Is it appropriate to cane my daughter on her buttocks?

[UncleLim]

I am sorry you had to cane your little girl. I have done it before in anger too and regret it very much after. One of my friends told me not to cane daughters… sigh…


Anyway… spend a bit more time teaching her about Integrity. That one goes through life achieving more by being honest, not needing to lie, cover up, tell more lies, and suffer from guilt. People with Integrity live happier lives. I hope this message will get through to her.

Anyway most of us cheated in life here and there… but it is good to show her a better way.

[HoSayLiao]

There is nothing wrong with caning your daughter. You are the one who give birth, take care and feed your daughter and she dares to shame the family. In fact, if you don’t cane her, she will take your love for granted. You should not have caned her in the bedroom. You should cane her along the corridors so that the neighbours can see.


If I am caught cheating, it will not just be 3 strokes of the cane. It will be more like 30 strokes.

[carebear]

Actually, how do you cane a sec2 child?

I can’t imagine caning mine cos he is much bigger than I.
Caning on buttocks is ok, as caning of criminals is on the buttocks, school disciplinary caning is also on the buttocks.
However caning elsewhere is a no no.
Actually I would rather spank with my hands so that I will feel the pain too.

If your dd allowed you to cane her may mean she is willing to listen to you and perhaps make a postive change.

[UncleLim]

HoSayLiao:

There is nothing wrong with caning your daughter. You are the one who give birth, take care and feed your daughter and she dares to shame the family. In fact, if you don't cane her, she will take your love for granted. You should not have caned her in the bedroom. You should cane her along the corridors so that the neighbours can see.


If I am caught cheating, it will not just be 3 strokes of the cane. It will be more like 30 strokes.

Hi HoSayLiao,

I cannot help but wince upon imagining what the 30 cane strokes will feel like on a Sec 2 girl. It brought back horrible memories of how I was tied up to a wooden chair and whipped by my mother for shouting \"bad words\" along with my cousin. Of course I did not understand the meaning of those words.. but in that generation parents do not really investigate. I went to school the following day with cane marks all over my arms and legs. My form teacher was so shocked she took me to the sick bay for medication as some of the cane marks broke the skin and were bleeding. Did I survive? Yes. Did I become a better person because of that vicious caning episode? I am not sure. But it left me sad and bitter. Bitter enough for it to be remembered till this day when I am already a middle-aged father of my own children. That is why I think we (especially fathers) should be gentle with our children, especially with our daughters. Explaining and teaching is tough and repetitive, so it is also the more loving way to bring a wayward child back to the right path. Violence and shaming should be not be the first resort.

[headache1969]

HoSayLiao:

There is nothing wrong with caning your daughter. You are the one who give birth, take care and feed your daughter and she dares to shame the family. In fact, if you don't cane her, she will take your love for granted. You should not have caned her in the bedroom. You should cane her along the corridors so that the neighbours can see.


If I am caught cheating, it will not just be 3 strokes of the cane. It will be more like 30 strokes.

I cannot imagine caning 30 strokes and along the corridor! It will be an epic that will fit into a drama like Little Nornya perfectly. :nailbite:

[Oppsgal]

Last time used to be punish by standing at the corridor, squat down and pull ears in school for naughty students…or can see those secondary students made to face the wall for half an hour…


So if students nowadays cannot be cane and parents tried to explain but still no change because they have their own thinking and are kind of stubborn, what more can be done?