Parents, not enrichment centres, are key to result

[doodbug]

LOLMum:

Daddy

Our children's report card is also our report card...

i made that mistake, making dd miserable when she was younger.

took a huge step back and she is so so so very happy in school. i make sure i dont do the same to ds. he is also super super happy in school.

must know where to draw the line.

Yes, parenting is a humbling learning experience in many way. We are not perfect parents, but what's important is that we learn and adjust along the way, and not let pride get the better of us. I thank my kids for having to put up with my idiosyncracies too.

[Daddy D]

LOLMum:

Daddy

Our children's report card is also our report card...

i made that mistake, making dd miserable when she was younger.

took a huge step back and she is so so so very happy in school. i make sure i dont do the same to ds. he is also super super happy in school.

must know where to draw the line.

Care to elaborate what mistake?
So I dun follow your footsteps... :razz:

[LOLMum]

too much emphasis on what others think of myself. "oh you are sahm, why your child’s result like that?? why you never do this and this and this for your child? " those kinda remarks.


big mistake cos it resulted in pushing dd too hard in getting better grades. too many out of school classes. too many assessment books.

too many unnecessary chit chats with other sahms which just added stress to a already kancheong sahm.

learnt my lesson.

[24hr-mum]

my gal’s classmates whose mum r ftwm did much bettr. i hv bn feelg v demoralised, duno where i did wrong. too much tuitn? too little practise? if she get 75 n more stil ok but 65 way too borderline

[Nebbermind]

24hr-mum:

my gal's classmates whose mum r ftwm did much bettr. i hv bn feelg v demoralised, duno where i did wrong. too much tuitn? too little practise? if she get 75 n more stil ok but 65 way too borderline

look on the bright side...it's good for it to surface during CA1...since it's science, it could be some misconception or maybe she failed to look out for some keywords.

Runs thru the mistakes and test (not formally) her understanding of the topic again.

Must have faith since she ever did well before!!!

[Sun_2010]

24hr-mum:

my gal's classmates whose mum r ftwm did much bettr. i hv bn feelg v demoralised, duno where i did wrong. too much tuitn? too little practise? if she get 75 n more stil ok but 65 way too borderline

:snuggles: 24hr-mum.

This is a mommy-thing
What did i do wrong? What i didnt do right? If only, but , had i, why did I, Why didnt I.... The list is endless. :sad:

My personal experience is wait awhile to ride out the emotions. Because when emotional we pass on the stress and disappointments to the kid. She probably is feeling it by herself. When you have build up ur strength then its time for cold claculated analysis and analyze. There maybe no magic cure , but you two together will overcome. Obstacles are there so you can prove yourself. And you will. :rahrah: :rahrah: :rahrah:

[Chenonceau]

24-hr mum… yeah… it’s a Mommy thing. We always think we’re lousy Moms. Maybe that’s what keeps us trying to be better. Those who think they’re already very good, may actually be very bad and never know it. Kekekekekeke!


Keep your head up. It’ll get better.

[24hr-mum]

tks i felt more demoralised thn my gal n wonder os it my fault too

[Chenonceau]

24hr-mum:

tks i felt more demoralised thn my gal n wonder os it my fault too

:hugs: If it's any comfort, I also blamed myself for not enriching him earlier. I had the mistaken conception that tuition was shameful and only for dumb-dumbs. Nowadays tuition is cool beyond cool ... and NECESSARY. Once you realize this, the way forward is clear.

(1) Your DD is not dumb. She is tested beyond what she is taught.
(2) You need to level the playing field for her.

Take heart. She is only in P4. PSLE is 3 years away. You have time.

[SAHM_TAN]

Yes mummy face peer pressure too.


Maybe the attitude is to ignore others and just look at the child’s work and find out how to help