In-law problems?
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buds:
Mine wud rather i endure the conflicts & ensure they got a space to stay... even when it meant a very emotionally straining relationship.
Hubs never believes me when i'm sad things happen.. I'm tired.. just really worn out... exhausted... all i want is for us to live our own lives.
I understand how you feel. A marriage can break down when the old ones cause conflict and hubby doesn't know bcos all he sees is the angelic & demure side. Living with husband and kids can be so blissful, of course with ups and downs, and the last thing any woman wants is conflict. I hate it most when the old one comes into the picture and creates unhappiness between the couple, which happened during the early years of my marriage. We will always quarrel after a visit. -
buds I sincerely hope that things go ur way.
buds:
Its only fair men do this. after all wifes do - we love our kids, our parents but we love DH more. Why cant they reciprocate ?? :x
I want to feel important and the centre of his lifebuds:
The price of being good...
That is what i get for being too forgiving? Not tt
i don't mind or i bo chap. I DO mind & i'm extremely hurt from the 10yrs
of emotional abuse. I've come out all bruised and swollen but heck definitely stronger.
Sometimes its time to put ur foot down - it can be very emotinally draining to live with someone under the same roof when the relationship is very strained.buds:
I sincerely hope hubs does not force me to take them in to stay with us
@ our new place cos i'm honestly done dealing with them.. i've had enuf.
I honestly cannot take any more.
Guess u r really down. so far the posts i have read of urs are all oozing with enthusiam , give really useful advice, a pat o someones back...
So here is something to cheer u up , laugh even if u heard it b4
God couldnt be everywhere so he made mothers. :love:
Devil couldnt be everywhere so he made MILs
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oh buds that is so terrible!!
but i tot the idea of getting ur own place is to get rid of them (pardon me for being so blunt) but if getting a new place equates in-laws coming along, defeat the purpose mah, might as well stay put!!
i hope all works out and they dun have to tag along with u to ur new place!! -
Dear Buds,
Hang in there... don't lose hope yet. When God closes a door, He opens a window.
Stay strong and press on for the window to open soon. -
Just a brief rant.
We live with PILs.
My MIL is nice most times.
DD’s first birthday is coming up.
DH just called to say his mom doesn’t want a big celebration but only a dinner at home among ourselves, no guests, just like dinner everyday. He also added that they are at the cake shop, can they go ahead and order the cake.
The only I said to him was:"If you are the mother of the child, would you like to see how the cake looks like before ordering it?"
Then I smsed him:"To avoid tension between you and I in future, please do not let your mother make any decisions when it comes to our dotter." :x
Q: What do you do when you miss your MIL?
A: Reload and try again. -
LKVM:
I KNOW!Hey duriz... sometimes I dont understand why the guys are like that :stupid:
Why cant they think even we as the mom's have some rights and some dreams about our own kids :?
Just everything can let others decide :stupid:
He's a guy, he has his limitations, so I can empathise.
But she is a woman.
She has her children, her hopes and her dreams. But why trample on mine?
I'd just gone into the ladies to let out a soft scream then wash my face.
I still need to go home to them.
And hug my DD very very tight. -
hi duriz
yes, i can understand, as a mum, of cuz we wan to order the special cake… wat is trivial in IL/DH’s eyes might be a big deal to us mummies…
to make u feel beta…
my DD is 1st grandchild of both sides… my MIL said no big celebration for DD’s full month as her side siblings won’t attend so she conclude since her relatives dun wan to attend, we dun need to order buffet etc but what about fil’s side of relatives?? she dun care…
not to mention she nv remember’s DD’s birthday for 3 yrs running…
this yr, we turned up at her place with DD’s birthday cake and she goes oh i forget again, sorry sorry… :x -
LKVM:
yeah, jia you!!!
Dont be so sad dear... u can do it :hugs:duriz:
I KNOW!
He's a guy, he has his limitations, so I can empathise.
But she is a woman.
She has her children, her hopes and her dreams. But why trample on mine?
I'd just gone into the ladies to let out a soft scream then wash my face.I still need to go home to them.
And hug my DD very very tight. -
Dear LKVM and hapydino,
Thank you both.
It's just that this morning DD cut her upper lip when she fell.
Two weeks ago she fell from the bed and had a baluku.
All under MIL's care (?).
She'd apologise profusely to me and I'd let both incidents go.
Children learning how to walk will have many accidents, I give.
Until that fated phone call from DH.
$@#$%@%@^@&*
I'm sad to feel so angry.
When I think of Mummy buds
Haiz, motherhood really isn't for sissies. -
hapydino:
Sorry to hear.my DD is 1st grandchild of both sides.. my MIL said no big celebration for DD's full month as her side siblings won't attend so she conclude since her relatives dun wan to attend, we dun need to order buffet etc but what about fil's side of relatives?? she dun care..
not to mention she nv remember's DD's birthday for 3 yrs running..
this yr, we turned up at her place with DD's birthday cake and she goes oh i forget again, sorry sorry.. :x
And yet you're a hapydino.
Kudos to you :celebrate:
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