bobo99:

Hihi


chanced upon this thread while checking out how to send money back to Myanmar for maid.

After seeing so much discussion about maids, I am wondering if there is a channel to share / warn others about the maids who have been transferred out so that the next potential employer can think twice about getting them.

The maid was an Indon, Siti Masidah from Nation Maid Agency, and she went on a shopping spree after stealing from my family. She did her shopping spree on the morning I went to deliver my baby; bought skimpy shorts and tops which she hid them between bedsheets (rolled up). She is a married Muslim with a child but yet buy all these skimpy shorts. She also stole spaghetti-dresses from neighbours and claimed that people gave them to her for being honest. We wanted to give her another chance but when we asked her to come clean since we knew about her acts, she actually climbed out of our flat through the bedroom windows!

That was a wake-up call to us how daring this Siti can be so we transferred her back to agency. Last we heard, she was re-employed by another family from Nation in Hougang branch.

Given how scheming she was to us, we hope the family she is currently with now will not suffer the ordeal and trauma (when she climbed down from our flat, we were still worried she may fall and hurt herself). She didnt hurt herself but came back in 1 complete piece 2 hrs later to ask us to take her back, of course, we didn't. If she could do something so daring, who knows what's next?

Thus, I suggest all who's looking for a transfer maid to think twice since agents usually are obligated to paint a nice picture of them so that they can be re-employed.

Getting a maid is really a gamble these days so if there can be better channels to share, maybe we can have more confidence in getting the right maid.

Heard so much about Nation. High Class Fee/Charges and problematic maids.

JJ Chan:

Gifts from Heaven:

[quote=\"JJ Chan\"]The maid complained that my mother-in-law told her to wash & iron my father-in-law, mother-in-law and my single sister-in-law’s clothing, clean their bedrooms and washed my father-in-law’s car.

Question is - did your mil really asked the maid to do all those things?

Previously, when I had a maid, we also bring our maid to my mother's place with the kids enroute to work everyday n bring her back at night. We make sure that we communicate to the maid before we hire her abt this arrangement n also roughly what she has to do at my mom's plc, n get her agreement. Also, my mom will only ask her to do things related to my kids or us, employers only, not for herself or my dad. But if maid is willing to help, we are ok and my parents will 'reward' the maid with some stuff (like food/snacks or toiletries/clothings) for her effort.

Sorry to say, but some of the things mentioned above did border infringing MOM law, if the maid really did those stuff upon your mil's instructions. And, for your info, washing car is not considered 'domestic duties'. This 'rule' is a common knowledge amongst maids (all nationalities) and employers alike. I know some people pay their maids extra (under table) to wash their cars.

Your maid probably hear from other maids on her 1st off day and feels that she has been short-changed.

Hi Gifts from Heaven & also KimJeow,

Thanks for your replies.

We have just come back from a brief overseas trip trying to get over the shocks after going through the nightmare of my Filipino maid running away to MOM and we 'Kenna\" investigated and warned by MOM with \"bad record\" in the MOM.

When my husband & I interviewed the Filipino maid face-to-face in the agency, we told her we had to bring her to my MIL’s house with my children and she had to work there besides looking after my children. She replied “Ok, can , can .” and the agent staff, a Malaysian girl, kept quite but just told me to”sign here, sign there “ on all the bulky documents to confirm the maid. One week later, the maid was transferred to me with 3.5 months’ loan.

When my husband and I were in the MOM for investigations , we told the officers we did make the maid “Agreed” that she had to work in my MIL’s house because she did not have to work in our own house when we were working and there was no need to attend to our children in my MIL’s house when my children had gone to the schools..

But MOM officers said these:

\"In the first place, there was no such thing as employer making a private agreement with the maid to work 2 houses with “Full Load” intentionally “Contravening the MOM Work Permit Conditions”.

My husband then asked what if we have paid & compensated the maid for washing & ironing my MIL. FIL & SIL’s clothes and washing SIL’s car and the maid agreed? The MOM officers refuted and said these:

“It is the same thing!, there was no such thing as employer making a private agreement with the maid to work 2 houses with “Full Load” with or without compensation thus intentionally “Contravening the MOM Work Permit Conditions. In either case, it is against the law!”

The officers told us that “Your agent should have advised you on this” and “You should have been aware of this MOM Work Permit Condition as from our records, you are not a first-time maid-employer and you should have leant this infringement from the EOP online course you had attended before you employed your first maid, isn’t it?”

The MOM officers would totally quote the laws, the MOM Work Permit Conditions. We had nothing to say because if we did not admit wrong, then the case would not close and we have to face legal actions by MOM in court . So we had to sign the statements to admit that we had infringed the law and were given a “Guidebook for employer of Foreign Domestic Workers” as a “Souvenir” for attending the MOM investigations!

My husband & I have decided not to employ any maid right now.

JJ.[/quote]The course (FDW Employers' Orientation Programme) that we took before employing a new domestic helper did mentioned that helper are not suppose to work in 2 or more households. For example, the helper was registered under Jurong Address (own house) and her main duties was to take care of the children (maybe some household chores) but during daytime nobody was at home so she was been brought to the parents house in CCK. Her duties at CCK was to take care of the children only. she was not allow to help out any household chores.

