Do you compare your kid's school results with others?

[Busymom]

MummyThreeStreams:

When I was in primary school, my mum always asked me about how the rest of the class did. I did not like it. It was extremely demoralizing if I didn't do as well as so and so. And, if I topped the class, so what, it did not serve to make me try to work harder. When I reached secondary school, and my mum had less time to worry about my grades, I never tried to compare my results with anyone else. I only competed against myself and pushed myself based on what I thought I could achieve. I bring this attitude to my child. I don't compare him with his classmates. He does tell me how his classmates do. I listen but don't encourage it. I'll wait for his teachers' feedback to figure out if he's doing well enough or not.

I don't compare now, and I hope I won't change as she gets older. :xedfingers:

But I do compare ds with his older sister, except not openly

[tankee]

Pen88n:

When DS comes back with his marks, we normally go thru the paper together and identify where he has \"short-change\" himself by making careless mistakes or incomplete answers. With this, he will know what is the potential he should be able to achieve for this paper.


I do not compare with other kids individually, but I use the high, low, mean and standard deviation provided by school to show DS where he stands in comparison with his cohort for each individual subjects.

Comparison has no end state - there is always another higher mountain out there. Different kids has different potential - how to compare orange with apple? What is important is the kid has tried his best and not \"short-change\" himself and his effort.

:goodpost:

[verykiasu2010]

sometimes the kids do compare among themselves without the parents doing it


DS would come back and and said so and so how many marks…(usually those higher than his)…and that would be his next target…that bunch of boys are super competitive, can discuss amongst themselves for half a day for half a mark question to see who has got better answer…

[MummyThreeStreams]

Busymom:

But I do compare ds with his older sister, except not openly

Hee hee, I confess, I think I'm probably guilty of that as well! But secretly lah...never in front of the kids! :oops:

[Funx3]

Pen88n:

When DS comes back with his marks, we normally go thru the paper together and identify where he has \"short-change\" himself by making careless mistakes or incomplete answers. With this, he will know what is the potential he should be able to achieve for this paper.


I do not compare with other kids individually, but I use the high, low, mean and standard deviation provided by school to show DS where he stands in comparison with his cohort for each individual subjects.

I did the Same thing.
As long as my Gal scores near or above the Avg, and Maintain her position more or less in the class position, I know she's OK. We pat each other's shoulders and out we go celebrate -liao!

But I do highlight those Q she got X or marks deducted for careless mistakes and sigh together with her over how many more marks she could add to her score, if only she has been more careful, or precise in her answers. Normally she get the Hint ....
(to be more careful ....)

[chrisu]

Of course I do compare since the class and standard ranking is not stated in the report book.


I did that because marks by itself serve no purpose. Say if my girl scored 90 marks for Maths while all her classmates scored 91 and above, that means my girl is last in the class for Maths. It may also mean that the Maths paper may be easy too. So my girl still lose out to the rest of the class in Maths.

[snowball]

is it advisable to check with class teacher on the highest n lowest marks of each subject ? as i dont feel comfortable to check with other parents, i dont like to compare, but i need the "medium" mark to gauge my kid’s standard …

[Funx3]

snowball:

is it advisable to check with class teacher on the highest n lowest marks of each subject ? as i dont feel comfortable to check with other parents, i dont like to compare, but i need the \"medium\" mark to gauge my kid's standard ....

Think it would be a Wise move to do so ....
Then U'll be able to gauge where your child stand, academically, and to kick in any remedial measures to help pull the grade up.

At Lower Pri 1 to 2, Getting Marks in the Region of 95 to 100 is the Norm for Good Score.
As U progress to P3 thru P6 ....
Drop per year of 5 to 10 marks are expected. But this also depends on the difficulty of paper set. By looking at the Highest / Lowest / avg score for each subj, U will be able to check if your child is doing Fine.

[fussyMummy]

chrisu:

Of course I do compare since the class and standard ranking is not stated in the report book.


I did that because marks by itself serve no purpose. Say if my girl scored 90 marks for Maths while all her classmates scored 91 and above, that means my girl is last in the class for Maths. It may also mean that the Maths paper may be easy too. So my girl still lose out to the rest of the class in Maths.

same here.. I always ask my girl.. what is the lowest marks and what is the highest marks... then I started to compare from there... :evil:

For myself, I just dont wish my kids, be the last in the class..is it mean kiasu or ? :slapshead:

[kwokwc]

I don't really compare the results with others. But I will ask how did most kids fare to know where my kids standard. Then they will usually tell me the highest and lowest mark in class.


Usually just tell them to do their best. By P2, my 2 older kids more or less know where they stand and they will aim high themselves. They will know that they have made careless mistake, if not they can get how many more marks etc, they will accept all the scolding that we gave them for carelessness.