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[dunnoleh]

Angelight:

Hi dunnoleh,


Is it becos men like women/girls who know how to \"sa jiao\", so those wives who can \"sa jiao\" to their hubbies tend to have their hubbies wrapped around their pinkies?

I dunnoleh! :lol: :lol: :lol:

I'd surrender unconditionally to my daughters' \"sa jiao\" , just like to DW 20+ years ago.

I think it is an integral component of the female DNA, programmed to execute from the age of 2, right?

[duriz]

dunnoleh:

Angelight:

Yes, yes, I totally agree. Most if not all daughters have a special place in daddies' hearts. DD is a good example. Not only does DH dote on her, even my FIL also loves and dotes on her like the daughter he never has. ...

so true! both my daughters have me wrapped around their pinkies. :oops:

Me three.
DD has DH and FIL wrapped around her chubby fingers, tight tight.
Both families have been living in banana plantations for 24+ years until DD, a precious gem of the female persuasion popped!
For now, she runs the show :love:

[duriz]

dunnoleh:

I think it is an integral component of the female DNA, programmed to execute from the age of 2, right?

I think earlier than the age of 2, Daddy dunnoleh.
When DH set his eyes on DD at the minute of her birth, he cried.
Then I knew, this man finished liao, his little girl has completely taken over his heart and mind.
Heng still got some space for me :oops:

[dunnoleh]

duriz:

dunnoleh:

I think it is an integral component of the female DNA, programmed to execute from the age of 2, right?

I think earlier than the age of 2, Daddy dunnoleh.
When DH set his eyes on DD at the minute of her birth, he cried.
Then I knew, this man finished liao, his little girl has completely taken over his heart and mind.
Heng still got some space for me :oops:

hahahahaa.... :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:

and I know exactly what you are talking about. :oops:

[buds]

duriz:

Then I knew, this man finished liao, his little girl has completely taken over his heart and mind.

Realize how the husbands come back home from work after taking
some days for after delivery (paternal leave) and \"usually\" greet &
kissy huggy wuggy the baby first before the wifey.

Hubs used to say, \"Where got?\" Until he realized, i was right. :laugh:
Cos my arms were outstretched for my \"hi honey i'm home\" hug when
he went straight to DD1 and goo goo gaa gaa huggy wuggy bunny baby
then realized my arms were still outstretched... and looking :roll:... :lol:

Oh.. things improve after that realization. :politebleah:

[buds]

3Boys:

My wife has me wrapped around her pinky, and its not from nagging and scolding.....

I'm dying http://www.freesmileys.org/smileys.php for a more detailed sharing from you, 3boys.. :rubhands:

Start a new thread if you must. :idea:
I'm here to learn. http://www.freesmileys.org/smileys.php

You can call it, \"How wifeys can wrap their hubbies round their pinkies...\" http://www.freesmileys.org/smileys.php

Oooh, pretty please say you will! :please:

[buds]

Eagle-Ladybird:

aiya, you all should learn from my daugther. She's so good in having me in her pocket, that my wife openly complains about it - that I have double-standard, that she can do no wrong, and that daddy will do anything for her, and so on . . . .

Honestly?

Only my mother in law is capable of this. :rotflmao:
She has hubs deep in her pocket awrite. Only she,
and she alone can do no wrong. Now that
is definitely double standard.

Eagle-Ladybird:

but then, it's known that daughters have a special place in daddies's heart, right ?

For me and MY daddie though... it's a different story.
I will always be daddie's little girl..http://www.freesmileys.org/smileys.php

[buds]

dunnoleh:

Angelight:

Yes, yes, I totally agree. Most if not all daughters have a special place in daddies' hearts. DD is a good example. Not only does DH dote on her, even my FIL also loves and dotes on her like the daughter he never has. ...

so true! both my daughters have me wrapped around their pinkies. :oops:

if only mummies can do this, \"tender grass\" out there will surely wither and die.
unfortunately, that is not the case,
as they can be seen growing all over the place in Singapore these days.

Please lah dunnoleh.. THAT is NOT the ONLY reason for men seeking
tender grass. :roll: Men do not need a valid reason in the 1st place
to go for temporary tender-ness..

It's not that the mummies cannot do \"this\"... they can...
I believe with spousal support and intense love for one
another, mummies will want to do this. Help them do it..
and let them in, so that daddies can reap the fruits of it
all.

Mummies will be mummies. The natural maternal instinct
will always be there to settle the children. Hubs & i are
in the process of renewing and rekindling our love ties
that i thought was lost on him.. Like yesterday, he said
outright to our girls, that \"Mummy & daddy will be having
our own time right when you girls are finishing up your dinner.\"

\"Do not disturb...\"

\"And be sure when we are out, you girls are done with dinner
(own dishes washed), showered, dressed and at the table doing
revision..\"

That's when i only added, \"Mummy rented a new CD for you girls
to chill out with once everything is done..\" :love:

The girls just looked at one another like this.. :evil: Nudged each
other.. and said, Yes sir! Yes ma'am! Yes... with salutes. :salute:

I'm saying that it is not fair to just ensure \"one\" person tries to
make it/things work. Like they say... it takes two to tango.

