In-law problems?

[janet88]

Put it this way, most men are NOT able to handle their mothers. So we, the wives suffer.

[Pris.011283tang]

bil is drving me to a wall…he just inform me and hubby to hide my daugther (in his words he does not aknoweldge my girl as a part of this family) as she has chickenpox somewhere other then at home because his queen gf is coming over.


I am lucky hubby is standing up to the brother and he said u pay for a hotel room at marina bay sands we bring her there to stay for a night ^^.

Honestly i am lucky hes standing by me but how many more nonsense episode am i going to endure from his bil before we move out soon god knows.

The house was left to hubs by his late adopted parents thats why he oblige to stand by his brother but he will not to do it if his brothers harms the princess in anyway.

and i just discovered the top up meter has not enough credit lets hope that due his brother oops i forgot excuse there is enough credit for the aircon to run the whole night ><

[missk]

In laws can have a notorious reputation, sometimes difficult, sometimes unreasonable, but sometimes just plain funny! Care to share?


I will start off with my mostly nice, but extremely quirky MIL.

She can ask the same question or make the same statement 10 times a day (to the same person sometimes). For example at my family function,she \"kidnapped\" a hapless baby and went round telling everyone how much she loves babies! When I was weaning my kid,everytime there was a topic change in our conversation, she would ask \" So, did he take milk powder today?\"

She will never fail to goo goo ga ga with my almost 3 year old son when she sits with him in the car. ( the kid can already talk in sentences)
:skeptical: :skeptical:

[CookiesMonster]

my MIL is a hoarder aka karang guni.


she likes to collect stuff like plastic container that are used in food courts. this is ok except her stash can last a food stall to use for 3 months.

my FIL likes to turn sofa into hedgehog. will stick used toothpicks into crooks n crevices. unsuspecting guests will be poked at places where they least expected.

[fightingmom]

CookiesMonster:

my MIL is a hoarder aka karang guni.


she likes to collect stuff like plastic container that are used in food courts. this is ok except her stash can last a food stall to use for 3 months.

my FIL likes to turn sofa into hedgehog. will stick used toothpicks into crooks n crevices. unsuspecting guests will be poked at places where they least expected.

:yikes:

[janet88]

CookiesMonster:

my MIL is a hoarder aka karang guni.


she likes to collect stuff like plastic container that are used in food courts. this is ok except her stash can last a food stall to use for 3 months.

my FIL likes to turn sofa into hedgehog. will stick used toothpicks into crooks n crevices. unsuspecting guests will be poked at places where they least expected.

Mine also Karang guni...loves to collect things. Those free bowls from buying toothpaste or whatever, she can keep them like some limited edition stuff.
But the joke is really about the sofa :rotflmao: hedgehog ? Is it bcos he is lazy to throw the toothpicks after using ?

[auntieM]

fightingmom:

CookiesMonster:

my MIL is a hoarder aka karang guni.


she likes to collect stuff like plastic container that are used in food courts. this is ok except her stash can last a food stall to use for 3 months.

my FIL likes to turn sofa into hedgehog. will stick used toothpicks into crooks n crevices. unsuspecting guests will be poked at places where they least expected.

:yikes:

:rotflmao:
Mine loves to collect expired stuff .. ..diff is she dispose of them as 'gifts' for my DS in batches.. .. :faint:

[janet88]

I am the opposite of a Karang kuni...I love to clear.

Hubby inherited his mother's habit of keeping things. When I do spring cleaning twice a year, I make sure I do a job that is obvious. Of course he has to be at work for me to carry out this enjoyable job :evil:
But I do make him clear his drawers...all those hp chargers, plugs, IT stuff. As such I do not give him a lot of drawers, or else he will simply move those stuff from one drawer to another.

[missk]

CookiesMonster:

my MIL is a hoarder aka karang guni.


she likes to collect stuff like plastic container that are used in food courts. this is ok except her stash can last a food stall to use for 3 months.

my FIL likes to turn sofa into hedgehog. will stick used toothpicks into crooks n crevices. unsuspecting guests will be poked at places where they least expected.

Maybe he thinks the sofa is strictly um... His property? He is trying to say \"tresspassers keep out\".

