Vulgar words
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mckenzy:
Aptly put, mckenzy.i feel that vulgarities only come out when we cannot express ourselves (usually at extreme emotional moments) properly with the right grammer and vocabulary.
Use of vulgarities reflect poorly on this ability. I'm was no goodie two shoes myself when i was in primary school... but over the years i managed to wean-off this 'simplistic' (for want of a better term) way of expression and move on to express myself in a more 'proper' way.
In alot of cases, moving away from vulgarities means keeping quiet and holding the tongue. The tongue is a powerful organ that can speak life and also speak ill... what comes out of our mouth shows what is within... food for thought...
I found it less frustrating if I take it my children use expletives because they could not think of any other way of expressing their negative emotions.
I actually stopped them there and then, and turn the episode into an English lesson.. forcing them to rack their brains for 1 or 2 phrases to replace the offending one. -
If this word is not offensive, why is it not fully spell out when people use it. I still feel it is not pleasant.
Yes, this word is getting very commonly used nowadays. But common does not mean one should follow and use it too.
I recently noticed, shark (not sure if I spell correctly) word replacing shit. :? -
daisyt:
Are you referring to \"shucks\" rather than shark? :?
I recently noticed, shark (not sure if I spell correctly) word replacing shit. :? -
daisyt:
schools do censor the 'f' and 's' words, at least my kids' schools do thatIf this word is not offensive, why is it not fully spell out when people use it. I still feel it is not pleasant.
Yes, this word is getting very commonly used nowadays. But common does not mean one should follow and use it too.
I recently noticed, shark (not sure if I spell correctly) word replacing shit. :?
they know those words and vulgar and rude and they know it is wrong to use them whether as verb, nouns, or as punctuation marks.....if they can't find the word to express their frustrations .... they will go and find the right words for it and express their frustrations in rephrasing their thoughts.
It is all a matter of self-control taught from young. -
ZacK:
Yes, this should be the one. Thanks
Are you referring to \"shucks\" rather than shark? :?daisyt:
I recently noticed, shark (not sure if I spell correctly) word replacing shit. :? -
So how do you explain to your kids the real meaning of the f*** word. Do you start your sex education talk here?
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When I heard my 5 yr old DS1 say ‘s***’ one day, I simply told him in a very matter of fact way that it was a rude word. He stopped after that. I discovered later on that he had learnt it from a classmate, X. In fact, we found this out at X’s birthday party, where X was using the word freely during a game. I think all the other parents around were shocked. In the end, DH told X that it was inappropriate behavior.
Our boys also learned ‘wah-l**’ from my in-laws. Though not quite as vulgar, it’s still not polite language. We told our boys that it was not a nice word to use. Now they they will ‘catch’ their grandparents and ‘scold’ them when they use that word.
My 3year old said f*** once, but I think he stumbled on it was he was trying to make up sounds. My mum was so amused when she heard it that she couldn’t stop laughing, which only encouraged him to say it more! So I had to distract him. He hasn’t said it since, thank goodness! -
rocklee:
Recently, my DS1 picked up a couple of vulgar words from the upp primary boys from the same sch bus. He came back and asked me abt the meaning of the F word and meaning of \"700\" in chinese. I was totally shocked to hear that. Immediately, I explained to him that those were vulgar words and he should never say them at all. I further explained that he should ignore his friends if they ever utter those words again. However, he was not convinced and asked what so vulgar abt it? I was speechless and I could only threaten him that if anyone were to catch him saying those words, he would have to see the principal as it is a very serious offence. I just hope he gets my message...
How would you deal with such a situation? Any advice?
Hi rocklee,
Sooner or later we will face this problem, especially with our boys.
I dealt with it not with the \"policeman with catch you\" threat, but by explaining to my son what is the meaning of the vulgar word and why it is vulgar or unpleasant to utter it. It can be an opportunity to inject some adhoc sex education into the conversation too.
The idea to put across is that using words like FXXX is for people who suffers from one or more of these:
(1) do not have a good vocabulary
(2) want to sound arrogant / aggressive / hip
(3) do not want to be respected -
I think one of the biggest predicaments concerning vulgarity is the fact that no one can really, truly explain WHY these words came to be and why one shouldn't say them. They are simply words after all, but I think one's best bet to explaining vulgarity to their child is to explain that there really IS no explanation. This will probably confuse your children, but sometimes it's best to just say \"it is what it is.\"
Regardless of WHY such vulgarity exists, it isn't acceptable in our society. With that said, no one should use it in their every day vernacular when in a professional or banquet setting. Instead of trying to think up a fine explanation on why these words shouldn't be used, sometimes it's better to be honest and simply say \"I don't know. . .but if you use that language in school or in a job interview, you're going to get in trouble.\"
There are lots of things in life that we can't explain. This is just another example of that.
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dun tok abt kids even among adults such words either get offensive or embarrassing.
we're both very open to such things but we believe if u explain the meaning of those words in the correct reference to kids then they might not find them so 'dirty' after all.
eg. the F word: make love; the 700 word: vagina, the LJ word: pen1s, etc...
what u all think? let us hear some feedback n comments.
hey why suddenly talking about sex organs and love-making? :?
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