No Problem is problem

[Funz]

The best thing that anyone can do for the sake of their kids is to try to make their marriage work. Seems sad that 2 persons who got together to build a life together end up having to tolerate each other.

3Boys:

This is the place I want to be frankly. But both me and DW are super lazy when it comes to housework, so we have a trusty maid to do most of the chores. The kids are modelling off us, which is really going to be to their detriment in the future.

Aiyah, what to do? For the sake of keeping our relationship comfortable (it really does free up a lot of social time)

Nothing wrong with that. So long as we have our priorities right. DH and I were quarrelling so much about household chores previously and it really does not make sense at all. Instead of looking forward to spending time with each other we dread the weekends cos it's chores time (we both work very long hrs last time). And we have differring standards so whatever the other person does is not good enough. So in the end outsource and things improve tremendously.

[3Boys]

Funz:

The best thing that anyone can do for the sake of their kids is to try to make their marriage work. Seems sad that 2 persons who got together to build a life together end up having to tolerate each other.


Nothing wrong with that. So long as we have our priorities right. DH and I were quarrelling so much about household chores previously and it really does not make sense at all. Instead of looking forward to spending time with each other we dread the weekends cos it's chores time (we both work very long hrs last time). And we have differring standards so whatever the other person does is not good enough. So in the end outsource and things improve tremendously.

Good perspective :goodpost:

[hquek]

Understand and agree that it’s pretty much useless quarrelling over housework. But I find it quite strange, 2 people come together to build a life together…I guess guys don’t factor that to have a home (at least a clean one), some effort is required.


Wonderful for those hubbies who realised this and chip in. I’m very impressed by such men.

I have no problems doing housework - BUT, I don’t understand when the guy want to have a nice clean home and refuse to chip in. Don’t say do housework is doing ME a favour…it’s for OUR house. I take it that this is OUR home and surely we should do OUR part to keep it clean and nice?

(ok, nice got a lot of connotation - but at least some minimum level).

A bit like total defence, we all got a part to play…don’t just leave it all to the mercenaries (soldiers, maids alike). But this is my personal preference.

Am just enjoying the hay while the sun shines.

[minnie2004]

buds:

At times, i see the laundry has been hung when i wake

up in the morning... or all the dishes are already washed
after i finish my dinner... and he does all the vacuuming +
mopping work. Both my girls also chip in. Well, lucky me..

So sweet, your hubby and girls :love:

[buds hubs]

buds:

I am fortunate that i do not have major issues
with petty housework cos hubs is a real doll
when it comes to housework. :love:

:oops: Geeez.. thanks baby!!

[buds]

Thanks minnie2004.. :hugs:


Well, i AM a known nite owl.
I usually hang the clothing wee hours of the morning and try to
finish up with chores when i have settled everyone into bed..
hubs included.

So, i tend to sleep in during the AM.. Hubs surprises me with an
extremely clean house when i wake up sometimes. Guess i slept
thru' all that vacuuming racket and what nots. :oops:

[jedamum]

hquek:

Very strange. if he does housework, he's helping ME....if I do housework, I'm definitely not doing him a favour...sometimes I really wonder why the disparity.

hquek,
something funny to share with you.

if i do housework, it is my duty.
if dh does housework, it is 4play.
:evil: :rotflmao:

[ZacK]

adhdadhd:

Hello Kong,
First, I want to let you know, you are not alone.
If you are a job holder, you are luckier than me and many \"self-employed\". I have been unable to get a job since being laid off in Sep 08. My friend, who is around my age (late 40) in the same Semicon industry, also jobless since May 08. We are master degree holders, over Qualified and rejected by taxi companies... they say, when times are back to good, he will give up driving....

If you can still buy favorite books, food for your kids, you are more luckier.

I fall into what you mentioned, married older ... at 37 .. so you are luckier again.

During morning jog, I often run into these special kids learning how to jog, methodologically guided by their teachers (salute to these teachers, they are so kind!).. and you are luckier than these kids' parents...

You are indeed a very lucky person, who still able to vent in this Forum, and get so many of us to response to your \"greives\"! Much much better than those who don't even have money to buy computers....

Take heart, live life and be contended with what you have.

I like your perspective in life... Sometimes it's good to adopt this mindset... Then a lot of our problems will actually not be problems.

Cheers :celebrate:

[Donkey Kong]

Do you all think certain kind of personalities, not suitable for marriage?

:?
Eg, those who are creative, artists, fashion designers, inventors, etc.

Their minds are constantly on the move..... :love:

[mocharita]

What do you think? Why don’t you give your first opinion since your mind is not constantly moving? I’'ll be delighted to read your opinion.