if i am a mil,

[icy_mama]

dunno if i would have a chance cos dh told dc try not to get married and stay with us forever.


if i do, i dun want to live with them but near them.
i want them to have their own lives and me my own.

[janet88]

icy_mama:

dunno if i would have a chance cos dh told dc try not to get married and stay with us forever.


if i do, i dun want to live with them but near them.
i want them to have their own lives and me my own.

:hi5:
I want to enjoy couple time with hubby...so please move out when they get married.

[heyhoe]

I will embrace my DIL as my own daughters …(I only have sons)

Yet, I will try my very best not to be intrusive and be helpful when needed.
I’m happy to cook dinner for them if they wish and help to care for grandchildren occassionally.

However I don’t wish to be taken for granted. Also, have no wish to stay with them (whether it is our house or theirs). I think it is healthier (saner) for each of us to stay in our own unit. It’ll be good if we can stay near each other.

[Nebbermind]

janet_lee88:

:hi5:

I want to enjoy couple time with hubby...so please move out when they get married.

This reminds me of a joke I shared some time back

nebbermind:

A couple had been married for 50 years.
They were sitting at the breakfast table one morning when the wife says, 'Just think, fifty years ago we were sitting here at this breakfast table together.'
'I know,' the old man said. 'We were probably sitting here naked as a jaybird fifty years ago..'
'Well,' Granny snickered. 'Let's relive some old times..'
Where upon, the two stripped to the buff and sat down at the table.
'You know, honey,' the little old lady breathlessly replied, 'My nipples are as hot for you today as they were fifty years ago.'
'I wouldn't be surprised,' replied Gramps. 'One's in your coffee and the other is in your oatmeal'

[nightlone]

Nebbermind:

janet_lee88:

:hi5:

I want to enjoy couple time with hubby...so please move out when they get married.

This reminds me of a joke I shared some time back

nebbermind:

A couple had been married for 50 years.
They were sitting at the breakfast table one morning when the wife says, 'Just think, fifty years ago we were sitting here at this breakfast table together.'
'I know,' the old man said. 'We were probably sitting here naked as a jaybird fifty years ago..'
'Well,' Granny snickered. 'Let's relive some old times..'
Where upon, the two stripped to the buff and sat down at the table.
'You know, honey,' the little old lady breathlessly replied, 'My nipples are as hot for you today as they were fifty years ago.'
'I wouldn't be surprised,' replied Gramps. 'One's in your coffee and the other is in your oatmeal'

LOL!!

[janet88]

No need to wait so long…when kids go to sec school, we should be able to enjoy couple time?


Definitely no to staying with son and his future wife…will be taken for granted. Maybe ok to staying near daughter and her family though.

[Laura02]

I remember reading this phrase that apparently popular in 1950s America


"You son is your son till he gets a wife. You daughter is your daughter all her life"

[Harlequin]

Laura02:

I remember reading this phrase that apparently popular in 1950s America


\"You son is your son till he gets a wife. You daughter is your daughter all her life\"

..... and I have 2! :please:

[janet88]

Laura02:

I remember reading this phrase that apparently popular in 1950s America


\"You son is your son till he gets a wife. You daughter is your daughter all her life\"

No matter how much unhappiness, daughter will still be daughter.
Aunt once told me, to have a daughter is to 防老...try doing that with daughter-in-law, there will be a sting for life. I will not adopt a 'I am a mother-in-law...so you listen to me' mentality. But just be cordial, in order not to put son in the middle.

[Han Seo]

janet_lee88:

Laura02:

I remember reading this phrase that apparently popular in 1950s America


\"You son is your son till he gets a wife. You daughter is your daughter all her life\"

No matter how much unhappiness, daughter will still be daughter.
Aunt once told me, to have a daughter is to 防老...try doing that with daughter-in-law, there will be a sting for life. I will not adopt a 'I am a mother-in-law...so you listen to me' mentality. But just be cordial, in order not to put son in the middle.

Er...excuse me. Not all daughter-in-law take away their son from their mum hor.

I help my hubby take his mum for most of her medical appointments, now that she is old and has difficulty walking. I also help fetch her to and from the hospital after day surgeries. This is also one of the reasons why I do part-time work; to help hubby with all his mum's medical appointment. If not, I don't see how he can afford to take so many days' leave to look after his mum. 3 days' parental leave is not enough. As she gets older, his mum's medical problems also increase; from dementia, to frequent falls, cataract, dental and chronic pain. Each health issue requires one specialist appointment.

This, despite the fact that his mum has never bothered to remember my birthday nor buy anything for me when she went on holidays. She bought things for her son only.