PSLE leave: For or Against?

[Champion]

Chenonceau:

It's far worse to leave your kids at home without the emotional support to face their first major test. So PSLE leave may not be a bad thing. I did notice that many parents, even the chronically stressed ones allowed their kids to take it easy near exams whilst still taking leave to be with them.

:goodpost: :celebrate: I feel that this PSLE leave is more for me (in 2 years' time) to be there to give the emo support for my DD1.

Chenonceau:

If you wanna stress your kids, you will stress your kids... whether you do it at night after work... or you do it as a SAHM... or you do it during PSLE leave.

:hi5: I have many telling me,\" You don't stress hor - else your kids can feel it and that is not good for their overall development.\" I am short-tempered; easily irritated by small issues :oops:

I will be in that\"for\" or \"against\" PSLE leaves dilemma in 2 years time when my now P4 DD1 will be taking this first major exam in her school life. I have seen few lady colleagues experiences - either switching to part-time working (in the mornings only) or work 2 full-days + 3 half-days but ONE common scenario - off on Saturday because it is TUITION day!

I have sort of hinted my current boss (if I will still be working under her in the same company) that in Y2014, I might opt for the part-time working routine too. She has seen & approved that in my other colleagues previously so I am :xedfingers: that she will allow the same for me when it is my turn

[Imami]

This is the sad part lor... People like me - not really in hiring and firing position - will feel some form of discrimination against working mothers with young kids. But it is not that I don't know your pain. People like you - in hiring and firing position - started off being neutral. But circumstances may have driven the situations into such. I am with my current organization for close to 3 years now. In my first year, they hire those in their late twenties/ early thirties with young children (preschoolers). Then, suddenly many need to take childcare leave la, or urgent annual leave lah (due to issues like hfmd or chickenpox) etc. in my second year, I noted they hired early twenties singles. Sure, this group got no childcare leave. But hor, they also have urgent leave wor - on most Mondays, post ph work days etc. Too much parties. This year, they hired all the middle aged group. Probably a good bet, since these group have grown up kids and most likely won't \"urgent leave\" on Mondays

[HAPPYH]

Imami:

This is the sad part lor... People like me - not really in hiring and firing position - will feel some form of discrimination against working mothers with young kids. But it is not that I don't know your pain. People like you - in hiring and firing position - started off being neutral. But circumstances may have driven the situations into such. I am with my current organization for close to 3 years now. In my first year, they hire those in their late twenties/ early thirties with young children (preschoolers). Then, suddenly many need to take childcare leave la, or urgent annual leave lah (due to issues like hfmd or chickenpox) etc. in my second year, I noted they hired early twenties singles. Sure, this group got no childcare leave. But hor, they also have urgent leave wor - on most Mondays, post ph work days etc. Too much parties. This year, they hired all the middle aged group. Probably a good bet, since these group have grown up kids and most likely won't \"urgent leave\" on Mondays

[dasalo]

Sorry, I did not read all the posts.


What’s the big fuss about PSLE? Leave or no leave?

IMO, it should not be the problem of the parents. It is the kid that is taking their PSLE and not parents. Neither me nor my dh take any leave when my gals had their PSLE. They are supposed to be prepared by then.

Another important fact is PSLE is not a conclusive or a good gauge to a child’s ability in the future.

[Imami]

dasalo:

Sorry, I did not read all the posts.


What's the big fuss about PSLE? Leave or no leave?

IMO, it should not be the problem of the parents. It is the kid that is taking their PSLE and not parents. Neither me nor my dh take any leave when my gals had their PSLE. They are supposed to be prepared by then.

Another important fact is PSLE is not a conclusive or a good gauge to a child's ability in the future.

actually I don't know too. But for me, I welcome such measures. Whatever the employers want to term it la, be it paid/unpaid leave also can, so long as it is yet another kind of leave I can apply can Liao.

My time, my parents also didn't take leave. I didn't feel much then as it seemed the norm for classmates with working parents. But as I grew older ( but still schooling), I appreciated my parents' (one at the time also can) company. It's nice to come home after exam to have someone to sit with you while u have lunch, u know?

Because of this, I welcome such leave extended to working parents. I don't care how it is termed, paid or unpaid leave, I will apply! Unless my kid doesn't want me around, then I won't apply lor

Hey, maybe I would still apply! :idea: I go spa!

[Dnls_mum]

dasalo:

IMO, it should not be the problem of the parents. It is the kid that is taking their PSLE and not parents. Neither me nor my dh take any leave when my gals had their PSLE. They are supposed to be prepared by then.

Another important fact is PSLE is not a conclusive or a good gauge to a child's ability in the future.

:goodpost:
I agree, but we are a minority on this forum

[kwcllf]

Dnls_mum:

dasalo:

IMO, it should not be the problem of the parents. It is the kid that is taking their PSLE and not parents. Neither me nor my dh take any leave when my gals had their PSLE. They are supposed to be prepared by then.

Another important fact is PSLE is not a conclusive or a good gauge to a child's ability in the future.

:goodpost:
I agree, but we are a minority on this forum

Yes, I agree that DC should have been prepared by then. But have been mentioned many times, it is not necessarily to push DC to study hard. But to provide moral support and help them to be as relaxed as possible. I took leave during the whole PSLE exam period but I need not push my DS to study or to slog. I pick him up immediately after the exam and send him home promptly so that he can have more time to rest and be prepared for the next paper.

[dasalo]

kwcllf:

Yes, I agree that DC should have been prepared by then. But have been mentioned many times, it is not necessarily to push DC to study hard. But to provide moral support and help them to be as relaxed as possible. I took leave during the whole PSLE exam period but I need not push my DS to study or to slog. I pick him up immediately after the exam and send him home promptly so that he can have more time to rest and be prepared for the next paper.

Sometimes I wonder if we the parents take leave, the child will feel more stress as they will think \"Oh..dear, my parents are on my back now!\"

I rather let it be as normal as possible. Then again, every child is different. :xedfingers: :please:

[Dnls_mum]

dasalo:

Sometimes I wonder if we the parents take leave, the child will feel more stress as they will think \"Oh..dear, my parents are on my back now!\"

I rather let it be as normal as possible. Then again, every child is different. :xedfingers: :please:

Your comment reminds me of a friend. She was a working mother all her life. She multi-tasked very well, had 4 kids and hold a very senior position in a European Investment bank. The type that has a car and driver provided by the bank. The bank went through some problems and had to down size. She happily took the package (which was really good), and decided to take a break to spend time with her kids. She had always had a wonderful relationship with her kids, so imagine the shock she had that after a few weeks, her kids asked her when she is going back to work!! They want her to go back to work :rotflmao: her constant presence actually stressed them so much! :rotflmao:

Sometimes, what we think our kids want, is not necessarily what they really want :). Sometimes it is what we want and we use our kids to justify our actions :evil:

[peapot]

Wow! Didn’t know that our presence could stress the kids. I always think my gal would love to have me in the Hse, at least that’s what I thought. Maybe I will go ask her…