don't really know how to talk to wife

[Imami]

Jennifer:

slmkhoo:

[quote=\"Jennifer\"]Ya, my hubby does not do the above. My younger boy does


Last week, my younger boy was told: I am not as sporty as you, into so many types of games. I do not feel motivated to play tennis or soccer with you. Badminton and table tennis I can do.

Sad, right?

I don't see it as sad, just reality. You don't expect him to like all the things you like, so he has to learn to do the same. You are preparing him well for later life. I don't feel at all guilty when I tell my kids that I will not do certain things with them because I don't enjoy them, and they accept that.

I felt sad due to a reason I cant post here.[/quote]Whatever the reason, don't dwell on it too much/long :hugs:

[Joule]

Happie Mummy:

To Joule,

.....
I hope this can be helpful

yes thank you

I will read it again

anyway like I said before we do not have a 'major' problem

(well, as major as I can imagine anyway)

we still get along, it is only when argument and misunderstanding happen

then I get reeaal mad

we are still generally ok

yesterday we averted an argument over kid after kid sleep

it was a good 'save'.

we managed to catch ourselves before argument escalated

so she went to play her iPad candy game and I went out for walk (and ice cream, hur hur)

I'm ok with her not paying attention to me as long as it's not too bad

relationship is made out of togetherness and separateness anyway

[sleepy]

Jennifer:

I was very much a stay at home person - everyday at home was a playday when the boys were younger.

:hi5:

I'm a 宅女. Very hard to drag myself out of the house unless necessary. So when kids were young, there were no walks in the garden (although right in front of my block) or trips to playground. We merely 宅 at home together everyday

I don't even play with my kids. I asked them to play with each other. Kiddy toys bores me. I only like the rolling on bed westling and tickle them silly kind of playing

I did start to exercise since last March because of some drastic weight gain which scared me off my favourite couch. After reaching an exercise peak end of last year, I started to slow down again because of recurring knee pain, hip pain. Aiyo, I'm better off not exercising since I don't have these problems when I was a couch potato

Anyway, not renewing my gym membership and have since removed all cardio exercises like kickboxing and zumba. Now only intending to continue with ABT exercise classes twice a week since I'm taking classes together with dh.

Hey, I can't swim at all & can't jog at all (unless 50m counts).
But who cares :evil:

[sleepy]

slmkhoo:

Married a man who ran several times a week so tried to pick it up, but really hated it. So I stuck to swimming. Now my 13yo daughter runs with her daddy (who has slowed down due to age and knee problems!).

Your dh is into marathon? I agreed with your earlier post that couples don't have to do everything together la

My dh has been doing 10km so far although he's rather serious, would train in gym with specific machines to target certain muscles group, take ABT class to improve core strength, etc etc on top of his weekly run.

He also likes golf but I have no intention of joining him. I don't quite get the merit of sweating profusely under the sun risking pigmentation. So I avoid outdoor exercises until I could figure out how to play golf or jog with a huge umbrella :rotflmao:

[Jennifer]

sleepy:

Jennifer:

I was very much a stay at home person - everyday at home was a playday when the boys were younger.

:hi5:

I did start to exercise since last March because of some drastic weight gain which scared me off my favourite couch. After reaching an exercise peak end of last year, I started to slow down again because of recurring knee pain, hip pain. Aiyo, I'm better off not exercising since I don't have these problems when I was a couch potato

Anyway, not renewing my gym membership and have since removed all cardio exercises like kickboxing and zumba. Now only intending to continue with ABT exercise classes twice a week since I'm taking classes together with dh.

Hey, I can't swim at all & can't jog at all (unless 50m counts).
But who cares :evil:

I am worse than you - cant swim, cant jog N cant cycle. Bugs my younger boy a lot bcos he wants to do the above but no kaki.

My elder boy told me cycling is fun after he went for cycling with his CCA club friends and the night cycle the school organised.

I am shocked to hear that you aren't into your exercise regimen anymore due to \"injuries\". Hv you visited a sports injury specialist? Do take care.

[sleepy]

Jennifer:

I am shocked to hear that you aren't into your exercise regimen anymore due to \"injuries\". Hv you visited a sports injury specialist? Do take care.

Thanks!

My gym trainer advised me to cut down on cardio exercises. I'm fine with weight training and floor stretching exercises (so will be continuing with my ABT classes) but gotta stay away from jumping kicking twisting kind of intensive cardio to avoid recurring knee pain.

Jennifer:

I am worse than you - cant swim, cant jog N cant cycle. Bugs my younger boy a lot bcos he wants to do the above but no kaki.

My elder boy told me cycling is fun after he went for cycling with his CCA club friends and the night cycle the school organised.

I learned cycling when I was in p2. I seriously doubt I could pick it up any new sports in adulthood. Tried learning swimming when in Sec 1 and in my early 20s but to no avail.

My dh has been bugging me to learn inline skating the last 2 years. I obviously :siam:

[Jennifer]

sleepy:

Jennifer:

I am shocked to hear that you aren't into your exercise regimen anymore due to \"injuries\". Hv you visited a sports injury specialist? Do take care.

Thanks!

My gym trainer advised me to cut down on cardio exercises. I'm fine with weight training and floor stretching exercises (so will be continuing with my ABT classes) but gotta stay away from jumping kicking twisting kind of intensive cardio to avoid recurring knee pain.

Jennifer:

I am worse than you - cant swim, cant jog N cant cycle. Bugs my younger boy a lot bcos he wants to do the above but no kaki.

My elder boy told me cycling is fun after he went for cycling with his CCA club friends and the night cycle the school organised.

I learned cycling when I was in p2. I seriously doubt I could pick it up any new sports in adulthood. Tried learning swimming when in Sec 1 and in my early 20s but to no avail.

My dh has been bugging me to learn inline skating the last 2 years. I obviously :siam:

inline skating - I tried. but with wobbly legs, really CMI. In the end, sold the equipment to someone.

[buds]

Dowan to talk to Joule oredi. He doesn't know how to talk to me. Keep asking me change avatar. Either I am a distraction or I am not distracting him enough. No fun. Avatars are supposed to be fun.. for fun. :roll:


But aniwaes, am gonna share something shared by a friend of mine..

[buds]

A very poor man lived with his wife.


One day, his wife, who had very long hair asked him to buy her a comb for her hair to grow well and to be well-groomed.

The man felt very sorry and said no. He explained that he did not even have enough money to fix the strap of his watch he had just broken.

She did not insist on her request.

The man went to work and passed by a watch shop, sold his damaged watch at a low price and went to buy a comb for his wife.

He came home in the evening with the comb in his hand ready to give to his wife.

He was surprised when he saw his wife with a very short hair cut.

She had sold her hair and was holding a new watch band.

Tears flowed simultaneously from their eyes, not for the futility of their actions, but for the reciprocity of their love.

MORAL : To love is nothing, to be loved is something but to love and to be loved by the one you love, that is EVERYTHING. Never take love for granted.

[Joule]

buds:

A very poor man lived with his wife.


One day, his wife, who had very long hair asked him to buy her a comb for her hair to grow well and to be well-groomed.

The man felt very sorry and said no. He explained that he did not even have enough money to fix the strap of his watch he had just broken.

She did not insist on her request.

The man went to work and passed by a watch shop, sold his damaged watch at a low price and went to buy a comb for his wife.

He came home in the evening with the comb in his hand ready to give to his wife.

He was surprised when he saw his wife with a very short hair cut.

She had sold her hair and was holding a new watch band.

Tears flowed simultaneously from their eyes, not for the futility of their actions, but for the reciprocity of their love.

MORAL : To love is nothing, to be loved is something but to love and to be loved by the one you love, that is EVERYTHING. Never take love for granted.

that is very nice story

and sad

see la. never assume.

now waste money

and ya la your avatar is like magnet for my eyes I open page will sure go straight to look at the avatar no need to read the posts already just look at avatar can oredi