During the olden days, maids don't mind helping out at the parent's home because their intention here (Singapore) was to earn more money and employer will also reimburse them some money (which was done in discreet). Time has change, due to the increase in number of complains from domestic helper for working in 2 or more households. MOM had tighten their regulations and is taking this issue very seriously. During the one day course which Domestic Helper had attended at MOM, MOM will emphasize to them again and again that working at 2 or more households is an offence. Moreover, nowadays most of the maid are here to \"see the world\" and enjoy life. Therefore, they definitely wouldn't want to work more. The maids are getting smarter and smarter because of their connection out there. We also have to play smart with them.

trimummy:

Asking fellow mummies for your opinions...


My mum's maid worked for her for almost 6 months and in the 6 months she has threatened us to send her home quite a few times already. Each time it's all because we told her off for doing something wrongly, then she show us black face and said she wanted to go home. Then after a few days when she \"cooled\" down she is back to normal.

This evening, again she threatened my mum to send her home. All because my mum confronted her regarding the way she washes the non-stick pan. I bought the pan for my mum and it's rather new, used for about 2-3 months only. Then one day I discovered that the entire pan is full of scratches. Asked her what happened and she said she dunno. Then I told her she cannot use the metal sponge to wash the pan because it will scratch it. Then she accused my mum of being the one who scratched the pan using the metal sponge. So I asked my mum and my mum said she did not use the metal sponge to wash, in fact my mum did not even wash that pan. When confronted she became very defensive and started arguing with us. Finally, she just walked away even before we finish talking. Then after that she told my mum she wanted to go home! :slapshead:

Very sick of her attitude and behavior. Every time when something goes wrong, she always denies that she is the one at fault (example, accidentally bleaching my colored shorts).. Or she will just say DUNNO. If she got caught red-handed then she will argue and show black face then later threaten us to send her home.

My mum is quite fed up already cos she has been doing this many times in her 6 months of employment. After threatening my mum, she has the cheek to tell her that she is happy working here, just that she cannot take when we tell her off for the mistakes she make! :siao:

Then like that how can she work here? Or anywhere? If she makes mistakes and we cannot point out her mistakes? What kind of theory is that? And we did not even raise our voice at her or scold her. Just told her what not to do next time and like that she cannot take it.

Should my mum just send her home as she requested? Cos really cannot stand her nonsense anymore. Every now and then come and kick up a fuss and threaten us.

Anyone face this kind of problematic maid? By the way she is 36 y.o. Heard from people that older maids tend to be like that. My mum chose her because thought older maids to be more matured.. :slapshead: turns out also not matured...

I used to have a filipino maid (who is a demon from hell). Created tonnes and tonnes of trouble for us during her 4 years of employment with us. She was around 31 when we first employed her. Initially she was super nice, hardworking, obedient...etc. After 1 year with us, her attitude started to change. Showing us her \"black face\" almost everyday. Common practice in maid - \"Talking back\". Not performing her tasks well. Simply ignore us when we were talking to her. Do not obey our instruction. Shouting at the elderly and children. I truly regretted for letting her staying with us for 4 years. her 4 years stay with us were really a nightmare. Until one fine day when I really cannot \"tahan\" her nonsense anymore, I sent her out of my house to the airport then bought the airtix at the airport and sent her flying back to her own country.

Don't say maid, we will also be wary when those ppl around us suddenly change their attitude towards us. Well.... We cannot send those ppl around us away but maid can. If I were you, I will not hesitate to buy an airtix and send the horrible maid back to her hometown. Show them that we are not someone whom she can be taken for granted. We are the BOSS, not her. We have the say, not her. Not as if she is happy then she stay, not happy then want to go back agent or home. Do not send her back to the agent because her new employer will be the next victim. Kindness beget kindness.

mummychia:

gumiho:

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U can book directly with Metro through their website.

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Mummy 81:

Hi,i get a myanmar maid last 2 mths.

May i know anyone have take this country's helper,how dp you all train them?as my helper ald 2 mths in my house but still need to inform & tell what she need to do. If not all will half way.
She like to delayed the work..always give an excuse \"later then do\"...but end up nvr do..
Can i have some opinion,how to train them & how to maintain cleanliness?
Thanks a lot

Create a schedule for them to follow.
It's all up to individual working capability, we can't expect a slow worker to work fast it will make them ended up more stress.
Tell them your preference. For example, I will emphasize to my helper that I do not want to see ants crawling in my house and she will make sure that she keep every corner of my house clean.

spwriting:

I think just teach her. 8 year old can't be too vicious. She probably used to sharing everything in the family. Do you think she steals in school? Like suddenly got new pens, pencils and things you never seen before?

I don't think she steal in school.
Almost everyday she come home with new notebooks/mechanical pencil/pen...etc. and she claimed that it was gifts from her best friend but we doubt so. Maybe she bought it with the money she stole from her father.

8yo. She is a daredevil, not afraid of punishment.

I don’t think she tell lies to hide her "secret". I just feel telling lies has become her habit. She can even tell lies at the very simplest thing.

Eg. I saw her tickling her sister (when her sister was asleep) then I asked her why was she doing that. Then she told me she saw a red bump on her sister’s stomach and she was helping her to scratch. I knew she love telling lies then I asked her," Really ? You better don’t lie to me again." Then she confessed actually she was tickling her sister.

Merely 8yo and took out the few hundred dollars from her hiding place which she stole from her father when we confronted her. :gloomy:

How would you punish your children if they steal money from you ?