All About Full-Time Maids

[matrix0405]

reddiechan:

My runner maid said she worked in Malaysia for 2 years, but wrote that she worked only 3 months there in her only letter (meant to send home).

The resume is 50% fake information. Deceased husband is still alive. Runners complete 2 years employment. 32 yo is actually 22 yo. Only can believe the agency fee and salary.

[Mrs Ang]

matrix0405:

reddiechan:

My runner maid said she worked in Malaysia for 2 years, but wrote that she worked only 3 months there in her only letter (meant to send home).

The resume is 50% fake information. Deceased husband is still alive. Runners complete 2 years employment. 32 yo is actually 22 yo. Only can believe the agency fee and salary.

:yikes: :yikes:
Then we only choose based on their look and our luck? :scared:

[MizzNAH]

I choosed maid based on their look too, but luck play a very big part after that.

[vividlaurel]

Hi,


My maid just got a smartphone over the weekend (her first) and there was talk from my children yesterday to give her access to my home wi-fi.

My maid is pretty good in her work, takes initiative and looks after the children well. Although she uses her phone during the day, mainly to listen to music while working, she does not abuse the privilege.

My question now is should I give her the access to wi-fi? She’s going on leave soon and most likely the smartphone will stay back in her home country for her family. But there is a possibility that she will bring the smartphone back for her use.

Frankly, I am torn - on one side, she has proven to be reliable, so I do want to reward her with wi-fi access, but on the other hand, i do not want her to get addicted to using the internet and spend time she should be working and/or sleeping in using her phone to chat/talk/surf the net.

I would love to hear what others have done in a similar situation?

Thanks so much in advance.

[Tamama]

vividlaurel:

Hi,


My maid just got a smartphone over the weekend (her first) and there was talk from my children yesterday to give her access to my home wi-fi.

My maid is pretty good in her work, takes initiative and looks after the children well. Although she uses her phone during the day, mainly to listen to music while working, she does not abuse the privilege.

My question now is should I give her the access to wi-fi? She's going on leave soon and most likely the smartphone will stay back in her home country for her family. But there is a possibility that she will bring the smartphone back for her use.

Frankly, I am torn - on one side, she has proven to be reliable, so I do want to reward her with wi-fi access, but on the other hand, i do not want her to get addicted to using the internet and spend time she should be working and/or sleeping in using her phone to chat/talk/surf the net.

I would love to hear what others have done in a similar situation?

Thanks so much in advance.

I found no problem at all to allow my helpers (current one and previous one) to have wifi access. They just use it to chat with relatives and kids at their home town at night after they finished the daily work.
Personally I don't mind if my helper sometimes go into her room to take a look on her smart phone or check email whatever. She is still very good to keep up her work. So I don't need to say anything.
I understand sometimes when we provide privilege to our helpers and they are spoiled and start to rot. This can happen. So see how you think. For me, I am firm but not strict, accepting but not loose, flexible but not careless, approachable but not very closed, and more importantly, I respect her and I need her to respect me. I teach my kids to respect her as well.
Hope the info helps.

[chickaboom8888]

Does she ask for Wi-Fi access( seems like your children is the one who ask for it)? If she does not, then do nothing.


If she does, then it is better for you to set the ground rule. Once you grant the privilege, it is v difficult to turn back if she abuses it. Internet can be addictive as one can surf non-stop mindlessly, and wifi-access is virtually free. You have to decide depending she is the self-discipline type.

[vividlaurel]

Tamama:

I found no problem at all to allow my helpers (current one and previous one) to have wifi access. They just use it to chat with relatives and kids at their home town at night after they finished the daily work.
Personally I don't mind if my helper sometimes go into her room to take a look on her smart phone or check email whatever. She is still very good to keep up her work. So I don't need to say anything.
I understand sometimes when we provide privilege to our helpers and they are spoiled and start to rot. This can happen. So see how you think. For me, I am firm but not strict, accepting but not loose, flexible but not careless, approachable but not very closed, and more importantly, I respect her and I need her to respect me. I teach my kids to respect her as well.
Hope the info helps.

Thanks Tamama, I like your approach, will use that!

[vividlaurel]

Hi chickaboon888,


Yes, the request did come from my kids, but she also did mention that her friend asked her to check with her madam (aka me) for internet.

I think I'll just keep quiet for the moment and see if she does ask again. If she does, then yes, will have to put ground rules in place.

I guess if she abuses this privilege, then we can quietly change the password.... but then once you've tasted all that free internet access can give you, it'll be difficult to stop...

Hopefully, she does not ask me again and the phone stays back in her home when she goes on leave next week!

chickaboom8888:

Does she ask for Wi-Fi access( seems like your children is the one who ask for it)? If she does not, then do nothing.

If she does, then it is better for you to set the ground rule. Once you grant the privilege, it is v difficult to turn back if she abuses it. Internet can be addictive as one can surf non-stop mindlessly, and wifi-access is virtually free. You have to decide depending she is the self-discipline type.

[gumiho]

I am in a dilemma. :scratchhead:


My current helper (filipino) is a monster in disguise and it is a relieve for us that she is leaving us to Hong Kong at the end of the month. I had wrote a testimonial for her. I will definitely submit a copy to MOM but is hesitating whether to submit it also to HK Immigration ? My intention was to make known to her future employer of her outrageous behaviour and hoping her future employer won't ended up as a victim like us. Do you think this is necessary ?

[vividlaurel]

Hi gumiho,


My experience is 'no use'! My last helper was also horrible and she started accusing me of hurting her when i asked her to leave. That day was horrible for me, so much that I called the police just to save my back!

I wrote to MOM about the whole situation, telling them not to let her go to another family, but no use - they never even bothered to reply to my email. I followed up a couple of times and then gave up.

gumiho:

I am in a dilemma. :scratchhead:

My current helper (filipino) is a monster in disguise and it is a relieve for us that she is leaving us to Hong Kong at the end of the month. I had wrote a testimonial for her. I will definitely submit a copy to MOM but is hesitating whether to submit it also to HK Immigration ? My intention was to make known to her future employer of her outrageous behaviour and hoping her future employer won't ended up as a victim like us. Do you think this is necessary ?