How do you maintain your relationship with your spouse?

[Chenonceau]

Strparent:

I do think Chenonceau is a great forum advisor though - cool, calm, logical, sensible. :salute:

Oh gee... from you, this is praise indeed!! Thank you.

[Augmum]

wormy:

This question is for the husbands.

Suppose on a heavy rainy day both of u has only one umbrella and u need to go get yr car in an open carpark. What would u do? Both share the tiny brolly. U go drive car over. Ask wife to drive car over

let me answer on behalf of my hub......
regardless heavy or light rain....or no rain....
hub would go to the open carpark to drive his car over to pick me and gal up at the nearest lot/path.....
(usually we are the ones who are left behind to take care of those groceries bags)
so his usual words are , \" wait for me here \"
so we guai guai wait there lorr......simple and straightforward....kekeke :evil:

[Augmum]

Strparent:

I do think Chenonceau is a great forum advisor though - cool, calm, logical, sensible. :salute:

agree.......Chenonceau is one of our active in-house advisor.........

[Strparent]

Augmum:

hub would go to the open carpark to drive his car over to pick me and gal up at the nearest lot/path.....
(usually we are the ones who are left behind to take care of those groceries bags)
so his usual words are , \" wait for me here \"
so we guai guai wait there lorr......

Hi Augmum,

yes, that sounds about right.
You have to understand us BIG MEN.........this is one of the few real occasions that we can 'give orders' and the wife will obey guai-guai-ly. therefore we must act tough and indulge in these moments of authority :evil:

Chenonceau, you are most welcome and honestly, you are one of the most sensible and calm/collected forumers around here. It's not flattery, just a fact.

[wishababy]

it takes 2 hands to clap when comes to sustaining the r/s.

I wish my DH would do something too, but he is simply too bo-chap.

[Augmum]

Strparent:

Augmum:

hub would go to the open carpark to drive his car over to pick me and gal up at the nearest lot/path.....
(usually we are the ones who are left behind to take care of those groceries bags)
so his usual words are , \" wait for me here \"
so we guai guai wait there lorr......

Hi Augmum,

yes, that sounds about right.
You have to understand us BIG MEN.........this is one of the few real occasions that we can 'give orders' and the wife will obey guai-guai-ly. therefore we must act tough and indulge in these moments of authority :evil:

hi strparent,
haha.....yes, understand u guys as BIG MEN.....
well.....like what u had said, let him indulged in the moment of authority....
afterall, it is better than all of us have to carry those heavy bags of groceries
and walk all the way to the open carpark....
isnt it 两全其美 ?? :please:

[Augmum]

wishababy:

it takes 2 hands to clap when comes to sustaining the r/s.

I wish my DH would do something too, but he is simply too bo-chap.

oh yes.....it definitely takes 2 hands to clap....
in a marriage/relationship , lots of give and take,
not easy for Mars and Venus to live together under the same roof.......

[thankgod]

Strparent:

wormy:

why only one response from man? Others secretly repenting?

wormy,

in my case, I will always go into the rain to drive car to the family ( or nearest sheltered pickup point ), or bring umbrellas back for them. Rain is not a big deal for real men :rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao: We walked for miles and miles in rain carrying 25kg of stuff on our back in our army days.

but occasionally, DW offered to go, but before she can finished her sentence, I am already halfway to the car :imanangel: :imanangel:

I think the reason so little men post here and a few other sensitive threads, is because usually all these emo questions are posed and deliberated by women. :siam:
Look at the in-law problems thread, so many pages !! You seldom see men having problems with the in-laws , do you ?
We rant more about the kayu referees than in-laws

just my humble opinion nia nia.

Strparent ... You Rock!
(only Bros get it :D)

[thankgod]

I guess its true that we shouldn't jump to conclusions too quickly.


For example, at a hawker centre, when ordering food ... who does the ordering?

I used to think that once we find a seat and sit down, DW will tell me what she wants and I go order/buy and return to the table.

Did this since BF/GF days and continued when we were married. But sometime later, DW tells me ...

\"You sit down, you tell me what you want to eat, I go and get.\"

When I ask her why? Her reply was

\"You know what you want to eat, but I don't. I need to see the food and then decide\"

So from that time on, sometimes I order/buy ... sometimes she order/buy.

But till today, I still feel awkward when she order/buy and I sit there at the table waiting to be served

[Strparent]

Yo thankgod,


I think it's better you sit and let her order, the most u walked over to carry the trays once ready lor.

because it is MUCH BETTER than if you go order for her, and then skali she said 'that's not what I wanted to eat today' or worse....' until now, you dunno what I like to eat ???' :slapshead: :slapshead: She can enjoy eating that particular food for months, but on that day you go order for her hor, different appetite mood ! :evil:

I still have nightmares about those pregnancy cravings :rotflmao: :rotflmao:
( but before stones are thrown, will still do it all over again :imanangel: )