:evil:

Much as her quirks are my private joke, my MIL is very thoughtful, sometimes. She shows it by wrapping each and every item in zip lock. Imagine, individually packed clothes, water bottle, keys, toys etc for my son. And for my husband? Individually wrapped tonic.

[aurorin]

:lovesite: Wow.. i finally finished reading all the pages in this thread (in batches backtracking of cos, but 429pages took me a long while)!


It is interested to read the various experiences that other DIL have with their MIL. And also good advice from the forummers. Some of the scarier stories really made me feel like my own MIL isnt so bad even if some days in-laws issues make me so grump. But i think it is more myself than them at times.

My DH is a sort of typical SG guy and cares alot of his own parents/sister. I know sometimes he finds it difficult to balance our needs (him, me and DD) alongside the in-laws' when they come into conflict. Even if rationally i can understand that as the only son (he only have one younger sister), sometimes emotionally i find myself resenting my in-laws. The biggest point of contention with us is the fact that me, DH and DD lives overseas and for many reasons, i rather not go back to SG and bring DD up there BUT DH is adament that we will go back after he finished his studies here because his parents expects us to.

Actually, my PILs are simple folks. My FIL is generally okie and very independent. My SIL is very very nice and i really like her. She loves buying stuff for my DD and also help 'shield' me from my MIL sometimes. My MIL is not 'bad' but i guess maybe i come from a very different background, so i find it difficult to see/undst her POV. She is abit timid and i feel, insecure cos she grew up with domineering brothers. Until now her oldest bro (aka DH's uncle) still have a lot of say in my DH's family. My MIL is so scared of offending him that she will bend over backwards, including getting her kids (by extension, me) to do things to please the uncle. That uncle dont like me very much and before i even married into the family, gave me a 'talk' to say how as a wife i should be obedient to my DH and listen to him. Basically saying \"a rich girl marry into a poor man's family, must bend her head down to serve her husband family\" type things. I was so insulted!

While we were in SG, my DH is always so stress about doing all the things the uncle say we should do (mostly 'traditional' things which made no sense or actually my own PILs dont follow) because DH himself dont see the point and he knows i dont like BUT still have to do because he say if he dont try to follow, my MIL will have a hard time from her family and suffer from their gossips. He is also concerned that if I dont do what the uncle say, the uncle will go around making snide remarks about my MIL for not controlling the 'rich arrogant' DIL. I undst DH being protective of his mom but i am upset that our lives should be dictated by some people who really has not business controlling us... and yes, inwardly, i resent my MIL for being \"weak\".

At least now that we are not in SG, i dont have to deal with such things except during our yearly trip back then the uncle will pull DH aside and tell him shouldnt always listen to wife, must think about parents and about going back to SG. He always does it within my earshot so i guess it is really meant for me to listen though he dont ever talk to me already. Other times he will talk to my MIL in their hainanese dialect while looking at me and i see my MIL just meekly look embarrassed and look down. After that, my MIL will try to be 'tougher' with me but it doesnt work on me. I am not the quarrelsome type but if people give me sh*t, i just clam up and stop talking. So MIL also paiseh will just leave me alone.

Now i dread going back to SG. In Melb, i feel DD has a better childhood, my career has better work-life balance (i work part time, end work by 430 and still earn slightly more than SG) and recognition than back in SG and DH has the freedom to explore and commit to a research of his interest with no tuition fees instead of slogging from 630am till 7pm at MOE. Now life is slow and DH and I get devote alot of time with DD.

Next week my PILs are coming for a visit. I am abit stressed because i am sure MIL will start asking when my DH graduate (he is doing his PHD) and when we go back. MIL cannot undst how come we would prefer living in Melb instead of SG. Her ideal life for us, is what she sees her siblings' kids have.. i.e. have HDB flat, later upgrade condo, have a car, have kids let grandfolks (her) take care plus 1 maid while both parents working hard to save money. She was very sad when i told her that's not what me and DH wanted and even if in SG, i will want to take care of DD myself. Nothing against her per se but that's my own philosophy about parenting.

Sigh... :gloomy:

Ahh well.. didnt realised i wrote so much cos it started out rational (i dont hate my MIL) but guess the more i write, it got abit emo again.. :frustrated: