How do you deal with arrogant/how lian people around you?
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auntieM:
Just wondering if you guys out there have any encounters with people that just can't stop bragging and you can't just walk away kind..... Close friends' spouses, kid's friends/classmates's parents, relatives,neighbours....etc. Sometimes, really frustrating but cannot 'siam'(avoid) leh :stupid:
I have one. This relative of mine, whenever my baby reaches a milestone(like sitting up, crawling) she will make a comment \"your baby just learns to do this huh? Mine can do it when she is only xx months\". -
[quote]I have one. This relative of mine, whenever my baby reaches a milestone(like sitting up, crawling) she will make a comment \"your baby just learns to do this huh? Mine can do it when she is only xx months\".[/quote]
Yah lor, so pek chek right! Snap back at them later say we rude, and worse still have to meet and greet one. -
yes… relative of mine brags about everything from her superb cooking (really quite good lah) and superb handling of grand kids to her superb work performance, way of handling err… everything… and about everything she owns…And she can talk non stop, unencouraged.
I usually pay attention for like 30 secs then switch off…play with DS…or try to get her to switch her attention to DS. But now that DS growing bigger he also give her the spaced out look when she yada yada away…must try that handphone idea… -
auntieM:
That's why I do not engage or start any 'friendly' chats with the parents of other kids when I pick my son up from enrichment classes or when I'm waiting outside for him.
When I can 'siam' like at enrichment centre, I put on headsets and wear sunglasses,then play with hp..... I know it is really silly but it works most of the time. Plan fails when that person stand right in front of u and signal
On Saturday, we just experienced parents gossiping about my boy. They did not notice that we were standing behind the pillar (avoiding small talk with them) and started talking so loudly about my boy. Thankfully, it's nothing bad. My maid was so worried that they'll say something bad cos she was so prepared with her umbrella to confront them!
The kids pick up this 'bragging' from their parents and they do think and behave like they are the smartest and are so 'high & mighty'. They even brag during lessons and tease other students who are slower! -
likewise I do not like to engage in smalltalk with parents of other children at my DS's former childcare, enrichment class and now primary school.
Not only to avoid the \"bragging\" but also to avoid feeling stressed. I \"kena\" a few :shock: when I told them i did not signed up my DS for this & that. Or they would asked why i chose that in their opinion \"not-so-good\" child care.
Luckily, I do not have any close relatives that brags.
Only my MIL likes to make comparison remarks between my DS and my niece. -
mango:
hope it is not a close relative that you meet regualrly.
I have one. This relative of mine, whenever my baby reaches a milestone(like sitting up, crawling) she will make a comment \"your baby just learns to do this huh? Mine can do it when she is only xx months\". -
For me, depends on my mood that day, if I feel like challenging them or just zip up my mouth. :lol: :lol:
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This is an interesting topic. Well, one possible way is if you know you will be meeting the braggart, have one of those applications ready that will call you on your hp at the time of the meeting. Then pretend that it's a really impt call and excuse yourself from the company of the braggart. Use this opportunity to quickly :siam:
Or if you have some one else who has better achievements than the braggart, use that to divert the conversation.
Hubby has an aunt whom we all detest 'cos she likes to brag about almost anything. He told me during his teenage days, she used to talk down at the her nieces and nephews cos her 2 kids (a SAF scholar and another top scorer in those elite boys school) are high achievers. it was only years later, when she had another nephew (due to huge age gap between the aunt and her sister) who qualified for an ivy league uni in US at the tender age of 13/14 (that boy is a genius, definitely more intelligent than her scholar sons) that she stopped talking down at her nephews and nieces.
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daisyt:
For me, depends on my mood that day, if I feel like challenging them or just zip up my mouth. :lol: :lol:
Me too
When I feel like saying something back I will. Or else, I will just listen lor. Some people just like a listening ear that's all. I do enjoy making friends here n there, I m the kind that likes to make small talks to other parents. Others may disagree with me on this, but we need to make an example to our kids on how to network and have good EQ. -
the moms at my dd1's ballet class really can talk but luckily, they have never approached me. i think tt even if they do, it'll be boring for them since i don't live in the same neighbourhood/hdb estate as them. anyway, my MIL has taken over ballet class duties for a long time and i don't think they approach her cos she's one generation above them.
sashimi says tt i usually appear rather anti-social so mebbe tt helps? and sashimi looks rather unfriendly even when he doesn't mean to so when he really means it, he looks worse. mebbe tt's why sometimes, i just \"sic\" sashimi on braggarts, unwelcome relatives, sales and insurance people, etc. he does his \"job\" well. :lol:
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