All About Preparing For Secondary One

[janet88]

MMM:

janet_lee88:

We as mummies have to pass baton to husbands when boys move to Sec 1...then I have to close both eyes....not bcos I am cruel but some things which hubby does can be eye sore.

However, I am hearing conflicting encounters from other parents who have been through that. One told me that she let go when her ds went to sec school and the son literally \"flew away\". So when we spoke, she said she was trying to pull back the control which she felt she shouldn't have let go everything. So her feedback was even if kids are in sec school, as parents, we still need to watch them.

Speaking with my teenage niece and nephew. They said that despite what they went through in sec school, they felt that as their parents continue to \"keep a close watch\" on them and maintain a close relationship with them, it was not possible for them to \"turn bad\". My nephew was failing all subs at Sec 4 as he said he mixed with the wrong company. But fortunately, he eventually did well enough to go to poly. He just graduated and is a fine young man who knows what he wants. My nieces on the other hand has a strict father so they are the decent (kuai kuai) type. But the good thing is I don't seem them becoming rebellious despite having a strict father.

yes, my gf also told me the same thing...not that we can wash our hands when kids go to sec school...that is the teenage years and also the time they can mix with wrong company. so, not possible to adopt hands-off approach but to talk to him nicely so that he will still approach hubby & me when he needs advice. how to go back to work ??? no way.

[Dazzle]

For me, I decided to let go to a certain extend. Last two years I have stopped checking his bags for memo from school and wanted him to show me forms which I have to sign. Even in cases where I already know there is consent form to sign, I pretend I don’t know and wait for my son to show me Some times it is good to let him face the tongue-lashing from his teacher.

Now that he is in Sec school, I will stop reminding him on things he has to bring to school. But, I will still keep an eye on his school work. Not the holding hand style but just to ensure he does not procrastinate. A friend told me as kids enters teenage years, it is important to make sure you know who he mix with. I totally agree to that.

[janet88]

Dazzle:

Some times it is good to let him face the tongue-lashing from his teacher.

Now that he is in Sec school, I will stop reminding him on things he has to bring to school. But, I will still keep an eye on his school work. Not the holding hand style but just to ensure he does not procrastinate. A friend told me as kids enters teenage years, it is important to make sure you know who he mix with. I totally agree to that.

My son came back yesterday with a black face...complained about the many rules to remember. Also said if fail any subject, there will be remedial after school. It's good that the school is keeping a tight leash.
Fortunately school is nearby and once he has settled in, I will monitor his behaviour. Another phase

[Coolkidsrock2]

Out of scope of discussion but can I check if anyone has checked out the sec 1 exam papers are available yet. What I can find is very dated ones 2007-2008. Vendor says check back after CNY but the first test will start next week.

[janet88]

Coolkidsrock2:

Out of scope of discussion but can I check if anyone has checked out the sec 1 exam papers are available yet. What I can find is very dated ones 2007-2008. Vendor says check back after CNY but the first test will start next week.

What test next week? :yikes: what subject?
Hubby told me the P said all students must pass english to be promoted to sec 2. End of orientation and honeymoon...lessons begin next Monday.
No more TV, games, iPad...in short, entertainment of any kind.

[watmekiasu]

janet_lee88:

No more TV, games, iPad...in short, entertainment of any kind.

Ahmmm, that's a sure way to make them hate education and schooling in general. I'm sure you didn't mean that.

I believe everything has a priority. Finish school work first, after that, I don't care how you spend your time.

[SAHM_TAN]

Coolkidsrock2:

Out of scope of discussion but can I check if anyone has checked out the sec 1 exam papers are available yet. What I can find is very dated ones 2007-2008. Vendor says check back after CNY but the first test will start next week.

Did you try the shops at Bras Basah Complex? I thought I saw more current papers but not too sure becos my focus was on the primary schools' papers. The shop I visited was Knowledge Book Centre,
contact number 6336 7530. You can call to chk first.

[janet88]

watmekiasu:

janet_lee88:

No more TV, games, iPad...in short, entertainment of any kind.

Ahmmm, that's a sure way to make them hate education and schooling in general. I'm sure you didn't mean that.

I believe everything has a priority. Finish school work first, after that, I don't care how you spend your time.

seriously, i doubt he has time to touch the ipad...first test next month JUST after cny. even my younger one in p3 is busy with her spelling and 默写.

[janet88]

as long as he can finish his school homework before bedtime…he can watch tv…as i am surfing, he is on ipad.

[mummy so kiasu]

janet_lee88:

What test next week? :yikes: what subject?
Hubby told me the P said all students must pass english to be promoted to sec 2. End of orientation and honeymoon...lessons begin next Monday.
No more TV, games, iPad...in short, entertainment of any kind.

My kids only play iPad games & watch TV programmes over weekends & during school holidays. No time for entertainment on weekdays. Have to do homework, learn spelling & study for test.