough to know that I won't come out till they keep quiet, so he will get his brother to calm down. And when all is calm, and I feel I can face the world again, I come out and we all exchange hugs and kisses.sometimes i get so sick and tired of them.... soooo noisy and its busy for me from the minute i open my eyes in the morning, till i close my eyes at night.
sometimes i feel like giving up, and just return to work, get my salary, my yummy bfast, lunch, shopping and chit chat time.
but if i returned to work, who will look after them? maid? childcare?.... i just cant do it.
i must say i do see results from being SAHM, they are so much more disciplined and they do better in school. We are temporary staying with my parents and it makes being a sahm tougher (think u know y).
alot of time i just feel like giving up!
as i m typing this, they are monkeying around. ask them nap, dont listen. talk to them nicely, they ignore. must scream and cane.... ???? crap
But yes, sometimes there is quite a lot of screaming going on at home. I can't imagine what it will be like when DS3 comes along. Got to get a loud-hailer?
As a SAHM you need to take time out for yourself or you will go crazy, especially with 3 kids! -
screaming n caning is not uncommon in my hse. but over the years, i hv learnt how to set rules for them esp my boy n in controlling him. a lot of work in pre-empting his nonsense. but the cane still must be hung in my hse as a last resort when nothing works. sometimes the mere presence of the cane is enuf to tame my kids esp my boy cos they know i really cane hard when they do outrageous things eg standing on the chair / sofa wfout fear of toppling, rude, disobedient, fighting etc.
but after caning must sayang them also.
i wld say being a sahm means u hv time to teach them how to tidy their things, be more organised etc. basically u have time to enjoy their childhood.
i always think that kids wif both parents at wk may go thru life like this: infant care, childcare, student care, self-care when reach sec sch, until eldercare when they age…institutional care may not be bad, just i supp the feeling of being at home is nicer?? -
MummyThreeStreams:
i see that ur kids are 3 yrs apart, so mayb better then mine. coz mine are 2 yrs apart. like ur #1 will b 7 when u hv #3. n ur #3 will b baby so cant be that noisy or fighting with his brothers. by time he is 3, ur #1 will b 9? i believe by P4, he wont wan to monkey around with the younger ones :)...so mayb you will b spared of 3 kids fighting and making noise.
Oh dear porcupine12trade! You know, I only have 2 now, but when things get overwhelming for me, I tell the boys that mummy is going for a timeout. And I lock myself up in my bedroom. Of course, the rest of the house is child friendly. The kids hate it. DS2 who is 3 will cry for me to come out, but DS1 (6yrs) is old enough to know that I won't come out till they keep quiet, so he will get his brother to calm down. And when all is calm, and I feel I can face the world again, I come out and we all exchange hugs and kisses.porcupine12trade:
sometimes i get so sick and tired of them.... soooo noisy and its busy for me from the minute i open my eyes in the morning, till i close my eyes at night.
sometimes i feel like giving up, and just return to work, get my salary, my yummy bfast, lunch, shopping and chit chat time.
but if i returned to work, who will look after them? maid? childcare?.... i just cant do it.
i must say i do see results from being SAHM, they are so much more disciplined and they do better in school. We are temporary staying with my parents and it makes being a sahm tougher (think u know y).
alot of time i just feel like giving up!
as i m typing this, they are monkeying around. ask them nap, dont listen. talk to them nicely, they ignore. must scream and cane.... ???? crap
But yes, sometimes there is quite a lot of screaming going on at home. I can't imagine what it will be like when DS3 comes along. Got to get a loud-hailer?
As a SAHM you need to take time out for yourself or you will go crazy, especially with 3 kids!
ya we need time out. few months back, I went holiday , w/o my hb and 3 kids. it was WONDERFUL hahahah.
oh and it doesnt help that my hb travels alot for his work
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