桃花谈
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It never fails to intrigue me about acts committed by kids who apparently look smart and bright.
Intrigued about his 'suppressed' self vs the Self that he presented to others.
Intrigued about his upbringing.
Intrigued about what kind of parents / family background he has.
Intrigued about all this probable 共业 involved...
This smart looking chap is one of my daughter's schoolmates' army buddy who got himself a Sword of Honour and of course, it came as a shock for all those who know him coz I was told that he is a very nice good chap well liked by many.
When the 'light' is on, there's no other logical ways to explain about irrational behaviour. All just have to stick together, bite tongues and brave the storm together as a family... (when kids are in this kind of dire state, the only thing a parent can do is to ACCEPT, explain about own disappointment, and then move on. Apparently he knows that it is wrong if he had done that and so no point of keep going through the 'WHY? WHY? WHY?' with him. If he can come to his sense, he will; else, he may destroy himself and repeat the behaviour coz of something unresolved within himself. Parental full acceptance of a mistake is the key to touch a child for him to change (extinguishing or dimming the 'light). Scolding and nagging will always push a child further (making the 'light' brighter)...)
S'pore cadet found guilty of indecent act in Australia
SAF scholar Benedict Ang Yong Chuean found guilty of forcing a woman fellow cadet to kiss him. -ST
Tue, Apr 16, 2013
The Straits Times
Benedict Ang Yong Chuean, an SAF scholarship holder attending the Australian Defence Force Academy, has been found guilty of forcing a woman fellow cadet to kiss him. He will be sentenced late next month.
SINGAPORE - A Singaporean naval officer on trial in Australia for committing indecent acts has been found guilty of forcing a woman fellow cadet to kiss him.
But lieutenant Benedict Ang Yong Chuean, a trainee at the Australian Defence Force Academy (ADFA), was cleared of a second charge of undoing the woman's bra and touching her breast while she slept, Australian media reports said.
According to the Canberra Times on Friday, the 22-year-old regular in the Republic of Singapore Navy will be sentenced late next month. He remains on bail.
Ang was arrested in May last year for allegedly entering the 18-year-old woman's room in the same military college, and committing the indecent acts.
The court heard that the Singaporean entered the room in the early hours of May 6, a Sunday.
The woman reportedly had had 18 drinks during a night out hours earlier. Ang, who had five drinks that night, sent multiple text messages to her that same night asking where she was.
The Singaporean reportedly considered the woman a friend and called her \"sis\".
According to the prosecutor, Ang, once in the room, started to rub the woman's back. He then grabbed her by the jaw and repeatedly tried to kiss her.
She stopped him by using her teeth. Then she fell asleep. She said when she awoke later, Ang had undone her bra and was fondling her breast.
Ang, a Singapore Armed Forces scholarship holder who is in the ADFA to study for a degree awarded by the University of New South Wales, has maintained his innocence throughout.
He reportedly sat still and upright, and showed little reaction when the verdict was delivered on Friday night.
The Canberra Times reported Ang saying that the kiss was \"consensual\", and that he had gone into the woman's room to check on her.
He also claimed that he offered the cadet a back rub after she complained of feeling sore. Ang further said he was on the woman's bed and tried to kiss her.
But he stopped after she said: \"I can't do this, you are like my bro.\"
The Canberra Times quoted the prosecution calling Ang's account of events \"ridiculous\", \"bizarre\" and \"full of Freudian slips\".
Mr Shane Drumgold, the prosecutor, told the court that Ang had a fixation and \"unrequited love\" for the female cadet.
He also suggested that the Singaporean entered the woman's room after seeing a note in the hallway saying that she was drunk and needed someone to watch over her.
Ang also reportedly admitted to his fellow cadets that he had made a mistake, and pleaded with them not to report him as it would ruin his career.
Contacted on Saturday, the Singapore Defence Ministry's director of public affairs, Colonel Kenneth Liow, told The Sunday Times: \"The Singapore Armed Forces takes a serious view of the conduct and discipline of its servicemen. As court proceedings have not concluded, it is not appropriate for the Ministry of Defence to comment on this case.\"
Source: http://www.asiaone.com/print/News/Latest%2BNews/Singapore/Story/A1Story20130415-415984.html -
Is the 18 year old victim an Aussie girl?
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phtthp:
Is the 18 year old victim an Aussie girl?
No mention about the nationality of that girl.
He looks so smart (understand from a well to do family and from ACSI).
If he has to serve jail term, living with those convicts may forever change his life if he cannot be strong enough... -
insider,
how to "应尽量利用桃花化成人缘，对事业有间接帮助。" ?? -
jedamum:
As said, 桃花 means 异性缘. I think people like my elder son can make a living off women coz he is so well liked by girls / women and so if he were to embark on a sales career with women as 'targets', he is likely to achieve coz women see him, women tend to have a favourable impression of him and that will make life much easier.insider,
how to \"应尽量利用桃花化成人缘，对事业有间接帮助。\" ??
However, if this 桃花 is being carried too far away, then may end up like Cecilia...![](\"http://i48.tinypic.com/3585ks1.jpg\")
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Children and our spouses carry with them their own 'look/feel' as long as this 桃花/人缘 is concerned. If you are observant enough, then you may also notice that all those living in the same family have about similar 'look/feel'. A 贼头贼脑 boy tends to have either one or both parents also look like 贼头贼脑 coz of the 'rubbing' from one party to another.
Well, I have seen a family of four and WHOLE family looks like 鼠头鼠脸......
So the advice is still the same. Just be a good SELF and all will fall into place (内求不要外求）... -
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even from this photograph - Cecilia's face is attractive.
there seems to be feminine charm \"oozing\" from her.
think her face is a natural source of attraction for 桃花 -
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from pic, she actually look young and sweet, her nose also quite sharp and heart-shape face.
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Just curious, how about men with this kinda lips/mouth? :evil:
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