[duriz]

buds:

Oh.. things improve after that realization. :politebleah:

Yalah.
Now DH will say DD will not be around if not for his DW, the human incubator.
DD turned 1 and she displayed signs of independence, like walking and eating on her own, talking.
DH sadly realized his little baby growing up liao.
He used hold baby in one arm and my waist in his other.
Now we are back to holding hands.

[buds]

3Boys:

Hi buds,

Dearest 3Boys..

3Boys:

no lah, definitely not model couple. We both have our faults, but we are blessed with supportive parents who help cover child-minding, and thankfully are financially stable. Both these elements help a lot.

Naah, i wasn't insinuating that you two were model couples... i'm sure
as humans there will be occasions where we will be.... well? Humans...
Where we will act out natural human tendencies. :politebleah:

There will come off days where there's more tension... tantrums... deep
freeze days & nites.. (yup, that too! :lol:) Usually it can come from when
one or both are tired... cranky from work or kids... or when just the
hormones doing all the talking.. just one's typical bad day kinda
days.

I do believe too, it is how couples manage all this..

From your postings, i do/would like find out how you come to resolve
those minor misunderstandings... those crappy days... and stuff... i
mean, coming from a man's... (words, actions, thoughts, etc)

My parents are financially stable and more than prepared to enjoy their
silver years unlike my in-laws... hence the many problems on their end
which are causing the most friction between myself and hubs... all of
the years we've been married... not to mention my in-laws also have
relationship issues between themselves... Of course, the children are
at the tail-end of all the drama as well... no matter how i try to shield
them from it... it's really a daily affair thing, which thankfully with god's
blessings, i am less or not a part of these days. I'm reali thankful for
this..

My parents are also the ones who are always ready to provide and at
times even offer the occasional child-minding days.. and telling us to
just go ahead with our plans. They minded the girls for our past years'
anniversaries, kept the children fed, occupied and happy. They also
reminded the girls not to unnecessarilyy call on us if there wasn't
anything important.

They told the children today is whole day with gramps! :love:
(This is what the girls told us when we fetched them back from gramps)

Hubs and i hung out like old times.. Even booked a room to stay the nite
at Changi and talked the nite through reminiscing good times and bad, &
of course the great ones as well.

In retrospect, ILs will get the children to call on us non-stop and ask us
when we are coming back. It is frustrating. Then we come back to dirty,
smelly and worse, sometimes really hungry children.

So, I believe you when you say you have fantastic parental support
& fortunately for you both too.... for both your sides at that! :celebrate:
You ARE definitely blessed. :love:

3Boys:

Certainly we have had our disputes and occasions of deep freeze, but very very very few that have escalated to tears or shouting. Deep down, I love my wife intensely and I kinda think she feels the same way, and we ALWAYS make time for each other, it just seems natural.

The words in bold made me choke a little while typing away..
and a little tear. I suppose this is the very most core foundation
feeling a man must have; to know and to always remember his plc
in the family and in the wife's heart. Hence, never the need for any
distractions... cos such men won't need it (distraction).

3Boys:

One thing we have promised each other is never to take each other for granted.

Can share how this came about...? :please:

3Boys:

All cliches I know, but they apply. I can only give advice from my heart on this, which is that you have to place your spouse FIRST. The mum is more at risk of becoming embroiled in 24/7 child-minding, which in my book is a big mistake and possibly one of the worst things you can do for your family.

This is sound advice. It is a little late for my situation cos my marriage did
crumble a bit the past 2 years or so from my oblivion. Wives should always
remember not to place children in the centre of everything all the time... i
am beginning to know how to find place and time for everything and if i don't
i ain't gonna :stupid: bang my head on the wall over it...

My embroilment over child-minding and ensuring they be good kids had
made me forget (at times) that hubs can mind himself which eventually
led to complacency. The other important thing i learnt is also to take
care of myself. When that's done, i can take care of everyone else much
much better. A final lesson for me was that... Look good to feel good..
Just because we're married (for me a stay home parent too)... it doesn't
mean we must look like frumpy housewives.

I'm still learning... and i hope this time i can do it right. http://www.freesmileys.org/smileys.php

Thanks for your heartfelt sharing... and i really mean heartfelt.
Just the hormones today at work i suppose. But thanks, really..

http://www.freesmileys.org/smileys.php

K, gotta go mind the time now... DD1's having violin lessons. Yikes! :siam: