2013 Sec 1 Discussions

[sharonkhoo]

janet_lee88:

fifiyeo:

Haha! I also tell DS that he's not making money yet so anyone he tries to date is our girlfriend.


Friend's DS spending quite a lot of time on the phone with this girl and grades on the drop.

Hubby: do not get serious at young age...or your studies will suffer...your father here is one example.
Son: how old were you?
Hubby: 26. Almost flunked university. Unless you want to fail, do not start any relationship.

Sec school is definitely too young. But we tell our kids that it's OK once they are over 18, as long as they are responsible and can balance their work and play. My husband and I went steady in our first year at university at 20yo, and both of us managed fine, and my husband did extremely well. We have other friends in the same situation who also did well academically. So it's not the age so much as the ability to be self-disciplined.

[sharonkhoo]

fifiyeo:

Problem is my friend don't want to get to know the girl. She doesn't like him to bring friends home too.

With teens, telling them 'no' outright often leads to more problems. Wise parents will find a way where the teen doesn't feel that his opinions and preferences are being ignored.

[janet88]

It’s not possible to tell teenagers NO and…that’s it. Son is not interested in girls yet…but when he is at that stage, it will be hard. So I can only hope it will be delayed as long as possible.


His hospitalization leave ends today…back to school 2moro.
Got him to call his classmate to enquire homework. Read up on history and geography.

[kwcllf]

janet_lee88:

fifiyeo:

Haha! I also tell DS that he's not making money yet so anyone he tries to date is our girlfriend.


Friend's DS spending quite a lot of time on the phone with this girl and grades on the drop.

Hubby: do not get serious at young age...or your studies will suffer...your father here is one example.
Son: how old were you?
Hubby: 26. Almost flunked university. Unless you want to fail, do not start any relationship.

You were the ONE that made him almost flunk university? :spank: :rotflmao:

[janet88]

I didn’t even know him then…how to make him fail? When I knew him, he was repaying study loan. Sorry, off topic.


Back to Sec 1. Study first…don’t tell me about going steady. I told son his wings are still not strong until he finishes O levels and can go out with girls in a group…翅膀还没硬…father still supporting him.

[mummy so kiasu]

janet_lee88:

I didn't even know him then...how to make him fail? When I knew him, he was repaying study loan. Sorry, off topic.


Back to Sec 1. Study first...don't tell me about going steady. I told son his wings are still not strong until he finishes O levels and can go out with girls in a group..翅膀还没硬...father still supporting him.

Dating will lead to spend more money. Money usually come from daddy. Where got so much money to sponsor them? Parents got to save for sons to go dating?

[janet88]

mummy so kiasu:

janet_lee88:

I didn't even know him then...how to make him fail? When I knew him, he was repaying study loan. Sorry, off topic.


Back to Sec 1. Study first...don't tell me about going steady. I told son his wings are still not strong until he finishes O levels and can go out with girls in a group..翅膀还没硬...father still supporting him.

Dating will lead to spending more money. Money usually come from daddy. Where got so much money to sponsor them? Parents got to save for sons to go dating?

Daddy still has to work hard for him to attend tuition. Go for dates? What does he know about earning money? One movie ticket is $8-9. Drinks and popcorn excluded. Told hubby before, even if I provide money for son to learn driving, I am not in favour of him taking car to drive girlfriend around.
Take a bus.

[TheAnswer]

I have never thought of saving money so that DS can go for dates!!

[janet88]

TheAnswer:

I have never thought of saving money so that DS can go for dates!!

If he wants a girlfriend, study hard...or else eating at food court also a problem. Take a bus...no such thing as using father's car to date.

[sharonkhoo]

Frankly, while still at school, surely both should share the cost of ‘dates’? Except for special occasions (maybe), I would expect my daughters to pay their share while the boy is still financed by his parents. If the boy takes the initiative to plan, arrange and ask, that’s pretty good already. And they should tailor their dates according to their resources - there’s no need to spend a lot of money each time. When my husband and I were dating as students, I mostly paid my share as I knew he couldn’t afford to pay everything all the time. On special occasions, one or the other of us would specifically offer to bear the full cost. And we found ways to spend time together without spending much money.