If you could, would you decide on a 3rd child?

[MLR]

If you are above 35, hv been trying consistently for more than 1 year with no results, Yes, do go for a consultation.

[Funz]

MLR:

If you are above 35, hv been trying consistently for more than 1 year with no results, Yes, do go for a consultation.

Already done, both for me & DH. Doc recommends surgery for DH to correct some problems in his testes.

Jury is still out as to whether to proceed with the surgery. We already have 2 wonderful kids. So on the one hand, we hope for another one, but on the other hand, we are also wondering if we should just be content that we are blessed with 2 already without any issues and leave things to providence.

At the moment, providence is winning.

[MLR]

Funz:

At the moment, providence is winning.

Sometimes it does work in mysterious ways. A great example is my own family. Mom had me when she was 29, sis came along 22 months later. Since she is the eldest DIL, she was hoping for third one to be a boy. She waited for 7 yrs b4 bro came along.

[winth]

MLR:

Sometimes it does work in mysterious ways. A great example is my own family. Mom had me when she was 29, sis came along 22 months later. Since she is the eldest DIL, she was hoping for third one to be a boy. She waited for 7 yrs b4 bro came along.

Same thing happened to my friend. Her DD1 was P3 before she got preggy again with DS. Before that, she tried all methods (western and chinese medicine) and gynae told her she has got nothing wrong but just didn't know why it was difficult for her to get pregnant. Then when about to give up trying, was told that she got pregnant.

[penglee]

a lot of old wives tales circulating, speculating of gender on next born

I have always thought that too much planning gives u undue Pressure, and less Pleasure :shock:
How to perform?

Personally, if can afford $$, why not have more?

To me, biggest sacrifice is parent's lifestyle.
Now minimum holiday, tim-sm buffet ,weekend also cannot zzz much
But looking at the kids bond with each other, my wife and me are very contented :celebrate:

End of the day, no matter how many kids we have, I just want them to be healthy and independent

ps..i got 3b1g

[kaydenbrown]

I read with interest what goes on here in singapore. It appears a lot of people here still favour boys…


over in uk, girls are actually more favoured.

[skunk]

kaydenbrown:

over in uk, girls are actually more favoured.

really? Is there any study/survey done on this? Or it's just personal perception?

[sysherlene]

Oh… I love kids, just that $$$ is an issue. If not I dun mind having more… haha…

[Busymom]

For DH and myself, we actually prefer girls, and I don’t think we are the minority here.

[skunk]

when i was in pri sch, an elderly teacher said he prefered girls, as when parents are elderly, the girls are the ones who will be filial and care for the parents, while the boys won't. I was so freaking disgusted at what he said.


Later in life, I read this somewhere, \"the male human species are the scourge of the Earth. They fight wars against each other, they commit 90% of crime, they neglect their families while their womenfolk bring up the children...\"

Maybe it's the backlash against all these, that attitudes are changing. Anyway i'm still disgusted and i make sure that every day i live my life as a Man, i make sure people see me as a shining example of what a real Man should be.

I wish my next child is a male, I want him to be part of the new male species, to be a pillar of family and society. A Man other men will look up upon in admiration